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=What is Love? =
Love is like a flame that changes what is hard into something malleable and even sublimates this malleable thing into a kind of purified vapour—it does not destroy, it transforms. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.Love dwells in/cwm/10/aphorism-49#p11</ref>us like an unopened flower
Awaiting a rapid moment of the soul, Or he roams in his charmed sleep mid thoughts and things; The child-god is at play, he seeks himself In many hearts and minds and living forms: He lingers for a sign that he can know And, when it comes, wakes blindly to a voice, A look, a touch, the meaning of a face. <centerref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/34/satyavan#p51</ref>~</center> = What is Love? =
Love is one of the great universal forces; it exists by itself and its movement is free and independent of the objects in which and through which it manifests.What you call love and think of as a personal or individual thing is only your capacity to receive force and manifest this universal forcean action.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0314/2divine-june-1929love#p2p30</ref>
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Love is one of the great universal and eternalforces; it is always manifesting exists by itself and always identical in its essence. Love does not manifest movement is free and independent of the objects in human beings alone; which and through which it manifests. What you call love and think of as a personal or individual thing is everywhereonly your capacity to receive and manifest this universal force. Its movement But because it is there in plantsuniversal, perhaps in the very stonesit is not therefore an unconscious force; in the animals it is easy to detect its presencea supremely conscious Power. Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger Consciously it seeks for possession, no self-regarding attachmentits manifestation and realisation upon earth; consciously it ischooses its instruments, awakens to its vibrations those who are capable of an answer, endeavours to realise in them that which is its pure movementeternal aim, and when the seeking for union of the self with the Divineinstrument is not fit, a seeking absolute drops it and regardless of all other thingsturns to look for others. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; Men think that they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even suddenly fallen in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens see their love come and magnifies all that is fine grow and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human naturethen it fades—or, full of its impure demandsit may be, asking for something endures a little longer in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring some who are more specially fitted for its more lasting movement. But their sense in this of a personal experience all their own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divinean illusion. It was a wave from the everlasting sea of universal love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p3p2</ref>
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When Consciousness separated from Love is universal and eternal; it is always manifesting itself and always identical in its Origin and became Inconscienceessence. Love does not manifest in human beings alone; it is everywhere. Its movement is there in plants, perhaps in the very stones; in the Origin emanated animals it is easy to detect its presence. Love to reawaken Consciousness from , the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in its pure movement, the depths seeking for union of the Inconscience self with the Divine, a seeking absolute and bring regardless of all other things. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it back into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch with awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its Originown inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1403/divine2-june-love1929#p20p3</ref> ==Nature of Love==
<center>~</center>Love is like a flame that changes what is hard into something malleable and even sublimates this malleable thing into a kind of purified vapour—it does not destroy, it transforms.
The material world In its essence, in its darkness and ignorance had forgotten the Divineorigin, love is like a flame, a white flame which overcomes ''all'' resistance. Love came into You can experience this yourself: whatever the darkness; it awakened all that lay there asleep; it whispereddifficulty in your being, opening whatever the ears that were sealed: 'There is something worth waking toburden of accumulated error, worth living forignorance, incapacity and it is love!bad will, a single ''second'' And with the awakening to love there entered into the world the possibility of coming back to the Divine. The creation moves upward through this pure, essential, supreme love towards the Divine dissolves it as in an all-powerful flame; a single moment and a whole past can disappear; a single instant in answer there leans downward to meet the creation the Divine Love which you ''touch'' it in its essence and Grace. <ref>http://incarnateworda whole burden is consumed.in/cwm/05/26-august-1953#p1</ref> <center>~</center>
It has even been said that creation itself was an act of [Based on Aphorism 49- To feel and love or at least the building up God of a field in which Divine Love could devise its symbols beauty and fulfil itself good in act of mutuality the ugly and self-givingthe evil, and, if not the initial nature still yearn in utter love to heal it of creationits ugliness and its evil, this may well be its ultimate object is real virtue and motivemorality. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2310/the-ascent-of-theaphorism-sacrifice-ii49#p10p11,p12</ref>
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...it is the joy of identity. Something must be there already which can become conscious of the identity, and that precisely is love. Then comes the manifestation of love. And in its supreme form, that is, when it returns to its source crossing all the phases of its manifestation, it becomes the bliss of union. For the feeling of union comes as a consequence of the feeling of separation. The higher Consciousness passage through the whole manifested universe gives the feeling of separation from the Origin; and the return to the Origin is a state the bliss of pure love but union, that is, the two things that were separated are united once again. And it is still Love; it is also a state Love after the great circuit of pure openness the manifestation. When it returns to divine knowledgeits Origin, it becomes the bliss of union.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1605/1926-octoberaugust-19391953#p3p6,p7</ref>
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Love is a supreme force which in its nature the Eternal Consciousness sent down from itself into an obscure desire to give oneself to others and darkened world that to receive others in exchange; it might bring back that world is a commerce between being and its beings being. Physical life does not desire to give itself, it desires only to the Divinereceive. Love came into the darkness; it awakened all It is true that lay there asleep; it whisperedis compelled to give itself, opening for the ears that were sealedlife which only receives and does not give must become barren, wither and perish, "There —if indeed such life in its entirety is something that possible at all here or in any world; but it is worth waking tocompelled, worth living fornot willing, and it is obeys the subconscious impulse of Nature rather than consciously shares in it. Even when love!" This human movement intervenes, the self-giving at first still preserves to a large extent the mechanical character of love is secretly seeking the subconscious will in the atom. Love itself at first obeys the law of hunger and enjoys the receiving and the exacting from others rather than the giving and surrendering to others which it admits chiefly as a necessary price for something else than what the thing that it desires. But here it has not yet foundattained to its true nature; its true law is to establish an equal commerce in which the joy of giving is equal to the joy of receiving and tends in the end to become even greater; but that is when it is shooting beyond itself under the pressure of the psychic flame to attain to the fulfilment of utter unity and has therefore to realise that which seemed to it does not know where -self as an even greater and dearer self than its own individuality. In its life-origin, the law of love is the impulse to find itrealise and fulfil oneself in others and by others, to be enriched by enriching, it to possess and be possessed because without being possessed one does not even know what it ispossess oneself utterly. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0321/2the-juneascent-of-1929life#p11p9</ref>
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The lover of Nature does this when he takes joy gnostic life will exist and act for the Divine in itself and in the world, for the Divine in all ; the things increasing possession of Nature universally without admitting repulsion or fear or mere liking the individual being and dislikingthe world by the Divine Presence, perceiving beauty Light, Power, Love, Delight, Beauty will be the sense of life to the gnostic being. In the more and more perfect satisfaction of that growing manifestation will be the individual's satisfaction: his power will be the instrumentation of the power of Supernature for bringing in and extending that which seems to others mean greater life and nature; whatever conquest and insignificantadventure will be there, bare will be for that only and savagenot for the reign of any individual or collective ego. Love will be for him the contact, meeting, union of self with self, terrible of spirit with spirit, a unification of being, a power and repellent. The artist joy and intimacy and closeness of soul to soul, of the poet do it when they seek One to the rasa One, a joy of identity and the universal from consequences of a diverse identity. It is this joy of an intimate self-revealing diversity of the aesthetic emotion or from One, the physical line or from the mental form multitudinous union of beauty or from the inner sense One and power alike of a happy interaction in the identity, that from which will be for him the ordinary man turns away and of that to which he is attached by a full revealed sense of pleasurelife. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2122/the-double-soul-ingnostic-manbeing#p9p21</ref> ==Origin of Love==
Love will be for him the contact, meeting, union of self with self, of spirit with spirit, a unification of being, a power and joy and intimacy and closeness of soul to soul, of the One to the One, a joy of identity and the consequences of a diverse identity''Q.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/22/the-gnostic-being#p21</ref>Where does love come from?''
<center>~</center>''A.'' Where does love come from? From the Origin of the universe.
Nature took up this sublime ...I say that love is a supreme force of love and put which the Eternal Consciousness has emanated in order to send it at into the service of her creative work by linking and mixing it with her movement of procreationworld. Love comes from that. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1205/the-four-austerities-and-the26-fouraugust-liberations1953#p72p3,p4,p5</ref>
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In its essence, The material world in its origin, love is like a flame, a white flame which overcomes all resistancedarkness and ignorance had forgotten the Divine. You can experience this yourself: whatever Love came into the difficulty in your beingdarkness; it awakened all that lay there asleep; it whispered, whatever opening the burden of accumulated errorears that were sealed: 'There is something worth waking to, ignoranceworth living for, incapacity and bad will, a single second of this pure, essential, supreme love dissolves it as in an all-powerful flame; a single moment and a whole past can disappear; a single instant in which you touch it in its essence and a whole burden is consumed. [Based on Aphorism 49- To feel and love !' And with the awakening to love there entered into the world the God possibility of beauty and good in coming back to the ugly and Divine. The creation moves upward through love towards the evil, Divine and still yearn in utter love answer there leans downward to heal it of its ugliness meet the creation the Divine Love and its evil, this is real virtue and moralityGrace.]<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1005/aphorism26-augusft-491953#p12p1</ref>
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When Consciousness separated from its Origin and became Inconscience, the Origin emanated Love to reawaken Consciousness from the depths of the Inconscience and bring it back into touch with its Origin. It may be said that at its origin love is for the facility supreme power of attraction which awakens, in response, the irresistible need of an absolute self-giving; they are the two poles of the language urge towards complete fusion.No other movement could, better and more surely than this, throw a bridge across the abyss dug by the sense of separation that you say comes from the love formation of the individual. It was necessary to bring back to itself what had been projected into space without destroying for this one or that onepurpose the universe created thus.That is why love sprang up, but it is all the same one Love manifested through different channelsirresistible power of union. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p58p21,p22,p23</ref>
=Types of Love=
 
==Divine Love==
The Divine Love love is of two kinds—the Divine love for the creation and the essence souls that are part of Truth itself and cannot be affected by human confusionsthe love of the seeker and love for the Divine Beloved; it has both a personal and impersonal element, but the personal is free here from all lower elements or bondage to the vital and physical instincts. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13p44</ref>
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Divine And the supreme Love is not an emotion,—a very different thing a love without any definite object―the love which loves because it cannot do other than to saylove. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2914/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p39p52</ref>
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Divine Love, in my view of it, is again not something ethereal, cold and far, but a love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness and rapture using all the nature for its expression...there Certainly, it is without the confusions and disorders of the present lower vital nature which it will change into something entirely warm, deep and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it will lose anything that is true and happy in the highest or deepest kind elements of love . Love cannot be cold—for there is no such thing as cold love, but the psychic element, love of which comes from the innermost heart Mother speaks in that passage is something very pure, fixed and soulconstant; it does not leap like fire and sink for want of fuel, a kind of inner union or but is steady and all-embracing and self-giving or at least existent like the light of the sun.  There is also a seeking for divine love thatis personal, a tie or an urge independent of other conditions or elements, existing for its own sake and but it is not for like the ordinary personal human love dependent on any mentalreturn from the person—it is personal but not egoistic, vital or physical pleasure—it goes from the real being in the one to the real being in the other. But to find that, liberation from the ordinary human way of approach is necessary. The Divine Love, satisfactionunlike the human, interest or habitis deep and vast and silent; one must become quiet and wide to be aware of it and reply to it. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p28p36,p37,p38</ref>
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Divine Love, in my view of it, The true divine love is again not something ethereal, cold and far, but a love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness and rapture using above all the nature for its expressionquarrels. Certainly, it It is without the confusions and disorders experience of the present lower vital nature which it will change into something entirely warm, deep perfect union in an invariable joy and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it will lose anything that is true and happy peace. <ref>http://incarnateword.in the elements of love./cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p22</ref>
<center>~</center> With the Divine's Love cannot be cold—for there is no such thing as cold love, the power of Transformation. It has this power because it is for the sake of Transformation that it has given itself to the world and manifested everywhere. Not only into man but into all the love atoms of which Matter has it infused itself in order to bring the Mother speaks world back to the original Truth. The moment you open to it, you receive also its power of Transformation. But it is not in terms of quantity that passage you can measure it—what is something very pure, fixed and constantessential is the true contact; for you will find that the true contact with it does not leap like fire and sink for want of fuel, but is steady and all-embracing and self-existent like sufficient to fill at once the light whole of the sunyour being. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2915/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovetransformation#p37p31</ref>
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There A supreme divine Love is also a divine love that is personalcreative Power and, but even though it can exist in itself silent and unchangeable, yet rejoices in external form and expression and is not like the ordinary personal human condemned to be a speechless and bodiless godhead.It has even been said that creation itself was an act of love dependent on any return from or at least the person—it is personal but building up of a field in which Divine Love could devise its symbols and fulfil itself in act of mutuality and self-giving, and, if not egoisticthe initial nature of creation,—it goes this may well be its ultimate object and motive. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p10</ref> ===Psychic Love=== The Divine's love is that which comes from above poured down from the real being Divine Oneness and its Ananda on the being—psychic love is a form taken by divine love in the one human being according to the real being in needs and possibilities of the other. But to find that, liberation from the ordinary human way of approach is necessaryconsciousness. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p37p11</ref>
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The soul's turning through When the psychic loves it loves with the Divine Love. When you love, you love to with the Divine must be through a 's love that is essentially divinediminished and distorted by your ego, but as an instrument of expression at first is human nature, it takes in its essence still the forms of human Divine's love and bhakti.  It is only as for the consciousness deepens, heightens and changes facility of the language that you say the love of this one or that greater eternal love can grow in one, but it and openly transform is all the human into the divinesame one Love manifested through different channels. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2914/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p32p57,p58,p59</ref>
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When the love goes towards the Divine, ...there is still this ordinary human element in it. There is the call for a return and if the return does not seem to come, the highest or deepest kind of love may sink; there is the self-interestpsychic element, which comes from the demand for the Divine as a giver of all that the human being wants innermost heart andsoul, if the demands are not acceded to, abhimana against the Divine, loss of faith, loss of fervour. Etc. etc. But the true love for the Divine is in its fundamental nature not of this a kind, but psychic and spiritual. The psychic element is the need of the inmost being for inner union or self-givingor at least a seeking for that, love, adorationa tie or an urge independent of other conditions or elements, union which can only be fully satisfied by the Divine. The spiritual element is the need of the being existing for contact, merging, union with its own highest sake and whole self and source of being and consciousness and bliss, the Divine. These two are two sides of the same thing. The mindnot for any mental, vitalor physical pleasure, physical can be the supports and recipients of this lovesatisfaction, but they can be fully that only when they become remoulded into harmony with the psychic and spiritual elements of the being and no longer bring in the lower insistences of the egointerest or habit. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p29p28</ref>
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The true divine Psychic love is above all quarrels. It is quite satisfying, and it can change even the experience of perfect union in an invariable joy vital love into something great and peacebeautiful.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1629/lettersdivine-love-topsychic-alove-youngand-sadhakhuman-ivlove#p22p15</ref>
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Krishna with Radha A psychic love towards all is also emerging; this love is a thing inward and does not seek to express itself outwardly like the symbol of the Divine Lovevital love which men usually have. The flute psychic and spiritual attitude is also not dependent on the call of good and bad in beings, but is self-existent regarding them as souls who carry the Divine Love; in them however thickly concealed and are children of the peacock is victoryMother. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/30/godsthe-emergence-goddessesor-andcoming-forward-semiof-divinethe-beingspsychic#p13p14</ref>
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When you reach Psychic love can have a warmth and a flame as intense and more intense than the vital, only it is a pure fire, not dependent on the contact with satisfaction of ego-desire or on the eating up of the fuel it embraces. It is a white flame, not a red one; but white heat is not inferior to the red variety in its ardour. It is true that the Divine's love you see this psychic love does not usually get its full play in everything human relations and human nature, it finds the fullness of its fire and all circumstancesecstasy more easily when it is lifted towards the Divine.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmsabcl/1423/divinehuman-loverelationships-in-yoga-i#p3p45</ref>
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The Divine has an equal If love for all human beingsis psychic in its nature, but the obscurity it always brings a sense of oneness or at least of consciousness an inner intimate closeness of most men prevents them being. The Divine Love is based upon oneness and the psychic derives from perceiving this divine lovethe Divine Love. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p30p12</ref>
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To The psychic love truly is pure and full of self-giving without egoistic demand, but it is human and can err and suffer. The Divine Love is something much vaster and deeper and full of light and ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13</ref> ===Universal Love=== Universal love is the spiritual founded on the sense of the One and the Divineeverywhere and the change of the personal into a wide universal consciousness, we must rise above attachmentsfree from attachment and ignorance. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-forpsychic-thelove-and-human-divinelove#p24p43</ref>
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Divine As with individual, so with universal Love can overcome ; all that widening of the evil self through sympathy, goodwill, universal benevolence and cruel―the tiger does not attack beneficence, love of mankind, love of creatures, the attraction of all the yogimyriad forms and presences that surround us, by which mentally and emotionally man escapes from the first limits of his ego, has to be taken up into a unifying divine love for the universal Divine. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1423/generalthe-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-1ii#p7p5</ref>
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With the Divine's Love is the power of Transformation. It has this power because it is for the sake of Transformation that it has given itself to the world and manifested everywhere. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/15/transformation#p31</ref>
If The ''dynamic'' Love cannot go out equally to all—that would create a chaotic disturbance because of the unpreparedness of the majority. It is only the spirit static immutable universal Love that can apply equally to all—that which comes in a still wideness of divine the heart which corresponds with the still wideness of the mind in which there is the equanimity and infinite peace.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/sabcl/23/sadhana-through-love can enter-and-devotion-i#p53</ref> ===Supramental Love=== The supramental love means an intense unity of soul with soul, mind with mind, life with life, and an entire flooding of the body consciousness with the physical experience of oneness, the hardness presence of the way diminishesBeloved in every part, in every cell of the tension is lightenedbody. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-yoga-and-vaishnavism#p37</ref> == Human Love == Once you have come in contact with this large, pure and true Divine love, there is if you have felt it even for a sweetness short time and joy even in the core its smallest form, you will realise what an abject thing human desire has made of difficulty it. It has become in human nature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is something weak and strugglesentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, superficial, exacting. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love! <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0803/82-augustjune-19561929#p10p7</ref>
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There is only one true love—it Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is , in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the Divine Love; , a seeking absolute and regardless of all other loves are diminutionsthings. Love divine gives itself and asks for nothing. What human beings have made of it, limitations we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and deformations of that Loverepulsive thing. Even And yet even in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of the bhakta its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for his God is a diminution moment its divine touch awakens and often magnifies all that is tainted by egoismfine and beautiful. But as one tends quite naturally afterwards there comes to become like what one lovesthe surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, the bhaktaasking for something in exchange, if he is sincerebartering what it gives, begins to become like the Divine whom he adoresclamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and thus his love becomes purer and purersoiling what was divine.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1605/1019-juneaugust-19641953#p2p21</ref>
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As supramental Truth Human love is not merely a sublimation of our mental ideas, so Divine Love is not merely a sublimation of human emotions; nothing but divine love perverted and distorted by the instrument through which it is a different consciousness, with a different quality, movement and substanceexpressed. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2910/divine-love-psychic-love-and-humanaphorism-love534#p40p4</ref>
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The Divine's Human love is that which comes from above poured down from the Divine Oneness made up of emotion, passion and its Ananda on the being—psychic love is a form taken by divine love in the human being according desire,—all of them vital movements, therefore bound to the needs and possibilities disabilities of the human consciousnessvital nature. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p11p39</ref>
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Divine Love, in my view of it, Human love is again not something ethereal, cold mostly vital and far, but physical with a love absolutely intensemental support—it can take an unselfish, intimate noble and full of unity, closeness pure form and rapture using all expression only if it is touched by the nature for its expressionpsychic. CertainlyIt is true, as you say, that it is without the confusions more usually a mixture of ignorance, attachment, passion and disorders of the present lower vital nature which desire. But whatever it will change into something entirely warmmay be, deep one who wishes to reach the Divine must not burden himself with human loves and intense; but that is no reason attachments, for supposing that it will lose anything that is true they form so many fetters and happy in hamper his steps, turning him away besides from the concentration of his emotions on the elements one supreme object of love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p36p41</ref>
<center>~</center>=== Physical Love ===
Divine There may too be a physical love is , the attraction of two kinds—the Divine love for beauty, the creation and physical sex-appeal or anything else of the souls that are part of itself and kind awakening the love emotions of the seeker and love for the Divine Beloved; it has both a personal and impersonal elementheart. If that does not happen, but then the personal physical need is free here from all lower elements or bondage to the vital and that is sheer lust, nothing more. But physical instinctslove is possible. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p44p31</ref>
=== True Mental Love ===
The true In the same way there can be a mental love . It arises from the attempt to find one's ideal in another or from some strong mental passion of admiration and wonder or from the mind's seeking for the Divine is self-givinga comrade, free a complement and fulfiller of demandone's nature, a ''sahadharmī'', a guide and helper, full of submission a leader and surrendermaster or from a hundred other mental motives. It makes no claimBy itself that does not amount to love, imposes no conditionthough often it is so ardent as to be hardly distinguishable from it and may even push to sacrifice of life, strikes no bargainentire self-giving etc. etc. But when it awakes the emotions of the heart, indulges in no violence of jealousy or pride or anger―for these things are not then it may lead to a very powerful love which is yet mental in its compositionroot and dominant character. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1431/love-for-the-divinesex#p20p32</ref>
<center>~</center> True love, that which fulfils and illumines, is not the love one receives but the love one gives.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p51</ref>===Vital Love===
<center>~</center>There are in the vital itself two kinds of love,—one full of joy and confidence and abandon, generous, unbargaining, ungrudging and very absolute in its dedication and this is akin to the psychic and well-fitted to be its complement and a means of expression of the divine love…
The true But there is another way of vital love for which is more usually the Divine way of human nature and that is a self-giving, free way of demand, ego and desire. It is full of submission vital craving, desire and surrenderdemand; its continuance depends upon the satisfaction of its demands; if it makes no claimdoes not get what it craves, or even imagines that it is not being treated as it deserves—for it is full of imaginations, imposes no conditionmisunderstandings, strikes no bargainjealousies, indulges in no violences of jealousy or pride or anger—for these things are not in its composition. In return the Divine Mother also gives herselfmisinterpretations—it at once turns to sorrow, but freely—and this represents itself in an inner giving—her presence in your mindwounded feeling, your vitalrevolt, your physical consciousnesspride, her power re-creating you in the divine natureanger, taking up all the movements kinds of disorder, finally cessation and departure. …Love should be a flowering of your being joy and union and confidence and directing them towards perfection self-giving and fulfilmentAnanda,—but this lower vital way is only a source of suffering, trouble, disappointment, her love enveloping you disillusion and carrying you in its arms Godwardsdisunion. It is this that you must aspire to feel Even a slight element of it shakes the foundations of peace and possess in all your parts down to replaces the very materialmovement towards Ananda by a fall towards sorrow, discontent and here there is no limitation either of time or of completenessNirananda. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p24p32,p33</ref>
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True There is a vital love , a physical love. It is something very deep and calm possible for the vital to desire a woman for various vital reasons without love—in order to satisfy the instinct of domination or possession, in its intensity; order to draw in the vital forces of a woman so as to feed one's own vital or for the exchange of vital forces, to satisfy vanity, the hunter's instinct of the chase etc. etc.This is often called love, but it may quite well not manifest itself in is only vital desire, a kind of lust. If however the emotions of the heart are awakened, then it becomes vital love, a mixed affair with any exterior acts sensational or affectionateall of these vital motives strong, but still vital love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1431/divine-love-and-human-lovesex#p64p30</ref>
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A psychic love towards all is also emergingVital emotions are of an altogether different nature—they are very clear, very precise, you can express them very distinctly; this they are violent, they usually fill you with an intensity, a restlessness, sometimes a great satisfaction. some people imagine they experience love only when it is a thing inward and does not seek to express itself outwardly like the vital that, when love which men usually have. The psychic and spiritual attitude is also not dependent on in the good and bad in beingsvital, but is self-existent regarding them as souls who carry when it comes with all the Divine in them however thickly concealed and are children movements of the Mothervital, all this intensity, this violence, this precision, this glamour, this brightness. And when that is absent, they say, "Oh, this is not love."<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/15/30/the-emergence-or-coming-forward-of-thejanuary-psychic1951#p14p31</ref>
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Psychic When the vital joins in the love can have a warmth and a flame as intense and more intense than for the vitalDivine, only it is a pure firebrings into it heroism, enthusiasm, intensity, absoluteness, exclusiveness, not dependent on the satisfaction spirit of egoself-desire or on sacrifice, the eating up total and passionate self-giving of all the fuel it embracesnature. It is a white flame, not a red one; but white heat is not inferior to the red variety in its ardour. It is true vital passion for the Divine that creates the psychic love does not usually get its full play in human relations and human naturespiritual heroes, it finds the fullness of its fire and ecstasy more easily when it is lifted towards the Divineconquerors or martyrs.
If love I have never said that the vital is psychic to have no part in its naturethe love for the Divine, only that it always brings a sense of oneness or at least of an inner intimate closeness must purify and ennoble itself in the light of the psychic being. The Divine Love results of self-loving love between human beings are so poor and contrary in the end—that is based upon oneness what I mean by the ordinary vital love—that I want something purer and nobler and higher in the psychic derives from vital also for the movement towards the Divine Love. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p12p50,p13p51</ref>
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The love in the vital or other parts is the true thing, good for the spiritual life, only when in the vital love is changed into a form of the psychic love is pure and full becomes an instrument for the transformation of self-giving without egoistic demandthe soul's love, but it is human and can err and suffer. The Divine Love is something much vaster and deeper and full no longer for the desires of light and anandathe ego which men call love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divinehuman-loverelations-psychicand-lovethe-andspiritual-life#p54</ref> ==Misapprehensions Related to Love== It has become humannature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is something weak and sentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, superficial, exacting. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love! <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p13p7</ref>
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The psychic realisation is one of diversity in unity (As for love, the portion and love must be turned singly towards the whole); it Divine. What men call by that name is not one of dissolving like a drop vital interchange for mutual satisfaction of water in the sea—for then no love desire, vital impulse or devotion is possible unless it is love of oneself, devotion to oneselfphysical pleasure.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsasabcl/2924/divinetransformation-loveof-psychic-lovethe-andvital-human-lovex#p19p31</ref>
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All these "feelings"—what to call them?—have a mode of vibration, with something very essential at the core, and covering layers, as it were. And the most central vibration is the same, and as it expands to express itself, it becomes distorted. With love, it is quite obvious; it becomes, outwardly, in the vast majority of cases, something whose nature is quite different from the inner vibration, because it is something that withdraws into itself, shrivels up and wants to draw things towards itself in an egoistic movement of possession. You ''want'' to be loved. You say, "I love that person," but at the same time there is what you want; the feeling is lived as, "I want to be loved." And so this distortion is almost as great as the distortion of hatred which consists in wanting to destroy what you love in order not to be bound by it.Because you cannot obtain what you want from the object of your love, you want to destroy it in order to become free; in the other case, you shrivel up almost in an inner rage, because you cannot obtain, you cannot absorb what you love.
When there [Based on Aphorisms - 113—Hatred is the sign of a secret attraction that is no demand or desireeager to flee from itself and furious to deny its own existence. That too is God's play in His creature.114—Selfishness is the only sin, meanness the only love and self-givingvice, that is hatred the psychic loveonly criminality.All else can easily be turned into good, but these are obstinate resisters of deity.]<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2910/divine-love-psychic-love-andaphorism-human113-love114#p14p5</ref>
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Psychic love is quite satisfying, and it can change even the vital love into something great and beautiful.
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=== Supreme Love===
And Certainly, one has the supreme Love is a right to love and true love without any definite object―the carries in itself its joy, but unfortunately human beings are egoistic and immediately mix with their love which loves because it cannot do other than the ''desire to love.<ref>http://incarnateword.be loved'' in/cwm/14/divine-love-return, and this desire is contrary to spiritual truth and the cause of passions and-human-love#p52</ref>sufferings.
The one you love must have the right of freedom in her feelings and if you want the truth you must understand this right and accept it. Otherwise there will be no end to your miseries. This is an occasion to surmount your egoism and to open to the true life.<centerref>~http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p6</centerref>
This was the supreme love, to accept the loss of the perfect condition of supreme divinity, its absolute consciousness, its infinite knowledge, to unite with unconsciousness, to dwell in the world with ignorance ===Difference between Aspiration and darkness. And yet none perhaps would call it love; for it does not clothe itself in a superficial sentiment, it makes no demand in exchange for what it has done, no show of its sacrifice. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p6</ref>Desire===
===Universal Love===The essential difference between love in aspiration and love in desire is that love in aspiration gives itself entirely and asks nothing in return—it does not claim anything; whereas love in desire gives itself as little as possible, asks as much as possible, it pulls things to itself and always makes demands.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/04/22-february-1951#p21</ref>
Universal love is the spiritual founded on the sense of the One === Difference between Vital Desire and the Divine everywhere and the change of the personal into a wide universal consciousness, free from attachment and ignorance.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p43</ref>Psychic Love===
===Supramental Love===Psychic love never bargains—but the vital always tries to derive some benefit for itself in all circumstances. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/17/26-june-1935#p4</ref>
The supramental <center>~</center> Psychic love is not, as you can imagine, something cold, hard always peaceful and rocklike. It bears within joyous; it is the presence of the Divine Love as well as the Divine Truth and its reign here means for those who accept it the straight vital which dramatizes and thornless path on which there is no wall or obstacle of which the ancient Rishis saw the far-off promisemakes itself unhappy without any reason. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2916/bhaktiletters-yogato-anda-young-sadhak-vaishnavismiv#p20p16</ref>
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The supramental It is difficult to define its [''psychic love means an intense unity of soul with soul's''] limits or to recognise it. For even when there is the psychic love for another person, mind it gets in the human being so mixed up with mind, life with life, and an entire flooding of the body consciousness with vital that it is the physical experience of oneness, commonest thing to justify a vital love by claiming for it a psychic character. One could say that psychic love is distinguished by an essential purity and selflessness—but the presence vital can put on a very brilliant imitation of the Beloved in every partthat character, in every cell of the bodywhen it likes. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/bhaktihuman-yogarelations-and-vaishnavismthe-spiritual-life#p37p58</ref>
===How does Divine Love Manifest? =and Sex==
To manifest the Divine love, you must be capable Nature took up this sublime force of receiving the Divine love. The wider and clearer put it at the opening in them, the more they manifest love divine in its original purity; the more service of her creative work by linking and mixing it is mixed with the lower human feelingsher movement of procreation. This association has even become so close, the greater the deformation. The divisionso intimate, the distinction between the two that you make very few human beings are illumined enough in their consciousness to be able to dissociate these movements from each other and experience them separately. In this way, love has suffered every degradation, it has been debased to the beginning are a creation level of the mind: once you rise to a higher level, they disappearbeast. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0312/2the-four-austerities-and-the-junefour-1929liberations#p4p72</ref>
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All movements are in the mass movements of Nature's cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The Divine Loveindividual receives something of them, unlike humansa wave or pressure of some cosmic force, and is deep and vast and silentdriven by it; one must become quiet he thinks it is his own, generated in himself separately, but it is not so, it is part of a general movement which works just in the same way in others. Sex, for instance, is a movement of general Nature seeking for its play and wide to be aware of it uses this or that one—a man vitally or physically "in love" as it is called with a woman is simply repeating and reply to it… To give oneself is satisfying the secret world-movement of sadhanasex, if it had not to demand been that woman, it would have been another; he is simply an instrument in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement. So it is with anger and acquire. The more one gives oneself, the more the power to receive will growother Nature-motives. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p38p5</ref>
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On It is not that it is not possible to keep the physical plane love pure, but the two things [''love and sex-desire''] are so near each other and have been so much twined together in the animal beginnings of the race that it is not easy to keep them altogether separate. In the pure psychic love there is no trace of the Divine expresses himself through beautysex-desire, on but usually the mental plane through knowledge, on vital affection gets very strongly associated with the psychic which is then mixed though still not sexual; but the vital plane through power affection and on the vital physical sex-emotion are entirely close to each other, so that at any moment or in any given case one may awake the other. This becomes very strong when the sex-force is strong in an individual as it is in most vitally energetic people. To increase always the force of the psychic plane through , to control the sex-impulse and turn it into the ''ojas'', to turn the lovetowards the Divine are the true remedies for this difficulty. Seminal force not sexually spent can always be turned into ''ojas''. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1531/the-divine-working-in-the-universesex#p6p21</ref>
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It [When the Divine Love] exists in itself and does not depend psychic puts its influence on outer contact the vital, the first thing you must be careful to avoid is any least mixture of a wrong vital movement with the psychic movement. Lust is the perversion or outer expression. Whether it shall express itself outwardly degradation which prevents love from establishing its reign; so when there is the movement of psychic love in the heart, lust or how vital desire is the one thing that must not be allowed to come in—just as when strength comes down from above, personal ambition and pride have to be kept far away from it ; for any mixture of the perversion will express itself outwardly depends on corrupt the psychic or spiritual truth that has to be manifestedaction and prevent a true fulfilment.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p6p22</ref>
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There What is one divine Love secret in real love? Get clear of all thingsthe sentimental sexual turmoil and go back to the soul, but —then there is real love. It is then also you would be able to receive the manifestation [of it in matter and in forms of life] depends upon overwhelming love without getting the state of consciousness and its organisationlower being into an excitement which might be disastrous. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p7p24</ref>
== Human Why is Love =Essential?=
Ordinary human When you reach the contact with the Divine's love is vital, emotional and physical and always egoistic—a form of self-you see this love. The psychic element is very small except in a feweverything and all circumstances. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3114/humandivine-relations-and-the-spiritual-lifelove#p55p3</ref>
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Human The more love is mainly vitaland bhakti and surrender grow in the heart, when it is not vital the more rapid and physical together. It is also sometimes psychic + vital. But perfect becomes the evolution of the Love with a dominant psychic element is raresadhana. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3130/humanthe-relationspsychic-and-the-spiritual-liferealisations#p56p23</ref>
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Human For there is, concealed behind individual love , obscured by its ignorant human figure, a mystery which the mind cannot seize, the mystery of the body of the Divine, the secret of a mystic form of the Infinite which we can approach only through the ecstasy of the heart and the passion of the pure and sublimated sense, and its attraction which is nothing but the call of the divine Flute-player, the mastering compulsion of the All-Beautiful, can only be seized and seize us through an occult love perverted and distorted by yearning which in the end makes one the Form and the Formless, and identifies Spirit and Matter. It is that which the spirit in Love is seeking here in the darkness of the instrument through Ignorance and it is that which it finds when individual human love is expressedchanged into the love of the Immanent Divine incarnate in the material universe.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1023/aphorismthe-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-534ii#p4</ref>
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Human love Love is mostly vital the power and passion of the divine self-delight and physical with a mental support—it can take an unselfishwithout love we may get the rapt peace of its infinity, the absorbed silence of the Ananda, noble but not its absolute depth of richness and pure form and expression only if it is touched by fullness. Love leads us from the suffering of division into the psychic. It is true, as you saybliss of perfect union, but without losing that it joy of the act of union which is the soul's greatest discovery and for which the life of the cosmos is more usually a mixture long preparation.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/24/love-and-the-triple-path#p5</ref> ==To Deal with Difficulties== If the spirit of ignorancedivine love can enter, attachmentthe hardness of the way diminishes, passion and desire. But whatever it may be, one who wishes to reach the Divine must not burden himself with human loves and attachmentstension is lightened, for they form so many fetters there is a sweetness and hamper his steps, turning him away besides from joy even in the concentration core of difficulty and struggle. The indispensable surrender of his emotions on all our will and works and activities to the one supreme object Supreme is indeed only perfect and perfectly effective when it is a surrender of love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2923/divinethe-loveascent-psychicof-lovethe-andsacrifice-human-loveii#p41p11</ref>
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He was speaking Nothing can resist the steady action of human love manifesting as Bhakti, as a force of devotion for the Divine, . It melts all resistances and he says that at the beginning your love for the Divine is a very human love with triumphs over all the characteristics of human lovedifficulties.. Yet if you persist and make the necessary effort, it is not impossible for this human love to be transformed into divine love through identification with what you love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0616/169-junenovember-19541938#p61p2</ref>
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There is a vital love, a physical love. It is possible for as the vital to desire a woman for various vital reasons without love—in order to satisfy the instinct love of domination or possession, in order to draw in the vital forces of a woman so as to feed one's own vital or for Divine grows that the exchange of vital forces, other things cease to satisfy vanity, the hunter's instinct of the chase etc. etc.This is often called love, but it is only vital desire, a kind of lust. If however the emotions of trouble the heart are awakened, then it becomes vital love, a mixed affair with any or all of these vital motives strong, but still vital lovemind. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sexhuman-relations-and-the-spiritual-life#p30p22</ref>
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There may too be a physical And yet men have invented all kinds of moral and social rules in the hope of controlling this force of love, of making it amenable and docile. But these rules seem to have been made only to be broken; and the restraint they impose on its free activity merely increases its explosive power. For it is not by rules that the attraction movements of beautylove can be disciplined. Only a greater, the physical sex-appeal or anything else higher and truer power of love can subdue the kind awakening the emotions uncontrollable impulses of the heartlove. Only love can rule over love by enlightening, transforming and exalting it. If that For here too, more than anywhere else, control does not happenconsist of suppression and abolition but of transmutation—a sublime alchemy. This is because, then of all the physical need forces at work in the universe, love is all and that is sheer lustthe most powerful, nothing morethe most irresistible. But physical Without love is possiblethe world would fall back into the chaos of inconscience. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3112/sexthe-four-austerities-and-the-four-liberations#p31p67</ref>
===Mental Love=To Realise the Oneness==
In the same way there can be a mental All true love. It arises from the attempt to find oneand sacrifice are in their essence Nature's ideal in another or from some strong mental passion contradiction of admiration the primary egoism and wonder or its separative error; it is her attempt to turn from the mind's seeking for a comrade, necessary first fragmentation towards a complement and fulfiller of one's nature, recovered oneness. All unity between creatures is in its essence a sahadharmīself-finding, a guide and helperfusion with that from which we have separated, a leader and master or from a hundred other mental motives. By itself that does not amount to love, though often it is so ardent as to be hardly distinguishable from it and may even push to sacrifice discovery of life, entire one's self-giving etc. etc. But when it awakes the emotions of the heart, then it may lead to a very powerful love which is yet mental in its root and dominant characterothers. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3123/sexthe-sacrifice-the-triune-path-and-the-lord-of-the-sacrifice#p32p2</ref>
==Misapprehensions Related <center>~</center> Wherever into a human story of love, there has entered even an atom of pure love and it has been allowed to Love==manifest without too much distortion, we find a true and beautiful thing. And if the movement does not last, it is because it is not conscious of its own aim and seeking; it has not the knowledge that it is not the union of one being with another that it is seeking after but the union of all beings with the Divine.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p10</ref>
Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the Divine, a seeking absolute and regardless of all other things. Love divine gives itself and asks for nothing. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine." <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/05/19-august-1953#p22</ref>
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It has become human nature The oneness with all in its basis is something low, brutal, selfish, violent, uglyself-existent and self-content which does not ''need'' expression. When it does express itself as love, or else it is something weak wide and sentimentaluniversal, made up untroubled and firm even when it is intense. This is in the basic cosmic oneness. There is also the surface cosmic consciousness which is an awareness of the pettiest feelingplay of cosmic forces—here anything may rise, brittlesex also. It is this part that needs the perfect psychisation, superficialotherwise one cannot even hold, exactingcontain and deal with it in the proper way. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love!<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0329/2divine-junelove-1929psychic-love-and-human-love#p7p22</ref>
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Because you cannot obtain what you want from For supramental Love brings an active ecstasy that surpasses the void passive peace and stillness which is the heaven of the liberated Mind and does not betray the deeper greater calm which is the beginning of the object supramental silence. The unity of your a love, you want which is able to destroy it include in order itself all differences without being diminished or abrogated by their present limitations and apparent dissonances is raised to become free; its full potentiality on the supramental level. For there an intense oneness with all creatures founded on a profound oneness of the soul with the Divine can harmonise with a play of relations that only makes the oneness more perfect and absolute. The power of Love supramentalised can take hold of all living relations without hesitation or danger and turn them Godwards delivered from their crude, mixed and petty human settings and sublimated into the happy material of a divine life. <ref>http://incarnateword.in /cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the other case-sacrifice-ii#p15</ref> == Why Doesn’t Love Manifest? == When the surroundings, circumstances, atmosphere, the way of living and above all the inner attitude are altogether of a low kind, vulgar, gross, egoistic, sordid, love is reluctant to come, that is, it always hesitates to manifest itself and generally does not stay long. A home of beauty must be given for Beauty to stay. I am not speaking of external things—a real house, you shrivel up almost in real furniture and all that—I am speaking of an inner rageattitude, of something within which is beautiful, noble, harmonious, unselfish. But when, as soon as it tries to manifest, it is immediately mixed with such low and ugly things, it does not remain, it goes away.This is what Sri Aurobindo says: it is "reluctant to be born"—it could be said that it immediately regrets being born. Men always complain that love does not stay with them but it is entirely their fault. They give this love such a sordid life, mixed with a heap of horrors and such vulgarity, things so base, so selfish, because you so dirty, that the poor thing cannot obtainstay. If they don't succeed in killing it altogether, you cannot absorb what you they make it utterly sick. So the only thing it can do is to take flight. People always complain that loveis impermanent and passing. To tell the truth, they should be very grateful that it manifested in them in spite of the sordidness of the house they gave it.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1004/aphorism12-113may-1141951#p5p3</ref>
<center>~</center> Certainly, one has the right to love and true love carries in itself its joy, but unfortunately human beings are egoistic and immediately mix with their love the desire to be loved in return, and this desire is contrary = How to spiritual truth and the cause of passions and sufferings. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p6</ref> ===Difference between Aspiration and Desire in Love==? =
The essential difference between love in aspiration and love in desire is that love in aspiration gives itself entirely and asks nothing in return—it does not claim anything; whereas love in desire gives itself as little as possible, asks as much as possible, it pulls things to itself and always makes demands. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/04/22-february-1951#p21</ref>Rungs of Love
=== The Role of Vital ===At first one loves only when one is loved.
Vital emotions are of an altogether different nature—they are very clearNext, very preciseone loves spontaneously, you can express them very distinctly; they are violent, they usually fill you with an intensity, a restlessness, sometimes a great satisfactionbut one wants to be loved in return. some people imagine they experience love only when it Then one loves even if one is like thatnot loved, when but one still wants one's love is in the vital, when it comes with all the movements of the vital, all this intensity, this violence, this precision, this glamour, this brightnessto be accepted. And when finally one loves purely and simply, without any other need or joy than that is absent, they say, "Oh, this is not loveof loving."<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1514/30divine-januarylove-1951and-human-love#p31p32,p33,p34,p35,p36</ref>
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The vital must have decided that my ''Q. Mother, what kind of love would express itself in a particular way, and as it did not happen is that way, the vital which says, "There is no If you love me, I shall love!you" <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/17/20-october-1934-1#p4</ref> ?''
<center>~</center>''A.'' If you love me, I shall love you? That's exactly the way men speak: "If you love me, I love you, if you don't love me, I don't love you." This is just the most human expression of love. And it goes still farther, they apply it also to their relation with the Divine. They say to the Divine: "If you do what I want, I shall say that you love me, and I shall love you. But if you don't do what I want, then I won't think at all that you love me, and I certainly will not love you."That's how it is. That means that it becomes commercial. ''But "If you don't love me, I shall love you"?'' That begins to be better! And what is better still is not to ask oneself whether one is loved or not, one should be absolutely indifferent to that. And that begins to be true love: one loves because one loves, not at all because one receives a response to one's love or because the other person loves you. All those conditions—that is not love. One loves because one cannot do otherwise but love. One loves because one loves. One doesn't care at all about what will happen; one is perfectly satisfied with the feeling of one's love. One loves because one loves.
I have never said that All the vital rest is to have no part in the love for the Divinebargaining, only that it must purify and ennoble itself in the light of the psychic being. The results of self-loving is not love between human beings are so poor and contrary in the end—that is what I mean by the ordinary vital love—that I want something purer and nobler and higher in the vital also for the movement towards the Divine. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p50</ref>
<center>~</center>And, moreover, one thing is certain: the moment one experiences true love, one doesn't even put the question any longer. It seems altogether childish and ridiculous and insignificant to ask this question. One has the complete plenitude of joy and realisation the moment one experiences true love and one doesn't at all need any kind of response. One is love, that's all. And one has the plenitude of the satisfaction of love. There is no need at all of any reciprocity.
YesI tell you, that so long as there is this calculation in the mind or the nature of vital love. It feelings and sensations, so long as there is based on desire and the sense of claim some calculation, more or sense of possession; psychic love less acknowledged, it is based on self-giving.As for lovebargaining, the it is not love must be turned singly towards the Divine. What men call by that name is a vital interchange for mutual satisfaction of desire, vital impulse or physical pleasure. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p52</ref>
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When the vital joins in All the rest is exactly what men have made of love for the Divine, . And besides it brings into it heroismis not very pretty and leads to all kinds of things which are still less pretty, enthusiasmlike jealousy, intensityfor instance, absolutenessor envy, and in violent natures it goes as far as hatred. The small beginning is this: the need, exclusivenesswhen one loves, that what one loves or the spirit of self-sacrifice, person one loves should know that he is loved. But in the total and passionate self-giving of all relation with the nature. It is Divine: one loves the vital passion for Divine but insists that the Divine should know that creates one loves Him! That's the beginning of the fall. One does not even think about the spiritual heroes, conquerors or martyrsreal thing. <ref>http://incarnatewordIt doesn't even slightly touch the mind.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p49</ref>
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The love in the vital or other parts It is the true thinga long, good for the spiritual life, only when in the vital love is changed into a form of the psychic love and becomes an instrument for the transformation of the soul's lovelong, no longer for the desires of the ego which long way to go from what men call "love" to true love—a long way. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3105/human26-relationsaugust-and-the-spiritual-life1953#p54p12,p13,p14,p15,p16,p17,p18,p19,p20,p21,p22,p23,p24</ref>
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I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. First, the love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic love only; it is the love of all the being, the vital and vital-physical included,—all are capable of the same self-giving'' Q. It is a mistake to believe that if the vital loves, it must be a love that demands and imposes the satisfaction of its desire; it is a mistake to think that it must be either said that or else the vital, in order to escape from its "attachment", must draw away altogether from the object become conscious of its divine Love all other love. The vital can has to be as absolute in its unquestioning self-giving as any other part of nature; nothing can be more generous than its movement when it forgets self for the Belovedabandoned. The vital and physical should both give themselves in What is the true way—the best way of true rejecting the other love, which clings so obstinately'' (''Laughter'') ''and does not of ego-desire. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p27</ref>easily leave us?''
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There are in the vital itself two kinds of love,—one full of joy and confidence and abandon, generous, non bargaining, ungrudging and very absolute in its dedication and this That is akin to the psychic and well-fitted to be its complement and a means of expression of the divine love. And neither does the psychic love or the divine love despise a physical means of expression wherever that is pure and right and possible: it does not depend upon that, it does not diminish, revolt or go out like a snuffed candle when it is deprived of any such means; but when it can use it, it does so with joy and gratitude. <ref>http://incarnatewordbest way.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p32</ref>
<center>~</center>To want to get rid of the one in order to find the other is very difficult. It is almost impossible. For human nature is so limited, so full of contradictions and so exclusive in its movements that if one wants to reject love in its lower form, that is to say, human love as human beings experience it, if one makes an inner effort to reject it, one usually rejects the entire capacity of feeling love and becomes like a stone. And then sometimes one has to wait for years or centuries before there is a reawakening in oneself of the capacity to receive and manifest love.
But there is another Therefore, the best way of vital when love which comes, in whatever form it may be, is more usually to try and pierce through its outer appearance and find the way of human nature and that divine principle which is a way of ego behind and desirewhich gives it existence. It Naturally, it is full of vital craving, desire snares and demand; its continuance depends upon the satisfaction of its demands; if it does not get what it cravesdifficulties, or even imagines that but it is not being treated as it deserves—for it more effective. That is full of imaginations, misunderstandings, jealousies, misinterpretations—it at once turns to sorrowsay, wounded feelings, revolt, pride, anger, all kinds instead of disorder, finally cessation and departure. A ceasing to love of this kind is in its very nature ephemeral and unreliable and it cannot be made a foundation for divine love… Love should be a flowering of joy and union and confidence and self-giving and Anandabecause one loves wrongly,—but this lower vital way is only a source of suffering, trouble, disappointment, disillusion and disunion. Even a slight element of it shakes the foundations of peace and replaces the movement towards Ananda by a fall towards sorrow, discontent and Nirananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-one must cease to love-psychic-love-wrongly and-human-want to love#p33</ref>well.
===Difference For instance, love between Vital Desire human beings, in all its forms, the love of parents for children, of children for parents, of brothers and Psychic Love===sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selfishness and all the other defects which are man's ordinary drawbacks; so instead of completely ceasing to love—which, besides, is very difficult as Sri Aurobindo says, which would simply dry up the heart and serve no end—one must learn how to love better: to love with devotion, with self-giving, self-abnegation, and to struggle, not against love itself, but against its distorted forms: against all forms of monopolising, of attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, and all the feelings which accompany these main movements. Not to want to possess, to dominate; and not to want to impose one's will, one's whims, one's desires; not to want to take, to receive, but to give; not to insist on the other's response, but be content with one's own love; not to seek one's personal interest and joy and the fulfilment of one's personal desire, but to be satisfied with the giving of one's love and affection; and not to ask for any response. Simply to be happy to love, nothing more.
Psychic If you do that, you have taken a great stride forward and can, through this attitude, gradually advance farther in the feeling itself, and realise one day that love is not something personal, that love never bargains—but is a universal divine feeling which manifests through you more or less finely, but which in its essence is something divine.The first step is to stop being selfish. For everyone it is the vital always tries same thing, not only for those who want to derive some benefit for itself do yoga but also in ordinary life: if one wants to know how to love, one must not love oneself first and above all circumstancesselfishly; one must give oneself to the object of love without exacting anything in return. This discipline is elementary in order to surmount oneself and lead a life which is not altogether gross. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1708/2619-juneseptember-19351956#p4p21,p22,p23,p24,p25,p26,p27,p28,p29</ref>
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Psychic love is always peaceful and joyous; it is the vital which dramatizes and makes itself unhappy without any reason. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p16</ref>
Let us grant that at first love may only be an extended selfishness and that this aspect of extended selfishness may persist and dominate, as it does still persist and dominate, in higher stages of the evolution: still as mind evolves and more and more finds itself, it comes by the experience of life and love and mutual help to perceive that the natural individual is a minor term of being and exists by the universal. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-ascent-of-life#p2</ref> ===How to Purify the Mental, Physical to Receive and Give Love & Sex===
All movements are in A psychic change is demanded, a divestiture of the mass movements masks of Nature's cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The individual receives something of themthe Ignorance, a wave or pressure purification of some cosmic forcethe egoistic mental, vital and is driven by itphysical movements that prolong the old inferior consciousness; he thinks it is his owneach movement of love, spiritualised, must depend no longer on mental preference, generated in himself separatelyvital passion or physical craving, but it is not soon the recognition of soul by soul, it is part of a general movement which works just in —love restored to its fundamental spiritual and psychic essence with the same way in others. Sexmind, for instancethe vital, the physical as manifesting instruments and elements of that greater oneness. In this change the individual love also is converted by a natural heightening into a movement of general Nature seeking divine love for its play and it uses this or that one—a man vitally or physically "the Divine Inhabitant immanent in love" as it is called with a woman is simply repeating mind and soul and satisfying body occupied by the world-movement of sex, if it had not been that woman, it would have been another; he is simply an instrument One in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement. So it is with anger and other Nature-motivesall creatures.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3123/sexthe-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p5p2</ref>
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When I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. First, the love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic puts its influence on love only; it is the love of all the being, the vitaland vital-physical included, the first thing you must be careful to avoid is any least mixture —all are capable of a wrong vital movement with the psychic movementsame self-giving. Lust It is a mistake to believe that if the perversion or degradation which prevents vital loves, it must be a love from establishing its reign; so when there is that demands and imposes the movement satisfaction of psychic love in the heart, lust or vital its desire ; it is the one thing a mistake to think that it must not be allowed either that or else the vital, in order to come in—just as when strength comes down escape from aboveits "attachment", personal ambition and pride have to be kept far must draw away altogether from it; for the object of its love. The vital can be as absolute in its unquestioning self-giving as any mixture other part of the perversion will corrupt nature; nothing can be more generous than its movement when it forgets self for the psychic or spiritual action Beloved. The vital and prevent a physical should both give themselves in the true way—the way of true fulfilmentlove, not of ego desire. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3132/sexthe-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p22p6</ref>
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One "Aspiration in the Physical for the Divine's Love."By the "Physical" I mean the physical consciousness, the most ordinary outward-going consciousness, the normal consciousness of most human beings, which sets such great store by comfort, good food, good clothes, happy relationships, etc., instead of aspiring for the higher things. Aspiration in the physical for the Divine's Love implies that the physical asks for nothing else save that it should feel how the Divine loves it. It realises that all its usual satisfactions are utterly insufficient. But there cannot be a compromise: if the physical wants the Divine's Love it must give up want that alone and not say, "I shall have the sexDivine's Love and at the same time keep my other attachments, needs and enjoyments...." <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/aspiration-in-the-physical-for-satisfaction and be satisfied with the -divines-love#p1</ref> =How does Divine Love Manifest?= At the beginning of this manifestation, in the purity of its origin, love is composed of two movements, two complementary poles of the urge towards complete oneness. On one hand there is the supreme power of attraction and Anandaon the other the irresistible need for absolute self-giving.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3112/sexthe-four-austerities-and-the-four-liberations#p38p70</ref>
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What is real love? Get clear of all But because this Unity has manifested in the many—in the multiplicity—something had to serve as a link between the sentimental sexual turmoil Origin and go back to the soulmanifestation,—then there and the most perfect link one can conceive of is real love. It And what is then also you would be able to receive the overwhelming first gesture of love without getting the lower being into an excitement which might be disastrous? To give oneself, to serve. What is its spontaneous, immediate, inevitable movement? To serve. To serve in a joyous, complete, total self-giving.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3109/sex6-march-1957#p24p5</ref>
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It The movement of love is not that limited to human beings and it is not possible to keep perhaps less distorted in other worlds than in the human. Look at the love pure, but flowers and trees. When the two things [love sun sets and sex-desire] are so near each other all becomes silent, sit down for a moment and have been so much twined together in put yourself into communion with nature, you will feel rising from the earth, from below the animal beginnings roots of the race that it is not easy trees, and mounting upward and coursing through their fibres, up to keep them altogether separate. In the pure psychic highest outstretching branches, the aspiration of an intense love there is no trace of the sex-desireand longing,—a longing for something that brings light and gives happiness, but usually for the vital affection gets very strongly associated with the psychic which light that is then mixed though still not sexual; but the vital affection gone and the vital physical sex-emotion are entirely close they wish to each other, have back again. There is a yearning so pure and intense that at any moment or if you can feel the movement in any given case one may awake the other. This becomes very strong when the sex-force is strong trees, your own being too will go up in an individual as it is in most vitally energetic people. To increase always ardent prayer for the force of the psychic, to control the sex-impulse peace and light and turn it into the ''ojas'', to turn the love towards the Divine that are the true remedies for this difficulty. Seminal force not sexually spent can always be turned into ''ojas''unmanifested here. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3105/sex19-august-1953#p21p1</ref>
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'' Q. You say, "Love is everywhere. Its movement is there in plants, perhaps in the very stones...." If there is love in a stone, how can one see it?'' '' A.'' Perhaps the different elements constituting the stone are coordinated by the spark of love. I am sure that when the Divine Love does not forgivedescended into Matter, this Matter was quite unconscious, it had absolutely no form; it understands may even be said that forms in general are the result of the effort of Love to bring consciousness into Matter. If one of you (I have my doubts, but still) went down into the Inconscient, what is called the pure Inconscient, you would realise what it is. A stone will seem to you a marvellously conscious object in comparison. You speak disdainfully of a stone because you have just a wee bit more consciousness than it has, but the difference between the consciousness of the stone and the total Inconscient is perhaps greater than that between the stone and curesyou. And the coming out of the Inconscient is due exclusively to the sacrifice of the Divine, to this descent of Divine Love into the Inconscient. Consequently, when I said "perhaps in the stone", I could have removed the "perhaps"—I can assert that even in the stone it is there. There would be nothing, neither stone nor metal nor any organisation of atoms without this presence of Divine Love. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1604/2824-augustmarch-19391951#p4p1,p2</ref>
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Nothing can resist On the steady action physical plane the Divine expresses himself through beauty, on the mental plane through knowledge, on the vital plane through power and on the psychic plane through love. When we rise high enough, we discover that these four aspects unite with each other in a single consciousness, full of love. It melts , luminous, powerful, beautiful, containing all resistances and triumphs over , pervading all difficulties...<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1615/9the-divine-novemberworking-in-the-1938universe#p2p6,p7</ref>
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It is as And when the day comes for the manifestation of supreme love , for the crystallised, concentrated descent of supreme love, that will truly be the Divine grows hour of transformation. For nothing will be able to resist That. But since it is all-powerful, some receptivity must be prepared on earth so that the other things cease effects are not shattering. Sri Aurobindo has explained this in one of his letters. Someone asked him, "Why does it not come immediately?" He answered something like this: if divine love were to manifest in its essence upon earth, it would be like a bombshell; because the earth is neither supple nor receptive enough to be able to widen itself to the dimensions of this love. It not only needs to open, but to widen itself and to trouble become more supple—Matter is still too rigid. And even the substance of the physical consciousness—not only the most material Matter, but the substance of the mindphysical consciousness—is too rigid. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3110/human-relations-and-the-spiritualaphorism-life49#p22p15,p16</ref>
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In this The manifestation of the love lie peace of the Divine in the world was the great holocaust, the supreme self-giving. The Perfect Consciousness accepted to be merged and joyabsorbed into the unconsciousness of matter, so that consciousness might be awakened in the depths of its obscurity and little by little a Divine Power might rise in it and make the fount whole of this manifested universe a highest expression of all strength the Divine Consciousness and all realisationthe Divine love. It is This was the infallible healersupreme love, to accept the loss of the perfect condition of supreme consolerdivinity, its absolute consciousness, its infinite knowledge, to unite with unconsciousness, to dwell in the world with ignorance and darkness. And yet none perhaps would call it love; for it does not clothe itself in a superficial sentiment, it makes no demand in exchange for what it has done, no show of its sacrifice. The force of love in the world is trying to find consciousnesses that are capable of receiving this divine movement in its purity and expressing it . This race of all beings towards love, this irresistible push and seeking out in the world's heart and in all hearts, is the victorimpulse given by a Divine love behind the human longing and seeking. It touches millions of instruments, trying always, always failing; but this constant touch prepares these instruments and suddenly one day there will awake in them the capacity of self-giving, the sovereign teachercapacity of loving. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0103/december2-16june-19131929#p6</ref> =How to Love the Divine?= By becoming divine in nature [''one can love divinely'']; there is no other way. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p3p10</ref>
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If the spirit of divine love can enter, the hardness of the way diminishes, the tension is lightened, '' Q. I feel there is a sweetness and joy even no love in me towards the core of difficulty and struggleMother. The indispensable surrender of all our will and works and activities What shall I do to the Supreme is indeed only perfect and perfectly effective when it is a surrender of feel this love?'' '' A.''Become truthful, pure, sincere, straightforward. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2332/the-ascentright-way-of-loving-the-sacrifice-iimother#p11p10</ref>
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For supramental Love brings And it is very easy to explain how a person who has this [ love is like a flame, a white flame which overcomes all resistances] experience can spread it, can act on others; because to have the experience you must touch the one, supreme Essence of the whole manifestation, the Origin and the Essence, the Source and the Reality of all that is; and at once you enter the realm of Unity—there is no longer any separation of individuals, there is only one single vibration that can be repeated indefinitely in external form. If you rise high enough, you find yourself at the heart of all things. And what is manifest in this heart can manifest in all things. That is the great secret, the secret of the divine incarnation in an individual form, because in the normal course of things what manifests at the centre is realised in the external form only with the awakening and the response of the will in the individual form. Whereas if the central Will is represented constantly and permanently in an individual being, this individual being can serve as an active ecstasy intermediary between this Will and all beings, and will for them. Everything this individual being perceives and offers in his consciousness to the supreme Will is answered as if it came from each individual being. And if for any reason the individual elements have a more or less conscious and voluntary relation with that surpasses representative being, their relation increases the efficacy, the effectiveness of the representative individual; and thus the void passive peace supreme Action can act in Matter in a much more concrete and stillness which permanent manner. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-49#p14</ref> ==By Aspiration== '' Q. How can one become conscious of Divine Love and an instrument of its expression?'' '' A.''First, to become conscious of anything whatever, you must will it. And when I say "will it", I don't mean saying one day, "Oh! I would like it very much", then two days later completely forgetting it. To will it is a constant, sustained, concentrated aspiration, an almost exclusive occupation of the consciousness. This is the heaven first step. There are many others: a very attentive observation, a very persistent analysis, a very keen discernment of what is pure in the liberated Mind movement and does what is not betray . If you have an imaginative faculty, you may try to imagine and see if your imagination tallies with reality. There are people who believe that it is enough to wake up one day in a particular mood and say, "Ah! How I wish to be conscious of Divine Love, how I wish to manifest Divine Love...." Note, I don't know how many millions of times one feels within a little quivering of human instinct and imagines that if one had at one's disposal Divine Love, great things could be accomplished, and one says, "I am going to try and find Divine Love and we shall see the deeper greater calm which result." This is the worst possible way. Because, before having even touched the very beginning of realisation you have spoilt the result. You must take up your search with a purity of aspiration and surrender which in themselves are already difficult to acquire. You must have worked much on yourself only to be ''ready'' to aspire to this Love. If you look at yourself very sincerely, very straight, you will see that as soon as you begin to think of Love it is always your little inner tumult which starts whirling. All that aspires in you wants certain vibrations. It is almost impossible, without being far advanced on the supramental silenceyogic path, to separate the vital essence, the vital vibration from your conception of Love.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2304/the-ascent-of-the24-sacrificemarch-ii1951#p15p21,p22,p23</ref>
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AltruismThe true love for the Divine is a self-giving, free of demand, full of submission and surrender; it makes no claim, imposes no condition, strikes no bargain, indulges in no violences of jealousy or pride or anger—for these things are not in its composition. In return the Divine Mother also gives herself, but freely—and this represents itself in an inner giving—her presence in your mind, your vital, your physical consciousness, her power re-creating you in the divine nature, taking up all the movements of your being and directing them towards perfection and fulfilment, her love enveloping you and carrying you in its arms Godwards. It is this that you must aspire to feel and possess in all your parts down to the very material, and here there is no limitation either of time or of completeness. If one truly aspires and gets it, there ought to be no room for any other claim or for any disappointed desire… Keep your love pure of all selfish claim and desire; you will find that you are getting all the love that you can bear and absorb in answer.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/32/the-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p3,p4</ref> ==By a Psychic Opening== When the love goes towards the Divine, there is still this ordinary human element in it. There is the call for a return and if the return does not seem to come, philanthropythe love may sink; there is the self-interest, humanitarianismthe demand for the Divine as a giver of all that the human being wants and, service if the demands are flowers not acceded to, abhimana against the Divine, loss of faith, loss of fervour. Etc. etc. But the true love for the Divine is in its fundamental nature not of this kind, but psychic and spiritual. The psychic element is the need of the mental inmost being for self-giving, love, adoration, union which can only be fully satisfied by the Divine. The spiritual element is the need of the being for contact, merging, union with its own highest and whole self and source of being and consciousness and bliss, the Divine. These two are at best two sides of the same thing. The mind's cold , vital, physical can be the supports and pale imitation recipients of this love, but they can be fully that only when they become remoulded into harmony with the psychic and spiritual flame elements of the being and no longer bring in the lower insistences of universalDivineLovethe ego. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2329/thedivine-love-ascentpsychic-oflove-theand-sacrificehuman-ilove#p20p29</ref> <center>~</center>
The more love Each one of you should be able to get into touch with your own psychic being, it is not an inaccessible thing. Your psychic being is there precisely to put you in contact with the divine forces. And if you are in contact with your psychic being, you begin to feel, to have a kind of perception of what Divine Love can be. As I have just said, it is not enough that one morning you wake up saying, "Oh! I would like to be in contact with Divine Love", it is not like that. If, through a sustained effort, a deep concentration, a great forgetfulness of self, you succeed in coming into touch with your psychic being, you will never dream of thinking, "Oh! I would like to be in contact with Divine Love"—you are in a state in which everything appears to you to be this Divine Love and bhakti nothing else. And yet it is only a covering, but a covering of a beautiful texture.''So, Divine Love need not be sought and surrender grow in known apart from the heartpsychic being?''No, find your psychic being and you will understand what divine Love is. Do not try to come into direct contact with divine Love because this will yet again be a vital desire pushing you; you will perhaps not be aware of it, the more rapid but it will be a vital desire.You must make an effort to come into touch with your psychic being, to become aware and perfect becomes free in the evolution consciousness of the sadhanayour psychic being, and then, quite naturally, spontaneously, you will know what Divine Love is. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3004/the24-psychic-and-spiritualmarch-realisations1951#p23p24,p25,p26,p27,p28</ref>
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Love leads us from A psychic fire within must be lit into which all is thrown with the Divine Name upon it. In that fire all the emotions are compelled to cast off their grosser elements and those that are undivine perversions are burned away and the suffering of division into others discard their insufficiencies, till the bliss spirit of perfect union, but without losing that joy largest love and a stainless divine delight arises out of the act of union flame and smoke and frankincense. It is the divine love which is so emerges that, extended in inward feeling to the soul's greatest discovery Divine in man and all creatures in an active universal equality, will be more potent for which the perfectibility of life and a more real instrument than the ineffective mental ideal of brotherhood can ever be. It is this poured out into acts that could alone create a harmony in the cosmos is world and a true unity between all its creatures; all else strives in vain towards that end so long preparationas Divine Love has not disclosed itself as the heart of the delivered manifestation in terrestrial Nature.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2423/lovethe-ascent-andof-the-triplesacrifice-pathii#p5p12</ref>
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All true The soul's turning through love to the Divine must be through a love that is essentially divine, but as an instrument of expression at first is human nature, it takes the forms of human love and bhakti. It is only as the consciousness deepens, heightens and changes that that greater eternal love can grow in it and sacrifice openly transform the human into the divine. But in human love itself there are in their essence Nature's contradiction several kinds of motive-forces. There is a psychic human love which rises from deep within and is the result of the meeting of the primary egoism inner being with that which calls it towards a divine joy and its separative errorunion; it is her attempt , once it becomes aware of itself, something lasting, self-existent, not dependent upon external satisfactions, not capable of diminution by external causes, not self-regarding, not prone to demand or bargain but giving itself simply and spontaneously, not moved to turn from a necessary first fragmentation or broken by misunderstandings, disappointments, strife and anger, but pressing always straight towards a recovered onenessthe inner union. It is this psychic love that is closest to the divine and it is therefore the right and best way of love and bhakti.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2329/thedivine-love-sacrificepsychic-thelove-triuneand-pathhuman-love#p32</ref> ==By Peace== The human form is naturally unable to bear the Divine Love or contain it, because it is itself a creation of the ignorance, weak and impure. It must be transformed in order to be capable of that; it must become strong andpure. First of all, it must have the strength to love the Divine alone and turn away from all other ties. But besides that a new consciousness must be created in it—first a consciousness of pure and purifying Divine Peace from above which must take hold of all down to the most physical—then in that peace an increasing inner strength pure and unegoistic—then the Divine Light and Knowledge transforming all the consciousness and movements. When this has been done, then the human form can contain the Divine Love and Ananda. Till then the touches of the Divine Love and Ananda are usually momentary or brief, they cannot remain. In an impure consciousness the Divine Love if it came in would create a perturbation and possibly be attacked by a mixture which would make it impossible for it to stay. It is therefore that touches only can come. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-thepsychic-lordlove-ofand-thehuman-sacrificelove#p2p4</ref> == Why Doesn’t Love Manifest? By Getting Rid of Lower Movements==
When ... the surroundings, circumstances, atmosphere, the way will to pierce through this limited and human form of living love and above all discover the inner attitude are altogether principle of divine Love which is behind it. Then one is sure to get a low kind, vulgar, gross, egoistic, sordid, love result. This is better than drying up one's heart. It is reluctant to come, that perhaps a little more difficult but it isbetter in every way, it always hesitates to manifest itself and generally does not stay long. A home of beauty must be given for Beauty to stay. I am not speaking like this, instead of external things—a real houseegotistically making others suffer, real furniture well, one may leave them quiet in their own movement and all that—I am speaking of only make an inner attitudeeffort to transform oneself without imposing one's will on others, of something within which even in ordinary life is beautiful, noble, a step towards something higher and a little more harmonious, unselfish. People always complain that love is impermanent and passing. To tell the truth, they should be very grateful that it manifested in them in spite of the sordidness of the house they gave it. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0408/1219-mayseptember-19511956#p3p30</ref>
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For when man speaks ...one can certainly become conscious of the Divine's Love before one has oneself the universal love—one can become conscious of love, he associates it by contact with an emotional and sentimental weaknessthe Divine in oneself. But Naturally the divine intensity consciousness of self-forgetfulness, it should lead to the capacity development of throwing oneself out entirely, making no restriction and no reservation, as a giftuniversal love for all. But if he means a love that is divine, asking nothing in exchangenot tainted by the lower movements, this is little known to human beings. And when then it is true that until there unmixed with weak and sentimental emotionscomes the peace, purity, freedom from ego, wideness, light of the universal consciousness which is the basis of the universal love, they find it hard and cold; they cannot recognise in it is difficult to have a love that is free from all the very highest and intensest power defects, limitations, taints of ordinary human love. The more one has of the universality the more one tends to be freed from these things. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0329/2divine-junelove-1929psychic-love-and-human-love#p5p23</ref>
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Wherever into a human story of love, there has entered even an atom of pure love and it has been allowed to manifest without too much distortion, we find a true and beautiful thing. And if the movement does not last, it is because it is not conscious of its own aim and seeking; it has not the knowledge that it is not the union of one being with another that it is seeking after but the union of all beings with the Divine. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p10</ref>
= How Does Love Manifest?=The higher Consciousness is a state of pure love but it is also a state of pure openness to divine knowledge. There is no opposition there between these two kindred things; it is the mind that makes them separate.
Love The best way to get to it is to refuse all mental agitation when it comes, also all vital desires and turmoils, and Harmony to keep the mind and all that heart turned as constantly as possible towards the Divine. The love for the Divine is a divine possibility in us, and persists till these things become the major need of our naturestrongest force for doing this.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2116/the19-doubleoctober-soul-in-man1939#p10p3,p4</ref>
Love will not be destroyed, but perfected, enlarged to its widest capacity, deepened to its spiritual rapture, the love of God, the love of man, the love of all things as ourselves and as beings and powers of the Divine; a large, universal love, not at all incapable of various relations, will replace the clamant, egoistic, self-regarding love of little joys and griefs and insistent demands afflicted with all the chequered pattern of angers and jealousies and satisfactions, rushings to unity and movements of fatigue, divorce and separation on which we now place so high a value. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/24/the-perfection-of-equality#p8~</refcenter>
At You say of your God: "I have loved Him so much and yet He did not remain with me!" But what kind of love have you given Him? In its essence, love is one, just as consciousness is one; but in the beginning of this manifestation, it is coloured and differentiated by each individual nature. If you are impure and egoistic, love in you will become impure and egoistic, narrow, sectarian, limited, ambitious and possessive, violent, jealous, vulgar, brutal and cruel. Is this the purity kind of love that can be offered to God? If you want your love to be worthy of the one you love, if you want to enjoy love in its origineternal perfection, become perfect, love is composed break out of the limitations of two movementsyour ego, two complementary poles partake of the urge towards complete onenesseternity. On one hand there is And then you will always be close to the supreme power object of attraction and on the other the irresistible need your love, for absolute self-givingyou will grow into his likeness. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1214/thelove-four-austerities-andfor-the-four-liberationsdivine#p70p15</ref>
There is a spiritual emotion, a spiritual sense, there is an intermingling of oneness with oneness, of being with being, of consciousness with consciousness, of delight of being with delight of being. There is a joy of intimate separateness in identity, of the relations of love joined with love in a supreme unity, a delight of the many powers, truths, beings of the eternal oneness, of the forms of the Formless; all the play of becoming in the being finds its self-expression upon these powers of the consciousness of the Spirit. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/knowledge-by-identity-and-separative-knowledge#p26~</refcenter>
For love It is possible by bringing the real soul to the surface to replace the one egoistic standards of pleasure and pain by an equal, an all-embracing personal-impersonal delight.The lover of Nature does this when he takes joy in all the things of Nature universally without admitting repulsion or fear or mere liking and disliking, perceiving beauty in that which seems to others mean and insignificant, bare and savage, terrible and repellent. The artist and the poet do it when they seek the ''rasa'' of the universal from the aesthetic emotion in us or from the physical line or from the mental form of beauty or from the inner sense and power alike of that from which can be entirely motiveless the ordinary man turns away and selfof that to which he is attached by a sense of pleasure. The seeker of knowledge, the God-existent; love need have no other motive than lover who finds the object of his loveeverywhere, the spiritual man, the intellectual, the sensuous, the aesthetic all do this in their own fashion and must do it if they would find embracingly the Knowledge, the Beauty, the Joy or the Divinity which they seek.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2421/the-motivesdouble-ofsoul-in-devotionman#p11p9</ref>
The oneness with all in its basis is something self-existent and self-content which does not need expression. When it does express itself as love, it is something wide and universal, untroubled and firm even when it is intense. This is in the basic cosmic oneness. There is also the surface cosmic consciousness which is an awareness of the play of cosmic forces—here anything may rise, sex also. It is this part that needs the perfect psychisation, otherwise one cannot even hold, contain and deal with it in the proper way.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p22~</refcenter>
"The movement of love There is not limited to human beings and it only one true love—it is perhaps less distorted in the Divine Love; all other worlds than in the humanloves are diminutions, limitations and deformations of that Love. Look at Even the flowers and trees. When love of the sun sets and all becomes silent, sit down bhakta for his God is a moment diminution and put yourself into communion with natureoften is tainted by egoism. But as one tends quite naturally to become like what one loves, you will feel rising from the earthbhakta, from below the roots of the trees, and mounting upward and coursing through their fibresif he is sincere, up begins to become like the highest outstretching branchesDivine whom he adores, the aspiration of an intense and thus his love becomes purer and longing,—a longing for something that brings light and gives happiness, for the light that is gone and they wish to have back againpurer. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0516/1910-augustjune-19531964#p1p2</ref>
The root of the second status is desire, eager to possess but limited in capacity; the bud of the third is Love which seeks both to possess =Bhakti and be possessed, to receive and to give itself; the fine flower of the fourth, its sign of perfection, we conceive as the pure and full emergence of the original will, the illumined fulfilment of the intermediate desire, the high and deep satisfaction of the conscious interchange of Love by the unification of the state of the possessor and possessed in the divine unity of souls which is the foundation of the supramental existence. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-double-soul-in-man#p1</ref>=
The growth into the third status nature of life by the principle of association, the growth of loveBhakti is adoration, does not abolish the law of desireworship, but rather transforms and fulfils it. Love self-offering to what is in its nature the desire to give greater than oneself to others and to receive others in exchange; it the nature of love is a commerce between being feeling or a seeking for closeness and beingunion. In its lifeSelf-origin, giving is the law character of love is both; both are necessary in the impulse to realise and fulfil oneself in others yoga and each gets its full force when supported by others, to be enriched by enriching, to possess and be possessed because without being possessed one does not possess oneself utterlythe other.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsasabcl/2123/thesadhana-through-love-ascentand-ofdevotion-lifeii#p9p1</ref>
== How to Love? ==''I feel there is no love in me towards the Mother. What shall I do to feel this love?''<center>~</center>
Become truthfulAll love, pureindeed, sincerethat is adoration has a spiritual force behind it, straightforwardand even when it is offered ignorantly and to a limited object, something of that splendour appears through the poverty of the rite and the smallness of its issues. For love that is worship is at once an aspiration and a preparation: it can bring even within its small limits in the Ignorance a glimpse of a still more or less blind and partial but surprising realisation; for there are moments when it is not we but the One who loves and is loved in us, and even a human passion can be uplifted and glorified by a slight glimpse of this infinite Love and Lover. It is for this reason that the worship of the god, the worship of the idol, the human magnet or ideal are not to be despised; for these are steps through which the human race moves towards that blissful passion and ecstasy of the Infinite which, even in limiting it, they yet represent for our imperfect vision when we have still to use the inferior steps Nature has hewn for our feet and admit the stages of our progress. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3223/the-right-wayascent-of-lovingthe-thesacrifice-motherii#p10p3</ref>
And what is the first gesture of love? To give oneself, to serve. What is its spontaneous, immediate, inevitable movement? To serve. To serve in a joyous, complete, total self-giving. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/09/6-march-1957#p5~</refcenter>
Thus if it be the divine Love that is the subject of concentration''Q. Sweet Mother, it is on the essence of the idea of God as Love Sri Aurobindo has said that the mind should concentrate in such a way that the various manifestations of the one can pass from human love to divine Love should arise luminously, not only to the thought, but in the heart and being and vision of the sadhaka. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/concentration#p8</ref>''
All ''A.'' He was speaking of human lovemanifesting as Bhakti, indeed, that is adoration has as a spiritual force behind itof devotion for the Divine, and even when it he says that at the beginning your love for the Divine is offered ignorantly and to a limited object, something of that splendour appears through very human love with all the poverty characteristics of the rite human love. Yet if you persist and make the smallness of its issuesnecessary effort, it is not impossible for this human love to be transformed into divine love through identification with what you love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2306/the-ascent-of-the16-sacrificejune-ii1954#p3p61</ref>
..it is true that until there comes the peace, purity, freedom from ego, wideness, light of the universal consciousness which is the basis of the universal love, it is difficult to have a love that is free from all the defects, limitations, taints of ordinary human love. The more one has of the universality the more one tends to be freed from these things.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-=Love and-human-love#p23</ref>Bhakti for Krishna=
Keep your love pure As for Krishna, why not approach simply and straight? The simple approach means trust. If you pray, trust that he hears. If the reply takes long in coming, trust that he knows and loves and that he is wisest in the choice of the time. Meanwhile quietly clear the ground, so that he may not have to trip over stone and jungle when he comes. That is my suggestion and I know what I am saying—for whatever you may say, I know very well all selfish claim human difficulties and struggles and desire; you will find I know of the cure. That is why I press always on the things that would minimise and shorten the struggles and difficulties,—the psychic turn, faith, perfect and simple confidence and reliance. These, let me remind you , are getting all tenets of the Vaishnava yoga. Of course, there is the other Vaishnava way which swings between yearning and despair—ardent seeking and the love pangs of viraha. It is that you seem to be following and I do not deny that one can arrive by that as one can bear by almost any way, if followed sincerely. But then those who follow it find a ''rasa''even in ''viraha'', in the absence and absorb the caprice of the Divine Lover. Some of them have sung that they have followed after him all their lives but always he has slipped away from their vision and even in that they find a ''rasa''and never cease following. But you find no ''rasa'' in answerit. So you cannot expect me to approve of that for you. Follow after Krishna by all means, but follow with the determination to arrive: don't do it with the expectation of failure or admit any possibility of breaking off half-way. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsasabcl/3223/thesadhana-rightthrough-waylove-ofand-loving-thedevotion-motheriv#p4p15</ref>=More on Love=
Let us grant that at first love may only be an extended selfishness and that this aspect Love is the nature of extended selfishness may persist and dominatethe lover, as it does still persist and dominate, in higher stages courage the nature of the evolution: still as mind evolves warrior; love and more courage are impersonal and more finds itselfuniversal forces or formulations of the cosmic Force, it comes by they are the experience spirit's powers of life its universal being and love and mutual help to perceive that nature. The Person is the natural individual Being supporting what is a minor term thus impersonal, holding it in himself as his, his nature of being self; he is that which is the lover and exists by the universalwarrior. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2122/the-ascentgnostic-of-lifebeing#p2p29</ref> <center>~</center>
The conscious preservation of individuality along Krishna with Radha is the consciously accepted necessity and desire symbol of interchange, self-giving and fusion with other individuals, the Divine Love. The flute is necessary for the working call of the principle of loveDivine Love; for if either is abolished, the working of love ceases, whatever may take its place. Fulfilment of love by entire self-immolation, even with an illusion of self-annihilation, peacock is indeed an idea and an impulse in the mental being, but it points to a development beyond this third status of Lifevictory.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2130/thegods-goddesses-and-ascentsemi-ofdivine-lifebeings#p7p13</ref>
Only he who loves can recognise love. Those who are incapable <center>~</center> Radha is the personification of giving themselves in a sincere the absolute lovefor the Divine, will never recognise love anywhere, total and integral in all parts of the more being from the love is divine, that is highest spiritual to say, unselfishthe physical, bringing the absolute self-giving and total consecration of all the being and calling down into the body and the most material Nature the less they can recognise itsupreme Ananda.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divinebhakti-loveyoga-and-vaishnavism#p33p61</ref>
Keep your love pure of all selfish claim and desire; you will find that you are getting all the love that you can bear and absorb in answer.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p25~</refcenter>
One does not say to God, "Show your The Divine has an equal love for me firstall human beings, shower on me but the experience obscurity of yourself, satisfy my demand, then I will see whether I can consciousness of most men prevents them from perceiving this divine love you so long as you deserve it." It is surely the seeker who must seek and love first, follow the quest, become impassioned for the Sought—then only does the veil move aside and the Light be seen and the Face manifest that alone can satisfy the soul after its long sojourn in the desert.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2914/bhaktidivine-yoga-and-vaishnavismlove#p11p31</ref>
If you want your love to be worthy of the one you love, if you want to enjoy love in its eternal perfection, become perfect, break out of the limitations of your ego, partake of eternity. And then you will always be close to the object of your love, for you will grow into his likeness.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/love-for-the-divine#p15</ref> Love alone can love, love alone can conquer the ego. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p24~</refcenter>
You feel lonely because you feel the need to be loved. Learn to love without demand, to love just for the joy of loving (the most wonderful joy in the world!) and you will never again feel lonely. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p29</ref>
<center>~</center> The thirst for affection and love is a human need, but it can be quenched only if it turns towards the Divine. As long as it seeks satisfaction in human beings, it will always be disappointed or wounded. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p17</ref>
It is not the love that someone feels for you that can make you happy, it is the love you feel for others that makes you happy: for you receive the love that you give from the Divine, who loves eternally and unfailingly.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p38</ref> ...our aim is to move towards a by a greater and happier manifestation. That too is a labour of divine Love.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/13/relations-with-persons-outside-the-ashram#p33~</refcenter> Only love can rule over True love by enlightening, transforming that which fulfils and exalting it. For here tooillumines, more than anywhere else, control does is not consist of suppression and abolition the love one receives but of transmutation—a sublime alchemy. This is because, of all the forces at work in the universe, love is the most powerful, the most irresistibleone gives. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1214/thedivine-four-austeritieslove-and-thehuman-four-liberationslove#p67p52</ref> <center>~</center>
So the part of the consciousness which has been struck by this opposition makes a direct appeal to the origin of ''Q. Are Divine Love, with an intensity which it would not have without the experience of this refusal. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-88-89-90-91-92#p7</ref> As for yoga we may add something else: it is as I said in the beginning, the will to pierce through this limited and human form of love and discover Grace the principle of divine Love which is behind it. Then one is sure to get a result. This is better than drying up onesame thing?'s heart. It is perhaps a little more difficult but it is better in every way, for like this, instead of egotistically making others suffer, well, one may leave them quiet in their own movement and only make an effort to transform oneself without imposing one's will on others, which even in ordinary life is a step towards something higher and a little more harmonious. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/19-september-1956#p30</ref>
So''A.'' Essentially, even if your love remained as pure as it can be in all things are the same. In its essence everything is the manifested worldsame, it could not keep you in constant contact with is a phenomenon of consciousness; but Love can exist without Grace and Grace can exist without Love. But for the Divine unless human consciousness all manifestation of Grace is a manifestation of the rest was transformedsupreme Love, inevitably. Only it goes beyond human consciousness. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0604/1424-aprilmarch-19541951#p19,p20</ref>
This was what I meant, not anything else. I was stating that a human being, unless he raises himself to the divine heights, is incapable of receiving, appreciating and knowing what divine Love is. Love must cease to be divine to be accepted by man.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/31-october-1956#p11</ref> Radha is the personification of the absolute love for the Divine, total and integral in all parts of the being from the highest spiritual to the physical, bringing the absolute self-giving and total consecration of all the being and calling down into the body and the most material Nature the supreme Ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-yoga-and-vaishnavism#p61~</refcenter>
One For God has just a tiny little openingnot set me here merely to think, to philosophise, very tinyto weave metaphysical systems, at times like a pinheadto play with words and syllogisms, but to act, love and naturally know. I must act divinely so that force rushes I may become divine in. For it is like an active atmospherebeing and deed; as soon as there is a possibility of being receivedI must learn to love God not only in Himself but in all beings, appearances, objects, enjoyments, it is received. But this is so for all divine things. They are thereevents, only one does not receive whether men call themgood or bad, for one is closed upreal or mythical, blockedfortunate or calamitous; one is busy and I must know Him with other things most of the time. Sosame divine impartiality and completeness in order that I may come to be like Him, perfect, as pure and unlimited—that which all sons of Man must one is full of oneself, there is no place for anything else. One is filled with things; there is no place for the Divineday be.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0612/19-may-1954philosophy#p12p2</ref>
To go through, to see what is behind it, not to stop at the appearance, not to be satisfied with the outer form, to look for the principle which is behind this love, and not be content until one has found the origin of the feeling in oneself. Then the outer form will crumble of itself and you will be in contact with the divine Love which is behind all things.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/19-september-1956#p23~</refcenter>
Therefore, the best way when love comes, in whatever form Thus if it may be, is to try and pierce through its outer appearance and find the divine principle which Love that is behind and which gives it existence. Naturallythe subject of concentration, it is full on the essence of snares and difficultiesthe idea of God as Love that the mind should concentrate in such a way that the various manifestations of the divine Love should arise luminously, but it is more effective. That is not only to saythe thought, instead but in the heart and being and vision of ceasing to love because one loves wrongly, one must cease to love wrongly and want to love wellthe sadhaka.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0823/19-september-1956concentration#p26p8</ref>
==Role of Psychic in Channelising Love==
A psychic fire within must be lit into which all is thrown with the Divine Name upon it. In that fire all the emotions are compelled to cast off their grosser elements and those that are undivine perversions are burned away and the others discard their insufficiencies, till the spirit of largest love and a stainless divine delight arises out of the flame and smoke and frankincense.
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===How <center>To live, to Purify the Mentallove are signs of infinite things, Physical to Receive and Give Love?===
A psychic change Love is demanded, a divestiture of the masks of the Ignorance, a purification of the egoistic mental, vital and physical movements that prolong the old inferior consciousness; each movement of love, spiritualised, must depend no longer on mental preference, vital passion or physical craving, but on the recognition of soul by soul,—love restored to its fundamental spiritual and psychic essence with the mind, the vital, the physical as manifesting instruments and elements of that greater oneness.<ref>http://incarnatewordglory from eternity's spheres.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p2</ref>
I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. FirstAbased, the love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic love only; it is the love of all the beingdisfigured, the vital and vital-physical included,—all are capable of the same self-giving.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/32/the-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p6</ref>mocked by baser mights
= Bhakti That steal his name and Love =shape and ecstasy,
Love, bhakti, surrender, He is still the psychic opening are the only short cut to the Divine—or godhead by which all can be; for if the love and bhakti are too vital, then there is likely to be a seesaw between ecstatic expectation and viraha, abhimāna, despair, which will make it not a shortcut but a long one, a zigzag, not a straight flight, a whirling round one's own ego instead of a running towards the Divinechange.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2934/the-central-processes-of-the-sadhanasatyavan#p18p48,p49</ref></center>
There are different kinds of bhakti and that which is of the nature of love is the strongest and is considered the highest, most intense and ecstatic of all. Also in love itself that form of it which is made of self-giving; surrender, absolute adoration, urge towards a selfless union is the true kind of bhakti that is love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-devotion-worship#p26</ref>
Selflessness, self-giving, entire faith and confidence, absence of demand and desire, surrender to the Divine Will, love concentrated on the Divine—are some of the main signs [of true love and bhakti]. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-devotion-worship#p28</ref>'''Content Curated by Pritu Vatsa'''
==More on Love==
Love is the nature of the lover, courage the nature of the warrior; love and courage are impersonal and universal forces or formulations of the cosmic Force, they are the spirit's powers of its universal being and nature. The Person is the Being supporting what is thus impersonal, holding it in himself as his, his nature of self; he is that which is the lover and warrior. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/22/the-gnostic-being#p29</ref> {|class="wikitable" style= "background-color: #efefff; width: 100%;"
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==References==
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