The process of Rejection proceeds by many steps. To see [imperfections and impurities] clearly and acknowledge them is the first step, to have the firm will to reject them is the next, to separate yourself from them entirely so that if they enter at all it will be as foreign elements, no longer parts of your normal nature but suggestions from outside, brings their last state; even, once seen and rejected, they may automatically fall away and disappear; but for most the process takes time. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-yoga-and-vaishnavism#p65</ref>
Each step is explained in more detail below:
==Be Conscious of Yourself==
The first step is to be conscious of yourself, you must awake to your nature and movements, you must know why and how you do things or feel or think them; you must understand your motives and impulses, the forces, hidden and apparent, that move you; in fact, you must, as it were, take to pieces the entire machinery of your being. Once you are conscious, it means that you can distinguish and sift things, you can see which are the forces that pull you down and which help you on. And when you know the right from the wrong, the true from the false, the divine from the undivine, you are to act strictly up to your knowledge; that is to say, resolutely reject one and accept the other. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/7-april-1929#p11</ref>
==Refuse to Express==
If you do not accept certain movements, then naturally, when they find that they can't manifest, gradually they diminish in force and stop occurring. If you refuse to express everything that is of a lower kind, little by little the very thing disappears, and the consciousness is emptied of lower things. It is by refusing to give expression— not only in action but also in thought, in feeling. When impulses, thoughts, emotion come, if you refuse to express them, if you push them aside and remain in a state of inner aspiration and calm, then gradually they lose their force and stop coming. So the consciousness is emptied of its lower movements.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/06/22-september-1954#p17</ref>
Stand back detached from the movements of the mind, life, physical being, regard their activities as only a habitual formation of general Nature in the individual imposed on us by past workings, not as any part of our real being; in proportion as one succeeds in this, one becomes detached, sees mind and its activities as not oneself, life and its activities as not oneself, the body and its activities as not oneself, one becomes aware of an inner Being within us—inner mental, inner vital, inner physical—silent, calm, unbound, unattached which reflects the true Self above and can be its direct representative; from this inner silent Being proceeds a rejection of all that is to be rejected, an acceptance only of what can be kept and transformed, an inmost Will to perfection or a call to the Divine Power to do at each step what is necessary for the change of the Nature. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/seeking-the-divine#p4</ref>
==Process of Rejection==
Rejection often follows a process. What we reject from the mind may go to the vital, rejected by the vital, to the physical, rejected by the physical to the subconscient. Rejected from the subconscient also, it can still linger in the environmental consciousness—but there it has no longer any possession of the being and can be thrown away altogether.
==What Part of Us Rejects?==
It is also important to remember that though the defects should be noticed and rejected, the concentration should be positive—on what you are to be, i.e., on the development of the new consciousness rather than on this negative side of what to reject.
Rejection is intimately linked to surrender. If one’s surrender is truly sincere and there is this constant attitude in the being, this total self-giving to the Divine, “Thy Will be done”, in this way, one can, without knowing, without understanding, instinctively, choose the thing that should be done and reject the one that should not, but this becomes an instinct, a sort of automatic thing, if your surrender is perfect. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/06/12-may-1954</ref>
=Not Repulsion, Dislike, Hatred=