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<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p44</ref>
<center>~</center> And the supreme Love is a love without any definite object―the love which loves because it cannot do other than to love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p52</ref> <center>~</center>
Divine Love, in my view of it, is again not something ethereal, cold and far, but a love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness and rapture using all the nature for its expression. Certainly, it is without the confusions and disorders of the present lower vital nature which it will change into something entirely warm, deep and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it will lose anything that is true and happy in the elements of love.
Love cannot be cold—for there is no such thing as cold love, but the love of which the Mother speaks in that passage is something very pure, fixed and constant; it does not leap like fire and sink for want of fuel, but is steady and all-embracing and self-existent like the light of the sun.
 
There is also a divine love that is personal, but it is not like the ordinary personal human love dependent on any return from the person—it is personal but not egoistic,—it goes from the real being in the one to the real being in the other. But to find that, liberation from the ordinary human way of approach is necessary.
The Divine Love, unlike the human, is deep and vast and silent; one must become quiet and wide to be aware of it and reply to it.
<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p36,p37,p38</ref>
 
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The true divine love is above all quarrels. It is the experience of perfect union in an invariable joy and peace. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p22</ref>
 
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With the Divine's Love is the power of Transformation. It has this power because it is for the sake of Transformation that it has given itself to the world and manifested everywhere. Not only into man but into all the atoms of Matter has it infused itself in order to bring the world back to the original Truth. The moment you open to it, you receive also its power of Transformation. But it is not in terms of quantity that you can measure it—what is essential is the true contact; for you will find that the true contact with it is sufficient to fill at once the whole of your being.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/15/transformation#p31</ref>
 
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A supreme divine Love is a creative Power and, even though it can exist in itself silent and unchangeable, yet rejoices in external form and expression and is not condemned to be a speechless and bodiless godhead.It has even been said that creation itself was an act of love or at least the building up of a field in which Divine Love could devise its symbols and fulfil itself in act of mutuality and self-giving, and, if not the initial nature of creation, this may well be its ultimate object and motive. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p10</ref>
 === Psychic Love ===
The Divine's love is that which comes from above poured down from the Divine Oneness and its Ananda on the being—psychic love is a form taken by divine love in the human being according to the needs and possibilities of the human consciousness. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p11</ref>
 
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When the psychic loves it loves with the Divine Love.
<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p57,p58,p59</ref>
<center>~</center> ...there is in the highest or deepest kind of love the psychic element, which comes from the innermost heart and soul, a kind of inner union or self-giving or at least a seeking for that, a tie or an urge independent of other conditions or elements, existing for its own sake and not for any mental, vital or physical pleasure, satisfaction, interest or habit. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p28</ref> <center>~</center> Psychic love is quite satisfying, and it can change even the vital love into something great and beautiful.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p28p15</ref> <center>~</center>
Psychic A psychic love towards all is also emerging; this love is quite satisfying, a thing inward and it can change even does not seek to express itself outwardly like the vital love into something great which men usually have. The psychic and spiritual attitude is also not dependent on the good and bad in beings, but is self-existent regarding them as souls who carry the Divine in them however thickly concealed and beautifulare children of the Mother.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2930/divinethe-loveemergence-or-psychiccoming-loveforward-andof-humanthe-lovepsychic#p15p14</ref>
A psychic love towards all is also emerging; this love is a thing inward and does not seek to express itself outwardly like the vital love which men usually have. The psychic and spiritual attitude is also not dependent on the good and bad in beings, but is self-existent regarding them as souls who carry the Divine in them however thickly concealed and are children of the Mother.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/30/the-emergence-or-coming-forward-of-the-psychic#p14~</refcenter>
Psychic love can have a warmth and a flame as intense and more intense than the vital, only it is a pure fire, not dependent on the satisfaction of ego-desire or on the eating up of the fuel it embraces. It is a white flame, not a red one; but white heat is not inferior to the red variety in its ardour. It is true that the psychic love does not usually get its full play in human relations and human nature, it finds the fullness of its fire and ecstasy more easily when it is lifted towards the Divine. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/sabcl/23/human-relationships-in-yoga-i#p45</ref>
<center>~</center> If love is psychic in its nature, it always brings a sense of oneness or at least of an inner intimate closeness of being. The Divine Love is based upon oneness and the psychic derives from the Divine Love.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p12</ref> <center>~</center> The psychic love is pure and full of self-giving without egoistic demand, but it is human and can err and suffer. The Divine Love is something much vaster and deeper and full of light and ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13</ref>
The psychic love is pure and full of self-giving without egoistic demand, but it is human and can err and suffer. The Divine Love is something much vaster and deeper and full of light and ananda.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13</ref>
===Universal Love===
Universal love is the spiritual founded on the sense of the One and the Divine everywhere and the change of the personal into a wide universal consciousness, free from attachment and ignorance.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p43</ref>
<center>~</center> As with individual, so with universal Love; all that widening of the self through sympathy, goodwill, universal benevolence and beneficence, love of mankind, love of creatures, the attraction of all the myriad forms and presences that surround us, by which mentally and emotionally man escapes from the first limits of his ego, has to be taken up into a unifying divine love for the universal Divine. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p5</ref> <center>~</center>
The ''dynamic'' Love cannot go out equally to all—that would create a chaotic disturbance because of the unpreparedness of the majority. It is only the static immutable universal Love that can apply equally to all—that which comes in a still wideness of the heart which corresponds with the still wideness of the mind in which there is the equanimity and infinite peace.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/sabcl/23/sadhana-through-love-and-devotion-i#p53</ref>
 
===Supramental Love===
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-yoga-and-vaishnavism#p37</ref>
== Human Love ==
== Human Love ==Once you have come in contact with this large, pure and true Divine love, if you have felt it even for a short time and in its smallest form, you will realise what an abject thing human desire has made of it. It has become in human nature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is something weak and sentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, superficial, exacting. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love! <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p7</ref> <center>~</center>
Once you have come Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in contact its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with this large, pure and true the Divine love, if you have felt it even for a short time seeking absolute and regardless of all other things. Love divine gives itself and in its smallest form, you will realise what an abject thing asks for nothing. What human desire has beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. It has become And yet even in human nature beings the first contact of love does bring down something lowof its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it for a moment its divine touch awakens and magnifies all that is something weak fine and sentimentalbeautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, made up full of the pettiest feelingits impure demands, brittleasking for something in exchange, superficialbartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, exactingdistorting and soiling what was divine. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love!<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/0305/219-juneaugust-19291953#p7p21</ref>
Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the Divine, a seeking absolute and regardless of all other things. Love divine gives itself and asks for nothing. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine.<refcenter>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/05/19-august-1953#p21~</refcenter>
Human love is nothing but divine love perverted and distorted by the instrument through which it is expressed. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-534#p4</ref>
 
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Human love is made up of emotion, passion and desire,—all of them vital movements, therefore bound to the disabilities of the human vital nature. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p39</ref>
<center>~</center> Human love is mostly vital and physical with a mental support—it can take an unselfish, noble and pure form and expression only if it is touched by the psychic. It is true, as you say, that it is more usually a mixture of ignorance, attachment, passion and desire. But whatever it may be, one who wishes to reach the Divine must not burden himself with human loves and attachments, for they form so many fetters and hamper his steps, turning him away besides from the concentration of his emotions on the one supreme object of love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p41</ref> 
=== Physical Love ===
There may too be a physical love, the attraction of beauty, the physical sex-appeal or anything else of the kind awakening the emotions of the heart. If that does not happen, then the physical need is all and that is sheer lust, nothing more. But physical love is possible.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p31</ref> 
===Mental Love===
In the same way there can be a mental love. It arises from the attempt to find one's ideal in another or from some strong mental passion of admiration and wonder or from the mind's seeking for a comrade, a complement and fulfiller of one's nature, a ''sahadharmī'', a guide and helper, a leader and master or from a hundred other mental motives. By itself that does not amount to love, though often it is so ardent as to be hardly distinguishable from it and may even push to sacrifice of life, entire self-giving etc. etc. But when it awakes the emotions of the heart, then it may lead to a very powerful love which is yet mental in its root and dominant character.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p32</ref>
 
===Vital Love===
There are in the vital itself two kinds of love,—one full of joy and confidence and abandon, generous, unbargaining, ungrudging and very absolute in its dedication and this is akin to the psychic and well-fitted to be its complement and a means of expression of the divine love…
 
But there is another way of vital love which is more usually the way of human nature and that is a way of ego and desire. It is full of vital craving, desire and demand; its continuance depends upon the satisfaction of its demands; if it does not get what it craves, or even imagines that it is not being treated as it deserves—for it is full of imaginations, misunderstandings, jealousies, misinterpretations—it at once turns to sorrow, wounded feeling, revolt, pride, anger, all kinds of disorder, finally cessation and departure…Love should be a flowering of joy and union and confidence and self-giving and Ananda,—but this lower vital way is only a source of suffering, trouble, disappointment, disillusion and disunion. Even a slight element of it shakes the foundations of peace and replaces the movement towards Ananda by a fall towards sorrow, discontent and Nirananda. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p32,p33</ref>
 
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There is a vital love, a physical love. It is possible for the vital to desire a woman for various vital reasons without love—in order to satisfy the instinct of domination or possession, in order to draw in the vital forces of a woman so as to feed one's own vital or for the exchange of vital forces, to satisfy vanity, the hunter's instinct of the chase etc. etc.This is often called love, but it is only vital desire, a kind of lust. If however the emotions of the heart are awakened, then it becomes vital love, a mixed affair with any or all of these vital motives strong, but still vital love.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p30</ref>
 
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Vital emotions are of an altogether different nature—they are very clear, very precise, you can express them very distinctly; they are violent, they usually fill you with an intensity, a restlessness, sometimes a great satisfaction. some people imagine they experience love only when it is like that, when love is in the vital, when it comes with all the movements of the vital, all this intensity, this violence, this precision, this glamour, this brightness. And when that is absent, they say, "Oh, this is not love."
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/15/30-january-1951#p31</ref>
 
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When the vital joins in the love for the Divine, it brings into it heroism, enthusiasm, intensity, absoluteness, exclusiveness, the spirit of self-sacrifice, the total and passionate self-giving of all the nature. It is the vital passion for the Divine that creates the spiritual heroes, conquerors or martyrs.
I have never said that the vital is to have no part in the love for the Divine, only that it must purify and ennoble itself in the light of the psychic being. The results of self-loving love between human beings are so poor and contrary in the end—that is what I mean by the ordinary vital love—that I want something purer and nobler and higher in the vital also for the movement towards the Divine.
<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p50,p51</ref>
 
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The love in the vital or other parts is the true thing, good for the spiritual life, only when in the vital love is changed into a form of the psychic love and becomes an instrument for the transformation of the soul's love, no longer for the desires of the ego which men call love.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/human-relations-and-the-spiritual-life#p54</ref>
 
==Misapprehensions Related to Love==
It has become human nature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is something weak and sentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, superficial, exacting. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love!<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p7</ref>
<center>~</center> As for love, the love must be turned singly towards the Divine. What men call by that name is a vital interchange for mutual satisfaction of desire, vital impulse or physical pleasure.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/sabcl/24/transformation-of-the-vital-x#p31</ref> <center>~</center>
All these "feelings"—what to call them?—have a mode of vibration, with something very essential at the core, and covering layers, as it were. And the most central vibration is the same, and as it expands to express itself, it becomes distorted. With love, it is quite obvious; it becomes, outwardly, in the vast majority of cases, something whose nature is quite different from the inner vibration, because it is something that withdraws into itself, shrivels up and wants to draw things towards itself in an egoistic movement of possession. You ''want'' to be loved. You say, "I love that person," but at the same time there is what you want; the feeling is lived as, "I want to be loved." And so this distortion is almost as great as the distortion of hatred which consists in wanting to destroy what you love in order not to be bound by it.Because you cannot obtain what you want from the object of your love, you want to destroy it in order to become free; in the other case, you shrivel up almost in an inner rage, because you cannot obtain, you cannot absorb what you love.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-113-114#p5</ref> [Based on Aphorisms - 113—Hatred is the sign of a secret attraction that is eager to flee from itself and furious to deny its own existence. That too is God's play in His creature.
114—Selfishness is the only sin, meanness the only vice, hatred the only criminality. All else can easily be turned into good, but these are obstinate resisters of deity.]
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-113-114#p5</ref>
 
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Certainly, one has the right to love and true love carries in itself its joy, but unfortunately human beings are egoistic and immediately mix with their love the ''desire to be loved'' in return, and this desire is contrary to spiritual truth and the cause of passions and sufferings.
The essential difference between love in aspiration and love in desire is that love in aspiration gives itself entirely and asks nothing in return—it does not claim anything; whereas love in desire gives itself as little as possible, asks as much as possible, it pulls things to itself and always makes demands.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/04/22-february-1951#p21</ref>
 
=== Difference between Vital Desire and Psychic Love===
Psychic love never bargains—but the vital always tries to derive some benefit for itself in all circumstances. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/17/26-june-1935#p4</ref>
 
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-113-114#p5</ref>
Psychic love is always peaceful and joyous; it is the vital which dramatizes and makes itself unhappy without any reason. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p16</ref>
 
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-113-114#p5</ref>
It is difficult to define its [''psychic love's''] limits or to recognise it. For even when there is the psychic love for another person, it gets in the human being so mixed up with the vital that it is the commonest thing to justify a vital love by claiming for it a psychic character. One could say that psychic love is distinguished by an essential purity and selflessness—but the vital can put on a very brilliant imitation of that character, when it likes.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/human-relations-and-the-spiritual-life#p58</ref>
 
==Love and Sex==
Nature took up this sublime force of love and put it at the service of her creative work by linking and mixing it with her movement of procreation. This association has even become so close, so intimate, that very few human beings are illumined enough in their consciousness to be able to dissociate these movements from each other and experience them separately. In this way, love has suffered every degradation, it has been debased to the level of the beast.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/12/the-four-austerities-and-the-four-liberations#p72</ref>
All movements are in the mass movements of Nature's cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The individual receives something of them, a wave or pressure of some cosmic force, and is driven by it; he thinks it is his own, generated in himself separately, but it is not so, it is part of a general movement which works just in the same way in others. Sex, for instance, is a movement of general Nature seeking for its play and it uses this or that one—a man vitally or physically "in love" as it is called with a woman is simply repeating and satisfying the world-movement of sex, if it had not been that woman, it would have been another; he is simply an instrument in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement. So it is with anger and other Nature-motives.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3110/sexaphorism-113-114#p5</ref>
All movements are in the mass movements of Nature's cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The individual receives something of them, a wave or pressure of some cosmic force, and is driven by it; he thinks it is his own, generated in himself separately, but it is not so, it is part of a general movement which works just in the same way in others. Sex, for instance, is a movement of general Nature seeking for its play and it uses this or that one—a man vitally or physically "in love" as it is called with a woman is simply repeating and satisfying the world-movement of sex, if it had not been that woman, it would have been another; he is simply an instrument in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement. So it is with anger and other Nature-motives. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p5</ref> <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-113-114#p5</ref> It is not that it is not possible to keep the love pure, but the two things [''love and sex-desire''] are so near each other and have been so much twined together in the animal beginnings of the race that it is not easy to keep them altogether separate. In the pure psychic love there is no trace of the sex-desire, but usually the vital affection gets very strongly associated with the psychic which is then mixed though still not sexual; but the vital affection and the vital physical sex-emotion are entirely close to each other, so that at any moment or in any given case one may awake the other. This becomes very strong when the sex-force is strong in an individual as it is in most vitally energetic people. To increase always the force of the psychic, to control the sex-impulse and turn it into the ''ojas'', to turn the love towards the Divine are the true remedies for this difficulty. Seminal force not sexually spent can always be turned into ''ojas''.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p21</ref> <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-113-114#p5</ref>
When the psychic puts its influence on the vital, the first thing you must be careful to avoid is any least mixture of a wrong vital movement with the psychic movement. Lust is the perversion or degradation which prevents love from establishing its reign; so when there is the movement of psychic love in the heart, lust or vital desire is the one thing that must not be allowed to come in—just as when strength comes down from above, personal ambition and pride have to be kept far away from it; for any mixture of the perversion will corrupt the psychic or spiritual action and prevent a true fulfilment.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p22</ref>
What is real love? Get clear of all the sentimental sexual turmoil and go back to the soul,—then there is real love. It is then also you would be able to receive the overwhelming love without getting the lower being into an excitement which might be disastrous.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3110/sexaphorism-113-114#p24p5</ref> 
What is real love? Get clear of all the sentimental sexual turmoil and go back to the soul,—then there is real love. It is then also you would be able to receive the overwhelming love without getting the lower being into an excitement which might be disastrous. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p24</ref>
=Why is Love Essential?=