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=What is Love? =
<center>Love dwells in us like an unopened flower Awaiting a rapid moment of the soul, Or he roams in his charmed sleep mid thoughts and things; The child-god is at play, he seeks himself In many hearts and minds and living forms: He lingers for a sign that he can know And, when it comes, wakes blindly to a voice, A look, a touch, the meaning of a face. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/34/satyavan#p51</ref></center> = What is Love? = Love is a force and an action. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love#p30</ref> <center>~</center> Love is one of the great universal forces; it exists by itself and its movement is free and independent of the objects in which and through which it manifests. What you call love and think of as a personal or individual thing is only your capacity to receive and manifest this universal force. But because it is universal, it is not therefore an unconscious force; it is a supremely conscious Power. Consciously it seeks for its manifestation and realisation upon earth; consciously it chooses its instruments, awakens to its vibrations those who are capable of an answer, endeavours to realise in them that which is its eternal aim, and when the instrument is not fit, drops it and turns to look for others. Men think that they have suddenly fallen in love; they see their love come and grow and then it fades—or, it may be, endures a little longer in some who are more specially fitted for its more lasting movement. But their sense in this of a personal experience all their own was an illusion. It was a wave from the everlasting sea of universal love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p2</ref> <center>~</center> Love is universal and eternal; it is always manifesting itself and always identical in its essence. Love does not manifest in human beings alone; it is everywhere. Its movement is there in plants, perhaps in the very stones; in the animals it is easy to detect its presence. Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the Divine, a seeking absolute and regardless of all other things. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p3</ref> ==Nature of Love== Love is like a flame that changes what is hard into something malleable and even sublimates this malleable thing into a kind of purified vapour—it does not destroy, it transforms.  In its essence, in its origin, love is like a flame, a white flame which overcomes ''all'' resistance. You can experience this yourself: whatever the difficulty in your being, whatever the burden of accumulated error, ignorance, incapacity and bad will, a single ''second'' of this pure, essential, supreme love dissolves it as in an all-powerful flame; a single moment and a whole past can disappear; a single instant in which you ''touch'' it in its essence and a whole burden is consumed. [Based on Aphorism 49- To feel and love the God of beauty and good in the ugly and the evil, and still yearn in utter love to heal it of its ugliness and its evil, this is real virtue and morality. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-49#p11,p12</ref> <center>~</center> ...it is the joy of identity. Something must be there already which can become conscious of the identity, and that precisely is love. Then comes the manifestation of love. And in its supreme form, that is, when it returns to its source crossing all the phases of its manifestation, it becomes the bliss of union. For the feeling of union comes as a consequence of the feeling of separation. The passage through the whole manifested universe gives the feeling of separation from the Origin; and the return to the Origin is the bliss of union, that is, the two things that were separated are united once again. And it is still Love; it is Love after the great circuit of the manifestation. When it returns to its Origin, it becomes the bliss of union.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/05/26-august-1953#p6,p7</ref> <center>~</center> Love is in its nature the desire to give oneself to others and to receive others in exchange; it is a commerce between being and being. Physical life does not desire to give itself, it desires only to receive. It is true that it is compelled to give itself, for the life which only receives and does not give must become barren, wither and perish,—if indeed such life in its entirety is possible at all here or in any world; but it is compelled, not willing, it obeys the subconscious impulse of Nature rather than consciously shares in it. Even when love intervenes, the self-giving at first still preserves to a large extent the mechanical character of the subconscious will in the atom. Love itself at first obeys the law of hunger and enjoys the receiving and the exacting from others rather than the giving and surrendering to others which it admits chiefly as a necessary price for the thing that it desires. But here it has not yet attained to its true nature; its true law is to establish an equal commerce in which the joy of giving is equal to the joy of receiving and tends in the end to become even greater; but that is when it is shooting beyond itself under the pressure of the psychic flame to attain to the fulfilment of utter unity and has therefore to realise that which seemed to it not-self as an even greater and dearer self than its own individuality. In its life-origin, the law of love is the impulse to realise and fulfil oneself in others and by others, to be enriched by enriching, to possess and be possessed because without being possessed one does not possess oneself utterly.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-ascent-of-life#p9</ref> <center>~</center> The gnostic life will exist and act for the Divine in itself and in the world, for the Divine in all; the increasing possession of the individual being and the world by the Divine Presence, Light, Power, Love, Delight, Beauty will be the sense of life to the gnostic being. In the more and more perfect satisfaction of that growing manifestation will be the individual's satisfaction: his power will be the instrumentation of the power of Supernature for bringing in and extending that greater life and nature; whatever conquest and adventure will be there, will be for that only and not for the reign of any individual or collective ego. Love will be for him the contact, meeting, union of self with self, of spirit with spirit, a unification of being, a power and joy and intimacy and closeness of soul to soul, of the One to the One, a joy of identity and the consequences of a diverse identity. It is this joy of an intimate self-revealing diversity of the One, the multitudinous union of the One and a happy interaction in the identity, that will be for him the full revealed sense of life.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/22/the-gnostic-being#p21</ref> ==Origin of Love== ''Q. Where does love come from?'' ''A.'' Where does love come from? From the Origin of the universe. ...I say that love is a supreme force which the Eternal Consciousness has emanated in order to send it into the world. Love comes from that.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/05/26-august-1953#p3,p4,p5</ref>
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The material world in its darkness and ignorance had forgotten the Divine. Love is one of came into the great universal forcesdarkness; it awakened all that lay there asleep; it exists by itself whispered, opening the ears that were sealed: 'There is something worth waking to, worth living for, and its movement it is free and independent love!' And with the awakening to love there entered into the world the possibility of coming back to the objects in which and Divine. The creation moves upward through which it manifests.What you call love towards the Divine and think of as a personal or individual thing is only your capacity in answer there leans downward to receive meet the creation the Divine Love and manifest this universal forceGrace.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0305/226-juneaugusft-19291953#p2p1</ref>
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When Consciousness separated from its Origin and became Inconscience, the Origin emanated Love is universal to reawaken Consciousness from the depths of the Inconscience and eternal; bring it is always manifesting itself and always identical in back into touch with its essenceOrigin. Love does not manifest in human beings alone; it  It may be said that at its origin love is everywhere. Its movement is there in plantsthe supreme power of attraction which awakens, perhaps in the very stones; in the animals it is easy to detect its presence. Loveresponse, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no irresistible need of an absolute self-regarding attachmentgiving; it isthey are the two poles of the urge towards complete fusion.No other movement could, in its pure movementbetter and more surely than this, throw a bridge across the seeking for union abyss dug by the sense of separation that comes from the self with formation of the Divine, a seeking absolute and regardless of all other thingsindividual. What human beings have made of it, we do not need It was necessary to bring back to say; they have turned it itself what had been projected into an ugly and repulsive thingspace without destroying for this purpose the universe created thus. And yet even in human beings That is why love sprang up, the first contact irresistible power of union.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love does bring down something #p21,p22,p23</ref> =Types of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment Love===Divine Love== Divine love is of forgetting themselves, two kinds—the Divine love for a moment its divine touch awakens the creation and magnifies all the souls that is fine are part of itself and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface love of the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking seeker and love for something in exchange, bartering what the Divine Beloved; it giveshas both a personal and impersonal element, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting but the personal is free here from all lower elements or bondage to the vital and soiling what was divinephysical instincts. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0329/2divine-love-psychic-love-and-junehuman-1929love#p3p44</ref>
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When Consciousness separated from its Origin and became Inconscience, And the Origin emanated supreme Love is a love without any definite object―the love which loves because it cannot do other than to reawaken Consciousness from the depths of the Inconscience and bring it back into touch with its Originlove. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p20p52</ref>
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The material world Divine Love, in my view of it, is again not something ethereal, cold and far, but a love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness and rapture using all the nature for its darkness expression. Certainly, it is without the confusions and ignorance had forgotten disorders of the Divine. Love came present lower vital nature which it will change into the darknesssomething entirely warm, deep and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it awakened all will lose anything that lay is true and happy in the elements of love. Love cannot be cold—for there asleep; it whisperedis no such thing as cold love, opening but the love of which the ears Mother speaks in that were sealed: 'There passage is something worth waking tovery pure, worth living fixed and constant; it does not leap like fire and sink forwant of fuel, but is steady and all-embracing and self-existent like the light of the sun.  There is also a divine love that is personal, but it is not like the ordinary personal human love!' And with dependent on any return from the awakening person—it is personal but not egoistic,—it goes from the real being in the one to love there entered into the world real being in the possibility of coming back other. But to find that, liberation from the Divineordinary human way of approach is necessary.  The creation moves upward through love towards Divine Love, unlike the Divine human, is deep and vast and silent; one must become quiet and in answer there leans downward wide to meet the creation the Divine Love be aware of it and Gracereply to it. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0529/26divine-love-psychic-love-and-augusthuman-1953love#p1p36,p37,p38</ref>
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The true divine love is above all quarrels. It has even been said that creation itself was an act of love or at least is the building up experience of a field perfect union in which Divine Love could devise its symbols an invariable joy and fulfil itself in act of mutuality and self-giving, and, if not the initial nature of creation, this may well be its ultimate object and motivepeace. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2316/theletters-ascentto-ofa-theyoung-sacrificesadhak-iiiv#p10p22</ref>
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The higher Consciousness With the Divine's Love is the power of Transformation. It has this power because it is a state for the sake of pure love Transformation that it has given itself to the world and manifested everywhere. Not only into man but into all the atoms of Matter has it infused itself in order to bring the world back to the original Truth. The moment you open to it, you receive also its power of Transformation. But it is also a state not in terms of pure openness quantity that you can measure it—what is essential is the true contact; for you will find that the true contact with it is sufficient to divine knowledgefill at once the whole of your being.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1615/19-october-1939transformation#p3p31</ref>
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A supreme divine Love is a supreme force which the Eternal Consciousness sent down from creative Power and, even though it can exist in itself into an obscure silent and unchangeable, yet rejoices in external form and darkened world that it might bring back that world expression and its beings is not condemned to be a speechless and bodiless godhead.It has even been said that creation itself was an act of love or at least the building up of a field in which Divine. Love came into could devise its symbols and fulfil itself in act of mutuality and self-giving, and, if not the darkness; it awakened all that lay there asleep; it whisperedinitial nature of creation, opening this may well be its ultimate object and motive. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the ears that were sealed, "There -ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p10</ref> ===Psychic Love=== The Divine's love is something that is worth waking to, worth living for, which comes from above poured down from the Divine Oneness and it its Ananda on the being—psychic love is a form taken by divine love!" This in the human movement being according to the needs and possibilities of love is secretly seeking for something else than what it has yet found; but it does not know where to find it, it does not even know what it isthe human consciousness. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0329/2divine-love-psychic-love-and-junehuman-1929love#p11</ref>
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The lover of Nature does this when he takes joy in all When the things of Nature universally without admitting repulsion or fear or mere liking and disliking, perceiving beauty in that which seems to others mean and insignificant, bare and savage, terrible and repellent. The artist and the poet do psychic loves it when they seek the rasa of the universal from the aesthetic emotion or from the physical line or from loves with the mental form of beauty or from the inner sense and power alike of that from which the ordinary man turns away and of that to which he is attached by a sense of pleasureDivine Love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-double-soul-in-man#p9</ref>
Love will be for him the contactWhen you love, meeting, union of self you love with self, of spirit with spirit, a unification of being, a power and joy and intimacy the Divine's love diminished and closeness of soul to souldistorted by your ego, but in its essence still the Divine's love. It is for the facility of the One to language that you say the Onelove of this one or that one, a joy of identity and but it is all the consequences of a diverse identitysame one Love manifested through different channels.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2214/thedivine-love-and-gnostichuman-beinglove#p21p57,p58,p59</ref>
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Nature took up this sublime force ...there is in the highest or deepest kind of love the psychic element, which comes from the innermost heart and put it soul, a kind of inner union or self-giving or at the service least a seeking for that, a tie or an urge independent of her creative work by linking other conditions or elements, existing for its own sake and mixing it with her movement of procreationnot for any mental, vital or physical pleasure, satisfaction, interest or habit. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1229/thedivine-fourlove-austeritiespsychic-love-and-the-fourhuman-liberationslove#p72p28</ref>
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In its essence, in its origin, Psychic love is like a flamequite satisfying, a white flame which overcomes all resistance. You can experience this yourself: whatever the difficulty in your being, whatever the burden of accumulated error, ignorance, incapacity and bad will, a single second of this pure, essential, supreme love dissolves it as in an all-powerful flame; a single moment and a whole past can disappear; a single instant in which you touch it in its essence and a whole burden is consumed. [Based on Aphorism 49- To feel and love the God of beauty and good in the ugly and change even the evil, and still yearn in utter vital love to heal it of its ugliness and its evil, this is real virtue into something great and moralitybeautiful.]<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1029/aphorismdivine-love-psychic-love-and-49human-love#p12p15</ref>
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It A psychic love towards all is also emerging; this love is for a thing inward and does not seek to express itself outwardly like the facility of vital love which men usually have. The psychic and spiritual attitude is also not dependent on the language that you say the love of this one or that onegood and bad in beings, but it is all self-existent regarding them as souls who carry the Divine in them however thickly concealed and are children of the same one Love manifested through different channelsMother. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1430/divinethe-emergence-loveor-coming-forward-andof-humanthe-lovepsychic#p58p14</ref> <center>~</center>
=Types Psychic love can have a warmth and a flame as intense and more intense than the vital, only it is a pure fire, not dependent on the satisfaction of Love=ego-desire or on the eating up of the fuel it embraces. It is a white flame, not a red one; but white heat is not inferior to the red variety in its ardour. It is true that the psychic love does not usually get its full play in human relations and human nature, it finds the fullness of its fire and ecstasy more easily when it is lifted towards the Divine. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/sabcl/23/human-relationships-in-yoga-i#p45</ref>
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If love is psychic in its nature, it always brings a sense of oneness or at least of an inner intimate closeness of being. The Divine Love is based upon oneness and the psychic derives from the essence of Truth and cannot be affected by human confusionsDivine Love. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13p12</ref>
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The psychic love is pure and full of self-giving without egoistic demand, but it is human and can err and suffer. The Divine Love is not an emotionsomething much vaster and deeper and full of light and ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13</ref> ===Universal Love=== Universal love is the spiritual founded on the sense of the One and the Divine everywhere and the change of the personal into a wide universal consciousness,—a very different thing to sayfree from attachment and ignorance. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p39p43</ref>
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...there is in As with individual, so with universal Love; all that widening of the highest or deepest kind self through sympathy, goodwill, universal benevolence and beneficence, love of mankind, love of creatures, the attraction of all the psychic elementmyriad forms and presences that surround us, by which comes mentally and emotionally man escapes from the innermost heart and soul, a kind first limits of inner union or self-giving or at least a seeking for thathis ego, has to be taken up into a tie or an urge independent of other conditions or elements, existing unifying divine love for its own sake and not for any mental, vital or physical pleasure, satisfaction, interest or habitthe universal Divine. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2923/divine-lovethe-psychicascent-loveof-andthe-humansacrifice-loveii#p28p5</ref>
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Divine The ''dynamic'' Love, cannot go out equally to all—that would create a chaotic disturbance because of the unpreparedness of the majority. It is only the static immutable universal Love that can apply equally to all—that which comes in my view a still wideness of the heart which corresponds with the still wideness of it, the mind in which there is again not something ethereal, cold the equanimity and infinite peace.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/sabcl/23/sadhana-through-love-and far, but a -devotion-i#p53</ref> ===Supramental Love=== The supramental love absolutely means an intenseunity of soul with soul, mind with mind, life with life, intimate and full an entire flooding of unity, closeness and rapture using all the nature for its expression. Certainlybody consciousness with the physical experience of oneness, it is without the confusions and disorders presence of the present lower vital nature which it will change into something entirely warmBeloved in every part, deep and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it will lose anything that is true and happy in every cell of the elements of lovebody. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-yoga-and-vaishnavism#p37</ref> == Human Love ==
Love cannot be cold—for there is no such thing as cold Once you have come in contact with this large, pure and true Divine love, but the love if you have felt it even for a short time and in its smallest form, you will realise what an abject thing human desire has made of which the Mother speaks it. It has become in that passage is human nature something very purelow, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, fixed and constant; or else it does not leap like fire is something weak and sink for want sentimental, made up of fuelthe pettiest feeling, but is steady and all-embracing brittle, superficial, exacting. And this baseness and brutality or this self-existent like the light of the sun. regarding weakness they call love! <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2903/divine-love-psychic-love-and2-humanjune-love1929#p37p7</ref>
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There is also a divine love that is personalLove, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, but no self-regarding attachment; it is not like , in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the ordinary personal Divine, a seeking absolute and regardless of all other things. Love divine gives itself and asks for nothing. What human love dependent on any return from the person—it is personal but beings have made of it, we do not egoistic,—it goes from the real being in the one need to the real being say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the otherfirst contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to find that, liberation from the ordinary surface the human way nature, full of approach is necessaryits impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2905/divine19-loveaugust-psychic-love-and-human-love1953#p37p21</ref>
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The soul's turning through love to the Divine must be through a Human love that is essentially nothing but divine, but as an instrument of expression at first is human nature, it takes the forms of human love perverted and bhakti. It is only as distorted by the consciousness deepens, heightens and changes that that greater eternal love can grow in instrument through which it and openly transform the human into the divineis expressed. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2910/divine-love-psychic-love-and-humanaphorism-love534#p32p4</ref>
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When the love goes towards the Divine, there is still this ordinary human element in it. There is the call for a return and if the return does not seem to come, the love may sink; there is the self-interest, the demand for the Divine as a giver of all that the human being wants and, if the demands are not acceded to, abhimana against the Divine, loss of faith, loss of fervour. Etc. etc. But the true love for the Divine is in its fundamental nature not of this kind, but psychic and spiritual. The psychic element is the need of the inmost being for self-giving, Human love, adoration, union which can only be fully satisfied by the Divine. The spiritual element is the need made up of the being for contactemotion, merging, union with its own highest and whole self and source of being and consciousness passion and blissdesire, the Divine. These two are two sides —all of the same thing. The mind, them vitalmovements, physical can be therefore bound to the supports and recipients disabilities of this love, but they can be fully that only when they become remoulded into harmony with the psychic and spiritual elements of the being and no longer bring in the lower insistences of the egohuman vital nature. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p29p39</ref>
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The Human love is mostly vital and physical with a mental support—it can take an unselfish, noble and pure form and expression only if it is touched by the psychic. It is true , as you say, that it is more usually a mixture of ignorance, attachment, passion and desire. But whatever it may be, one who wishes to reach the Divine must not burden himself with human loves and attachments, for they form so many fetters and hamper his steps, turning him away besides from the concentration of his emotions on the one supreme object of love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine -love-psychic-love-and-human-love #p41</ref> === Physical Love === There may too be a physical love, the attraction of beauty, the physical sex-appeal or anything else of the kind awakening the emotions of the heart. If that does not happen, then the physical need is above all quarrelsand that is sheer lust, nothing more. But physical love is possible. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p31</ref> ===Mental Love=== In the same way there can be a mental love. It arises from the attempt to find one's ideal in another or from some strong mental passion of admiration and wonder or from the mind's seeking for a comrade, a complement and fulfiller of one's nature, a ''sahadharmī'', a guide and helper, a leader and master or from a hundred other mental motives. By itself that does not amount to love, though often it is so ardent as to be hardly distinguishable from it and may even push to sacrifice of life, entire self-giving etc. etc. But when it awakes the experience emotions of perfect union the heart, then it may lead to a very powerful love which is yet mental in an invariable joy its root and peacedominant character.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1631/letterssex#p32</ref> ===Vital Love=== There are in the vital itself two kinds of love,—one full of joy and confidence and abandon, generous, unbargaining, ungrudging and very absolute in its dedication and this is akin to the psychic and well-fitted tobe its complement and a means of expression of the divine love… But there is another way of vital love which is more usually the way of human nature and that is a way of ego and desire. It is full of vital craving, desire and demand; its continuance depends upon the satisfaction of its demands; if it does not get what it craves, or even imagines that it is not being treated as it deserves—for it is full of imaginations, misunderstandings, jealousies, misinterpretations—it at once turns to sorrow, wounded feeling, revolt, pride, anger, all kinds of disorder, finally cessation and departure. …Love should be a flowering of joy and union and confidence and self-giving and Ananda,—but this lower vital way is only asource of suffering, trouble, disappointment, disillusion and disunion. Even a slight element of it shakes the foundations of peace and replaces the movement towards Ananda by a fall towards sorrow, discontent and Nirananda. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-younglove-sadhakpsychic-ivlove-and-human-love#p22p32,p33</ref>
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Krishna with Radha There is a vital love, a physical love. It is possible for the vital to desire a woman for various vital reasons without love—in order to satisfy the instinct of domination or possession, in order to draw in the vital forces of a woman so as to feed one's own vital or for the exchange of vital forces, to satisfy vanity, the symbol hunter's instinct of the Divine Lovechase etc. The flute etc.This is often called love, but it is only vital desire, a kind of lust. If however the call emotions of the Divine Love; the peacock is victoryheart are awakened, then it becomes vital love, a mixed affair with any or all of these vital motives strong, but still vital love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3031/gods-goddesses-and-semi-divine-beingssex#p13p30</ref>
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When Vital emotions are of an altogether different nature—they are very clear, very precise, you reach can express them very distinctly; they are violent, they usually fill you with an intensity, a restlessness, sometimes a great satisfaction. some people imagine they experience love only when it is like that, when love is in the contact vital, when it comes with all the Divine's love you see movements of the vital, all this intensity, this violence, this precision, this glamour, this brightness. And when that is absent, they say, "Oh, this is not love in everything and all circumstances."<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1415/divine30-lovejanuary-1951#p3p31</ref>
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The When the vital joins in the love for the Divine, it brings into it heroism, enthusiasm, intensity, absoluteness, exclusiveness, the spirit of self-sacrifice, the total and passionate self-giving of all the nature. It is the vital passion for the Divine has an equal that creates the spiritual heroes, conquerors or martyrs. I have never said that the vital is to have no part in the love for all human beingsthe Divine, but only that it must purify and ennoble itself in the obscurity light of consciousness the psychic being. The results of most men prevents them from perceiving this divine self-loving lovebetween human beings are so poor and contrary in the end—that is what I mean by the ordinary vital love—that I want something purer and nobler and higher in the vital also for the movement towards the Divine. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p30p50,p51</ref>
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To The love truly in the vital or other parts is the true thing, good for the spiritual life, only when in the vital love is changed into a form of the psychic love and becomes an instrument for the transformation of the soul's love, no longer for the desires of the ego which men call love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/human-relations-and-the Divine-spiritual-life#p54</ref> ==Misapprehensions Related to Love== It has become human nature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is something weak and sentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, superficial, we must rise above attachmentsexacting. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love! <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1403/2-june-1929#p7</ref> <center>~</center> As for love, the love must be turned singly towards the Divine. What men call by that name is a vital interchange for mutual satisfaction of desire, vital impulse or physical pleasure. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/sabcl/24/transformation-forof-the-divinevital-x#p24p31</ref>
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Divine Love can overcome All these "feelings"—what to call them?—have a mode of vibration, with something very essential at the core, and covering layers, as it were. And the most central vibration is the same, and as it expands to express itself, it becomes distorted. With love, it is quite obvious; it becomes, outwardly, in the vast majority of cases, something whose nature is quite different from the evil inner vibration, because it is something that withdraws into itself, shrivels up and cruel―the tiger does wants to draw things towards itself in an egoistic movement of possession. You ''want'' to be loved. You say, "I love that person," but at the same time there is what you want; the feeling is lived as, "I want to be loved." And so this distortion is almost as great as the distortion of hatred which consists in wanting to destroy what you love in order not attack to be bound by it.Because you cannot obtain what you want from the object of your love, you want to destroy it in order to become free; in the other case, you shrivel up almost in an inner rage, because you cannot obtain, you cannot absorb what you love. [Based on Aphorisms - 113—Hatred is the sign of a secret attraction that is eager to flee from itself and furious to deny its own existence. That too is God's play in His creature.114—Selfishness is the yogionly sin, meanness the only vice, hatred the only criminality. All else can easily be turned into good, but these are obstinate resisters of deity. ]<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1410/generalaphorism-113-1114#p7p5</ref>
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With Certainly, one has the Divineright to love and true love carries in itself its joy, but unfortunately human beings are egoistic and immediately mix with their love the ''desire to be loved's Love ' in return, and this desire is contrary to spiritual truth and the power cause of Transformationpassions and sufferings. It has  The one you love must have the right of freedom in her feelings and if you want the truth you must understand this power because right and accept it . Otherwise there will be no end to your miseries. This is for an occasion to surmount your egoism and to open to the sake of Transformation true life.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p6</ref> ===Difference between Aspiration and Desire=== The essential difference between love in aspiration and love in desire is that love in aspiration gives itself entirely and asks nothing in return—it does not claim anything; whereas love in desire gives itself as little as possible, asks as much as possible, it has given pulls things to itself to the world and manifested everywherealways makes demands. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1504/transformation22-february-1951#p31p21</ref> === Difference between Vital Desire and Psychic Love===
If the spirit of divine Psychic love can enter, the hardness of the way diminishes, never bargains—but the tension is lightened, there is a sweetness and joy even vital always tries to derive some benefit for itself in the core of difficulty and struggleall circumstances. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0817/826-augustjune-19561935#p10p4</ref>
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There Psychic love is only one true love—it always peaceful and joyous; it is the Divine Love; all other loves are diminutions, limitations vital which dramatizes and deformations of that Lovemakes itself unhappy without any reason. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p16</ref> <center>~</center> It is difficult to define its [''psychic love's''] limits or to recognise it. Even For even when there is the psychic love of for another person, it gets in the human being so mixed up with the vital that it is the bhakta commonest thing to justify a vital love by claiming for his God it a psychic character. One could say that psychic love is distinguished by an essential purity and selflessness—but the vital can put on a diminution very brilliant imitation of that character, when it likes.<ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/human-relations-and-the-spiritual-life#p58</ref> ==Love and often is tainted Sex== Nature took up this sublime force of love and put it at the service of her creative work by egoismlinking and mixing it with her movement of procreation. But as one tends quite naturally to This association has even become like what one lovesso close, so intimate, the bhaktathat very few human beings are illumined enough in their consciousness to be able to dissociate these movements from each other and experience them separately. In this way, if he is sincerelove has suffered every degradation, begins it has been debased to become like the Divine whom he adores, and thus his love becomes purer and purerlevel of the beast.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1612/10the-four-austerities-and-the-junefour-1964liberations#p2p72</ref>
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As supramental Truth All movements are in the mass movements of Nature's cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The individual receives something of them, a wave or pressure of some cosmic force, and is driven by it; he thinks it is his own, generated in himself separately, but it is not merely so, it is part of a sublimation of our mental ideasgeneral movement which works just in the same way in others. Sex, for instance, so Divine Love is not merely a sublimation movement of human emotions; general Nature seeking for its play and it uses this or that one—a man vitally or physically "in love" as it is called with a different consciousnesswoman is simply repeating and satisfying the world-movement of sex, if it had not been that woman, with a different qualityit would have been another; he is simply an instrument in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement . So it is with anger and substanceother Nature-motives. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p40p5</ref>
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The DivineIt is not that it is not possible to keep the love pure, but the two things [''s love and sex-desire''] are so near each other and have been so much twined together in the animal beginnings of the race that it is that not easy to keep them altogether separate. In the pure psychic love there is no trace of the sex-desire, but usually the vital affection gets very strongly associated with the psychic which comes from above poured down from is then mixed though still not sexual; but the Divine Oneness vital affection and its Ananda on the being—psychic love vital physical sex-emotion are entirely close to each other, so that at any moment or in any given case one may awake the other. This becomes very strong when the sex-force is strong in an individual as it is a form taken by divine love in most vitally energetic people. To increase always the force of the human being according psychic, to control the needs sex-impulse and possibilities of turn it into the ''ojas'', to turn the love towards the Divine are the human consciousnesstrue remedies for this difficulty. Seminal force not sexually spent can always be turned into ''ojas''. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p11p21</ref>
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Divine LoveWhen the psychic puts its influence on the vital, in my view the first thing you must be careful to avoid is any least mixture of it, a wrong vital movement with the psychic movement. Lust is again not something ethereal, cold and far, but a the perversion or degradation which prevents love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness and rapture using all the nature for from establishing its expression. Certainly, it reign; so when there is without the confusions and disorders movement of psychic love in the present lower heart, lust or vital nature which it will change into something entirely warmdesire is the one thing that must not be allowed to come in—just as when strength comes down from above, deep personal ambition and intensepride have to be kept far away from it; but that is no reason for supposing that it any mixture of the perversion will lose anything that is corrupt the psychic or spiritual action and prevent a true and happy in the elements of lovefulfilment. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p36p22</ref>
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Divine What is real love is ? Get clear of two kinds—the Divine love for all the creation and the souls that are part of itself sentimental sexual turmoil and go back to the soul,—then there is real love of . It is then also you would be able to receive the seeker and overwhelming love for the Divine Beloved; it has both a personal and impersonal element, but without getting the personal is free here from all lower elements or bondage to the vital and physical instinctsbeing into an excitement which might be disastrous. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p44p24</ref>
=== True Why is Love ==Essential?=
The true love for When you reach the contact with the Divine is self-giving, free of demand, full of submission 's love you see this love in everything and surrender. It makes no claim, imposes no condition, strikes no bargain, indulges in no violence of jealousy or pride or anger―for these things are not in its compositionall circumstances. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-for-the-divine#p20p3</ref>
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The true For there is, concealed behind individual love for , obscured by its ignorant human figure, a mystery which the mind cannot seize, the mystery of the body of the Divine is , the secret of a self-giving, free mystic form of the Infinite which we can approach only through the ecstasy of demand, full the heart and the passion of submission the pure and surrender; it makes no claimsublimated sense, imposes no conditionand its attraction which is the call of the divine Flute-player, strikes no bargain, indulges in no violences the mastering compulsion of jealousy or pride or anger—for these things are not in its composition. In return the Divine Mother also gives herselfAll-Beautiful, but freely—and this represents itself in can only be seized and seize us through an inner giving—her presence in your mind, your vital, your physical consciousness, her power re-creating you occult love and yearning which in the divine nature, taking up all end makes one the movements of your being Form and directing them towards perfection the Formless, and fulfilment, her love enveloping you identifies Spirit and carrying you in its arms GodwardsMatter. It is this that you must aspire to feel and possess which the spirit in Love is seeking here in all your parts down to the very material, darkness of the Ignorance and here there it is that which it finds when individual human love is no limitation either changed into the love of time or of completenessthe Immanent Divine incarnate in the material universe. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2923/divinethe-loveascent-psychicof-love-andthe-humansacrifice-loveii#p24p4</ref>
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True love Love is something very deep the power and calm in passion of the divine self-delight and without love we may get the rapt peace of its intensity; it may quite well infinity, the absorbed silence of the Ananda, but not manifest itself in any exterior acts sensational or affectionateits absolute depth of richness and fullness. Love leads us from the suffering of division into the bliss of perfect union, but without losing that joy of the act of union which is the soul's greatest discovery and for which the life of the cosmos is a long preparation. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1424/divine-love-and-humanthe-triple-lovepath#p64p5</ref>
===Psychic Love =To Deal with Difficulties==
A psychic If the spirit of divine love towards all can enter, the hardness of the way diminishes, the tension is also emerging; this love lightened, there is a thing inward sweetness and does not seek to express itself outwardly like joy even in the vital love which men usually havecore of difficulty and struggle. The psychic indispensable surrender of all our will and spiritual attitude works and activities to the Supreme is also not dependent on the good indeed only perfect and bad in beings, but perfectly effective when it is self-existent regarding them as souls who carry the Divine in them however thickly concealed and are children a surrender of the Motherlove.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3023/the-emergence-or-coming-forwardascent-of-the-psychicsacrifice-ii#p14p11</ref>
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Psychic love Nothing can have a warmth and a flame as intense and more intense than resist the vital, only it is a pure fire, not dependent on the satisfaction steady action of ego-desire or on the eating up of the fuel it embraceslove. It is a white flame, not a red one; but white heat is not inferior to the red variety in its ardourmelts all resistances and triumphs over all difficulties...<ref>http://incarnateword. It is true that the psychic love does not usually get its full play in human relations and human nature, it finds the fullness of its fire and ecstasy more easily when it is lifted towards the Divine./cwm/16/9-november-1938#p2</ref> <center>~</center>
If It is as the love is psychic in its nature, it always brings a sense of oneness or at least of an inner intimate closeness of being. The the Divine Love is based upon oneness and grows that the psychic derives from other things cease to trouble the Divine Lovemind. <ref>httpshttp://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divinehuman-loverelations-psychicand-lovethe-andspiritual-human-lovelife#p12,p13p22</ref>
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The psychic love is pure And yet men have invented all kinds of moral and full social rules in the hope of controlling this force of self-giving without egoistic demandlove, but of making it amenable and docile. But these rules seem to have been made only to be broken; and the restraint they impose on its free activity merely increases its explosive power. For it is human not by rules that the movements of love can be disciplined. Only a greater, higher and truer power of love can err subdue the uncontrollable impulses of love. Only love can rule over love by enlightening, transforming and sufferexalting it. The Divine Love For here too, more than anywhere else, control does not consist of suppression and abolition but of transmutation—a sublime alchemy. This is because, of all the forces at work in the universe, love is something much vaster the most powerful, the most irresistible. Without love the world would fall back into the chaos of inconscience. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/12/the-four-austerities-and deeper -the-four-liberations#p67</ref> ==To Realise the Oneness== All true love and full sacrifice are in their essence Nature's contradiction of light the primary egoism and anandaits separative error; it is her attempt to turn from a necessary first fragmentation towards a recovered oneness. All unity between creatures is in its essence a self-finding, a fusion with that from which we have separated, a discovery of one's self in others. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2923/divinethe-lovesacrifice-the-psychictriune-lovepath-and-the-lord-of-the-sacrifice#p2</ref> <center>~</center> Wherever into a humanstory of love, there has entered even an atom of pure love and it has been allowed to manifest without too much distortion, we find a true and beautiful thing. And if the movement does not last, it is because it is not conscious of its own aim and seeking; it has not the knowledge that it is not the union of one being with another that it is seeking after but the union of all beings with the Divine.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-love1929#p13p10</ref>
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The psychic realisation oneness with all in its basis is something self-existent and self-content which does not ''need'' expression. When it does express itself as love, it is one of diversity in unity (the portion something wide and universal, untroubled and the whole); firm even when it is not one of dissolving like a drop of water intense. This is in the sea—for then no love or devotion basic cosmic oneness. There is possible unless it also the surface cosmic consciousness which is love an awareness of the play of oneselfcosmic forces—here anything may rise, devotion to oneselfsex also. It is this part that needs the perfect psychisation, otherwise one cannot even hold, contain and deal with it in the proper way.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p19p22</ref>
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When For supramental Love brings an active ecstasy that surpasses the void passive peace and stillness which is the heaven of the liberated Mind and does not betray the deeper greater calm which is the beginning of the supramental silence. The unity of a love which is able to include in itself all differences without being diminished or abrogated by their present limitations and apparent dissonances is raised to its full potentiality on the supramental level. For there is no demand an intense oneness with all creatures founded on a profound oneness of the soul with the Divine can harmonise with a play of relations that only makes the oneness more perfect and absolute. The power of Love supramentalised can take hold of all living relations without hesitation or desiredanger and turn them Godwards delivered from their crude, mixed and petty human settings and sublimated into the happy material of a divine life. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p15</ref> == Why Doesn’t Love Manifest? == When the surroundings, circumstances, atmosphere, the way of living and above all the inner attitude are altogether of a low kind, vulgar, gross, egoistic, sordid, only love is reluctant to come, that is, it always hesitates to manifest itself and generally does not stay long. A home of beauty must be given for Beauty to stay. I am not speaking of external things—a real house, real furniture and all that—I am speaking of an inner attitude, of something within which is beautiful, noble, harmonious, unselfish. But when, as soon as it tries to manifest, it is immediately mixed with such low and self-givingugly things, it does not remain, it goes away.This is what Sri Aurobindo says: it is "reluctant to be born"—it could be said that it immediately regrets being born. Men always complain that love does not stay with them but it is entirely their fault. They give this love such a sordid life, mixed with a heap of horrors and such vulgarity, things so base, so selfish, so dirty, that the psychic poor thing cannot stay. If they don't succeed in killing it altogether, they make it utterly sick. So the only thing it can do is to take flight. People always complain that loveis impermanent and passing. To tell the truth, they should be very grateful that it manifested in them in spite of the sordidness of the house they gave it.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2904/divine12-may-1951#p3</ref> = How to Love? = The Rungs of Love At first one loves only when one is loved. Next, one loves spontaneously, but one wants to be loved in return.Then one loves even if one is not loved, but one still wants one's love-psychicto be accepted.And finally one loves purely and simply, without any other need or joy than that of loving. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p14p32,p33,p34,p35,p36</ref>
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Psychic ''Q. Mother, what kind of love is that which says, "If you love me, I shall love you"?'' ''A.'' If you love me, I shall love you? That's exactly the way men speak: "If you love me, I love you, if you don't love me, I don't love you." This is just the most human expression of love. And it goes still farther, they apply it also to their relation with the Divine. They say to the Divine: "If you do what I want, I shall say that you love me, and I shall love you. But if you don't do what I want, then I won't think at all that you love me, and I certainly will not love you."That's how it is. That means that it becomes commercial. ''But "If you don't love me, I shall love you"?'' That begins to be better! And what is better still is not to ask oneself whether one is loved or not, one should be absolutely indifferent to that. And that begins to be true love: one loves because one loves, not at all because one receives a response to one's love or because the other person loves you. All those conditions—that is not love. One loves because one cannot do otherwise but love. One loves because one loves. One doesn't care at all about what will happen; one is perfectly satisfied with the feeling of one's love. One loves because one loves. All the rest is bargaining, it is not love. And, moreover, one thing is certain: the moment one experiences true love , one doesn't even put the question any longer. It seems altogether childish and ridiculous and insignificant to ask this question. One has the complete plenitude of joy and realisation the moment one experiences true love and one doesn't at all need any kind of response. One is quite satisfyinglove, that's all. And one has the plenitude of the satisfaction of love. There is no need at all of any reciprocity. I tell you, so long as there is this calculation in the mind or the feelings and sensations, so long as there is some calculation, more or less acknowledged, it is bargaining, it is not love. You can change even 't manage to understand?... I hope it will come one day! All the vital rest is exactly what men have made of love into something great . And besides it is not very pretty and leads to all kinds of things which are still less pretty, like jealousy, for instance, or envy, and beautifulin violent natures it goes as far as hatred. The small beginning is this: the need, when one loves, that what one loves or the person one loves should know that he is loved. But in the relation with the Divine: one loves the Divine but insists that the Divine should know that one loves Him! That's the beginning of the fall. One does not even think about the real thing. It doesn't even slightly touch the mind.<ref>httpOne doesn't think://incarnatewordone loves, that's all.One loves and is in/cwsa/29/divine-the plenitude of love-psychic-and the intense joy of love-, and-human-love#p15</ref>then, that's all.
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This was the supreme love, to accept the loss of the perfect condition of supreme divinity, its absolute consciousness, its infinite knowledge, to unite with unconsciousness, to dwell in the world with ignorance and darkness. And yet none perhaps would call it love; for it does not clothe itself in a superficial sentiment, it makes no demand in exchange for what it has done, no show of its sacrifice. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p6</ref>
===Universal '' Q. It is said that to become conscious of divine Love===all other love has to be abandoned. What is the best way of rejecting the other love which clings so obstinately'' (''Laughter'') ''and does not easily leave us?'' '' A.'' To go through it. Ah!To go through, to see what is behind it, not to stop at the appearance, not to be satisfied with the outer form, to look for the principle which is behind this love, and not be content until one has found the origin of the feeling in oneself. Then the outer form will crumble of itself and you will be in contact with the divine Love which is behind all things. That is the best way.
Universal love is To want to get rid of the spiritual founded on one in order to find the sense other is very difficult. It is almost impossible. For human nature is so limited, so full of the One contradictions and so exclusive in its movements that if one wants to reject love in its lower form, that is to say, human love as human beings experience it, if one makes an inner effort to reject it, one usually rejects the Divine everywhere entire capacity of feeling love and the change of the personal into becomes like a wide universal consciousness, free from attachment and ignorance.<ref>http://incarnatewordstone.And then sometimes one has to wait for years or centuries before there is a reawakening in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-oneself of the capacity to receive and-human-manifest love#p43</ref>.
===Supramental Love===Therefore, the best way when love comes, in whatever form it may be, is to try and pierce through its outer appearance and find the divine principle which is behind and which gives it existence. Naturally, it is full of snares and difficulties, but it is more effective. That is to say, instead of ceasing to love because one loves wrongly, one must cease to love wrongly and want to love well. For instance, love between human beings, in all its forms, the love of parents for children, of children for parents, of brothers and sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selfishness and all the other defects which are man's ordinary drawbacks; so instead of completely ceasing to love—which, besides, is very difficult as Sri Aurobindo says, which would simply dry up the heart and serve no end—one must learn how to love better: to love with devotion, with self-giving, self-abnegation, and to struggle, not against love itself, but against its distorted forms: against all forms of monopolising, of attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, and all the feelings which accompany these main movements. Not to want to possess, to dominate; and not to want to impose one's will, one's whims, one's desires; not to want to take, to receive, but to give; not to insist on the other's response, but be content with one's own love; not to seek one's personal interest and joy and the fulfilment of one's personal desire, but to be satisfied with the giving of one's love and affection; and not to ask for any response. Simply to be happy to love, nothing more.
The supramental If you do that, you have taken a great stride forward and can, through this attitude, gradually advance farther in the feeling itself, and realise one day that love is notsomething personal, as that love is a universal divine feeling which manifests through you can imaginemore or less finely, but which in its essence is something cold, hard and rocklikedivine.The first step is to stop being selfish. It bears within For everyone it is the presence of the Divine Love as well as the Divine Truth and its reign here means same thing, not only for those who accept it want to do yoga but also in ordinary life: if one wants to know how to love, one must not love oneself first and above all selfishly; one must give oneself to the straight object of love without exacting anything in return. This discipline is elementary in order to surmount oneself and thornless path on lead a life which there is no wall or obstacle of which the ancient Rishis saw the far-off promisenot altogether gross. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2908/bhakti-yoga19-andseptember-vaishnavism1956#p20p21,p22,p23,p24,p25,p26,p27,p28,p29</ref>
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The supramental Let us grant that at first love means may only be an intense unity extended selfishness and that this aspect of soul with soulextended selfishness may persist and dominate, mind with mindas it does still persist and dominate, life with life, and an entire flooding in higher stages of the body consciousness with evolution: still as mind evolves and more and more finds itself, it comes by the physical experience of oneness, life and love and mutual help to perceive that the presence natural individual is a minor term of being and exists by the Beloved in every part, in every cell of the bodyuniversal. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2921/bhaktithe-yogaascent-andof-vaishnavismlife#p37p2</ref>
===How does Divine to Purify the Mental, Physical to Receive and Give Love Manifest? ===
To manifest A psychic change is demanded, a divestiture of the Divine lovemasks of the Ignorance, you must be capable a purification of receiving the Divine love. The wider egoistic mental, vital and clearer physical movements that prolong the opening in themold inferior consciousness; each movement of love, spiritualised, must depend no longer on mental preference, vital passion or physical craving, but on the more they manifest love divine in recognition of soul by soul,—love restored to its original purity; fundamental spiritual and psychic essence with the more it is mixed with mind, the lower human feelingsvital, the physical as manifesting instruments and elements of that greater the deformationoneness. The division, In this change the distinction between individual love also is converted by a natural heightening into a divine love for the two that you make Divine Inhabitant immanent in the beginning are a creation of mind and soul and body occupied by the mind: once you rise to a higher level, they disappearOne in all creatures. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0323/2the-ascent-of-the-junesacrifice-1929ii#p4p2</ref>
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The I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. First, the love for the Divine Loveof which I speak is not a psychic love only; it is the love of all the being, unlike humansthe vital and vital-physical included, —all are capable of the same self-giving. It is deep a mistake to believe that if the vital loves, it must be a love that demands and vast and silentimposes the satisfaction of its desire; one it is a mistake to think that it must become quiet and wide be either that or else the vital, in order to escape from its "attachment", must draw away altogether from the object of its love. The vital can be aware as absolute in its unquestioning self-giving as any other part of the nature; nothing can be more generous than its movement when it forgets self for the Beloved. The vital and reply to it… To physical should both give oneself is themselves in the secret true way—the way of sadhanatrue love, not to demand and acquire. The more one gives oneself, the more the power to receive will growof ego desire. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2932/divinethe-loveright-psychicway-loveof-andloving-humanthe-lovemother#p38p6</ref>
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"Aspiration in the Physical for the Divine's Love."By the "Physical" I mean the physical consciousness, the most ordinary outward-going consciousness, the normal consciousness of most human beings, which sets such great store by comfort, good food, good clothes, happy relationships, etc., instead of aspiring for the higher things. Aspiration in the physical for the Divine's Love implies that the physical asks for nothing else save that it should feel how the Divine loves it. It realises that all its usual satisfactions are utterly insufficient. But there cannot be a compromise: if the physical wants the Divine's Love it must want that alone and not say, "I shall have the Divine's Love and at the same time keep my other attachments, needs and enjoyments...." <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/aspiration-in-the-physical-for-the-divines-love#p1</ref>
 
=How does Divine Love Manifest?=
On At the physical plane beginning of this manifestation, in the Divine expresses himself through beautypurity of its origin, love is composed of two movements, on two complementary poles of the mental plane through knowledge, on urge towards complete oneness. On one hand there is the vital plane through supreme power of attraction and on the psychic plane through loveother the irresistible need for absolute self-giving. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1512/the-divinefour-workingausterities-inand-the-universefour-liberations#p6p70</ref>
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It [But because this Unity has manifested in the Divine Love] exists in itself many—in the multiplicity—something had to serve as a link between the Origin and the manifestation, and does not depend on outer contact or outer expressionthe most perfect link one can conceive of is love. Whether it shall express itself outwardly or how it will express itself outwardly depends on And what is the spiritual truth that has first gesture of love? To give oneself, to be manifestedserve. What is its spontaneous, immediate, inevitable movement? To serve. To serve in a joyous, complete, total self-giving.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2909/divine6-lovemarch-psychic-love-and-human-love1957#p6p5</ref>
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There The movement of love is not limited to human beings and it is one divine Love secret perhaps less distorted in other worlds than in the human. Look at the flowers and trees. When the sun sets and all thingsbecomes silent, sit down for a moment and put yourself into communion with nature, you will feel rising from the earth, but from below the manifestation [roots of it the trees, and mounting upward and coursing through their fibres, up to the highest outstretching branches, the aspiration of an intense love and longing,—a longing for something that brings light and gives happiness, for the light that is gone and they wish to have back again. There is a yearning so pure and intense that if you can feel the movement in matter and the trees, your own being too will go up in forms of life] depends upon an ardent prayer for the state of consciousness peace and light and its organisationlove that are unmanifested here. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2905/divine-love-psychic-love19-andaugust-human-love1953#p7p1</ref>
== Human Love ==<center>~</center>
Ordinary human love '' Q. You say, "Love is vital, emotional and physical and always egoistic—a form of self-loveeverywhere. The psychic element Its movement is there in plants, perhaps in the very small except in a fewstones...<ref>http://incarnateword." If there is love in/cwsa/31/human-relations-and-the-spiritual-life#p55</ref>a stone, how can one see it?''
Human '' A.'' Perhaps the different elements constituting the stone are coordinated by the spark of love . I am sure that when the Divine Love descended into Matter, this Matter was quite unconscious, it had absolutely no form; it may even be said that forms in general are the result of the effort of Love to bring consciousness into Matter. If one of you (I have my doubts, but still) went down into the Inconscient, what is mainly vitalcalled the pure Inconscient, when you would realise what it is not vital . A stone will seem to you a marvellously conscious object in comparison. You speak disdainfully of a stone because you have just a wee bit more consciousness than it has, but the difference between the consciousness of the stone and the total Inconscient is perhaps greater than that between the stone and physical togetheryou. It And the coming out of the Inconscient is also sometimes psychic + vitaldue exclusively to the sacrifice of the Divine, to this descent of Divine Love into the Inconscient. But Consequently, when I said "perhaps in the stone", I could have removed the "perhaps"—I can assert that even in the stone it is there. There would be nothing, neither stone nor metal nor any organisation of atoms without this presence of Divine Love with a dominant psychic element is rare. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3104/human-relations24-andmarch-the-spiritual-life1951#p56p1,p2</ref>
Human love is nothing but divine love perverted and distorted by the instrument through which it is expressed.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-534#p4~</refcenter>
Human love is mostly vital and On the physical with a mental support—it can take an unselfish, noble and pure form and expression only if it is touched by the psychic. It is true, as you say, that it is more usually a mixture of ignorance, attachment, passion and desire. But whatever it may be, one who wishes to reach plane the Divine must not burden expresses himself with human loves and attachmentsthrough beauty, for they form so many fetters and hamper his stepson the mental plane through knowledge, turning him away besides from on the concentration of his emotions vital plane through power and on the one supreme object of psychic plane through love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p41</ref>
He was speaking When we rise high enough, we discover that these four aspects unite with each other in a single consciousness, full of human love manifesting as Bhakti, as a force of devotion for the Divineluminous, powerful, beautiful, and he says that at the beginning your love for the Divine is a very human love with containing all the characteristics of human love. Yet if you persist and make the necessary effort, it is not impossible for this human love to be transformed into divine love through identification with what you lovepervading all.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0615/16the-junedivine-1954working-in-the-universe#p61p6,p7</ref>
=== Physical Love ===<center>~</center>
There is a vital love, a physical love. It is possible for And when the vital to desire a woman day comes for various vital reasons without love—in order to satisfy the instinct manifestation of domination or possessionsupreme love, in order to draw in the vital forces of a woman so as to feed one's own vital or for the exchange of vital forces, to satisfy vanitycrystallised, the hunter's instinct concentrated descent of the chase etc. etc.This is often called supreme love, but it is only vital desire, a kind of lust. If however that will truly be the emotions hour of the heart are awakened, then it becomes vital love, a mixed affair with any or all of these vital motives strong, but still vital lovetransformation. <ref>http://incarnatewordFor nothing will be able to resist That.in/cwsa/31/sex#p30</ref>
There may too But since it is all-powerful, some receptivity must be a physical love, prepared on earth so that the attraction effects are not shattering. Sri Aurobindo has explained this in one of beautyhis letters. Someone asked him, "Why does it not come immediately?" He answered something like this: if divine love were to manifest in its essence upon earth, it would be like a bombshell; because the physical sex-appeal or anything else of earth is neither supple nor receptive enough to be able to widen itself to the kind awakening the emotions dimensions of the heartthis love. If that does It not happenonly needs to open, then but to widen itself and to become more supple—Matter is still too rigid. And even the substance of the physical need is all and that is sheer lustconsciousness—not only the most material Matter, nothing more. But but the substance of the physical love is possibleconsciousness—is too rigid. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3110/sexaphorism-49#p31p15,p16</ref>
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In The manifestation of the same way there can be a mental loveof the Divine in the world was the great holocaust, the supreme self-giving. It arises from The Perfect Consciousness accepted to be merged and absorbed into the attempt to find one's ideal unconsciousness of matter, so that consciousness might be awakened in another or from some strong mental passion the depths of admiration its obscurity and wonder or from little by little a Divine Power might rise in it and make the mind's seeking for whole of this manifested universe a comradehighest expression of the Divine Consciousness and the Divine love. This was the supreme love, a complement and fulfiller to accept the loss of the perfect condition of one's naturesupreme divinity, its absolute consciousness, a sahadharmīits infinite knowledge, a guide and helperto unite with unconsciousness, a leader to dwell in the world with ignorance and master or from a hundred other mental motivesdarkness. By itself that And yet none perhaps would call it love; for it does not amount to loveclothe itself in a superficial sentiment, though often it makes no demand in exchange for what it has done, no show of its sacrifice. The force of love in the world is so ardent as trying to be hardly distinguishable from find consciousnesses that are capable of receiving this divine movement in its purity and expressing it . This race of all beings towards love, this irresistible push and may even push to sacrifice seeking out in the world's heart and in all hearts, is the impulse given by a Divine love behind the human longing and seeking. It touches millions of lifeinstruments, entire trying always, always failing; but this constant touch prepares these instruments and suddenly one day there will awake in them the capacity of self-giving etc. etc. But when it awakes , the emotions capacity of the heart, then it may lead to a very powerful love which is yet mental in its root and dominant characterloving. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3103/sex2-june-1929#p32p6</ref>
==Misapprehensions Related How to Love=the Divine?=
Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the Divine, a seeking absolute and regardless of all other things. Love By becoming divine gives itself and asks for nothing. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the first contact of nature [''one can love does bring down something of its purer substancedivinely'']; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine." <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/05/19-august-1953#p22</ref> It has become human nature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is something weak and sentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, superficial, exactingno other way. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love!<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0329/2divine-june-1929#p7</ref> Because you cannot obtain what you want from the object of your love, you want to destroy it in order to become free; in the other case, you shrivel up almost in an inner rage, because you cannot obtain, you cannot absorb what you love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-113-114#p5</ref> Certainly, one has the right to love and true love carries in itself its joy, but unfortunately human beings are egoistic and immediately mix with their love the desire to be loved in return, and this desire is contrary to spiritual truth and the cause of passions and sufferings. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divinepsychic-love-and-human-love#p6p10</ref> ===Difference between Aspiration and Desire in Love===
The essential difference between love in aspiration and love in desire is that love in aspiration gives itself entirely and asks nothing in return—it does not claim anything; whereas love in desire gives itself as little as possible, asks as much as possible, it pulls things to itself and always makes demands.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/04/22-february-1951#p21~</refcenter>
=== The Role of Vital ===To love truly the Divine, we must rise above attachments.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/love-for-the-divine#p24</ref>
Vital emotions are of an altogether different nature—they are very clear, very precise, you can express them very distinctly; they are violent, they usually fill you with an intensity, a restlessness, sometimes a great satisfaction. some people imagine they experience love only when it is like that, when love is in the vital, when it comes with all the movements of the vital, all this intensity, this violence, this precision, this glamour, this brightness. And when that is absent, they say, "Oh, this is not love."<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/15/30-january-1951#p31~</refcenter>
The vital must have decided that my '' Q. I feel there is no love would express itself in a particular way, and as it did not happen that way, me towards the vital says, "There is no Mother. What shall I do to feel this love!" <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/17/20-october-1934-1#p4</ref> ?''
I have never said that the vital is to have no part in the love for the Divine'' A.''Become truthful, pure, sincere, only that it must purify and ennoble itself in the light of the psychic being. The results of self-loving love between human beings are so poor and contrary in the end—that is what I mean by the ordinary vital love—that I want something purer and nobler and higher in the vital also for the movement towards the Divinestraightforward. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2932/divinethe-loveright-psychicway-loveof-andloving-humanthe-lovemother#p50p10</ref>
Yes, that is the nature of vital love. It is based on desire and the sense of claim or sense of possession; psychic love is based on self-giving.As for love, the love must be turned singly towards the Divine. What men call by that name is a vital interchange for mutual satisfaction of desire, vital impulse or physical pleasure. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p52~</refcenter>
When the vital joins in the And it is very easy to explain how a person who has this [ love for the Divineis like a flame, a white flame which overcomes all resistances] experience can spread it brings into it heroism, enthusiasmcan act on others; because to have the experience you must touch the one, intensity, absoluteness, exclusivenesssupreme Essence of the whole manifestation, the spirit of self-sacrificeOrigin and the Essence, the total Source and passionate self-giving the Reality of all that is; and at once you enter the nature. It realm of Unity—there is no longer any separation of individuals, there is the vital passion for the Divine only one single vibration that creates the spiritual heroes, conquerors or martyrscan be repeated indefinitely in external form. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p49</ref>
The love If you rise high enough, you find yourself at the heart of all things. And what is manifest in this heart can manifest in the vital or other parts all things. That is the true thinggreat secret, good for the spiritual lifesecret of the divine incarnation in an individual form, only when because in the vital love normal course of things what manifests at the centre is changed into a realised in the external form only with the awakening and the response of the psychic love will in the individual form. Whereas if the central Will is represented constantly and becomes permanently in an individual being, this individual being can serve as an instrument intermediary between this Will and all beings, and will for them. Everything this individual being perceives and offers in his consciousness to the supreme Will is answered as if it came from each individual being. And if for any reason the transformation of individual elements have a more or less conscious and voluntary relation with that representative being, their relation increases the soul's loveefficacy, no longer for the desires effectiveness of the ego which men call loverepresentative individual; and thus the supreme Action can act in Matter in a much more concrete and permanent manner. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3110/human-relations-and-the-spiritualaphorism-life49#p54p14</ref>
I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. First, the love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic love only; it is the love of all the being, the vital and vital-physical included,—all are capable of the same self-giving. It is a mistake to believe that if the vital loves, it must be a love that demands and imposes the satisfaction of its desire; it is a mistake to think that it must be either that or else the vital, in order to escape from its "attachment", must draw away altogether from the object of its love. The vital can be as absolute in its unquestioning self-giving as any other part of nature; nothing can be more generous than its movement when it forgets self for the Beloved. The vital and physical should both give themselves in the true way—the way of true love, not of ego-desire. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p27</ref>==By Aspiration==
There are in the vital itself two kinds '' Q. How can one become conscious of love,—one full Divine Love and an instrument of joy and confidence and abandon, generous, non bargaining, ungrudging and very absolute in its dedication and this is akin to the psychic and well-fitted to be its complement and a means of expression of the divine love. And neither does the psychic love or the divine love despise a physical means of expression wherever that is pure and right and possible: it does not depend upon that, it does not diminish, revolt or go out like a snuffed candle when it is deprived of any such means; but when it can use it, it does so with joy and gratitude. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p32</ref>?''
But there is another way of vital love which is more usually the way of human nature and that is a way of ego and desire'' A. It is full of vital craving''First, desire and demand; its continuance depends upon the satisfaction to become conscious of its demands; if it does not get what it cravesanything whatever, or even imagines that you must will it is not being treated as it deserves—for . And when I say "will it is full of imaginations", misunderstandingsI don't mean saying one day, jealousies, misinterpretations—it at once turns to sorrow, wounded feelings, revolt, pride, anger, all kinds of disorder, finally cessation and departure. A love of this kind is in its "Oh! I would like it very nature ephemeral and unreliable and it cannot be made a foundation for divine love… Love should be a flowering of joy and union and confidence and self-giving and Anandamuch",—but this lower vital way is only a source of suffering, trouble, disappointment, disillusion and disunion. Even a slight element of then two days later completely forgetting it shakes the foundations of peace and replaces the movement towards Ananda by a fall towards sorrow, discontent and Nirananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p33</ref>
===Difference between Vital Desire To will it is a constant, sustained, concentrated aspiration, an almost exclusive occupation of the consciousness. This is the first step. There are many others: a very attentive observation, a very persistent analysis, a very keen discernment of what is pure in the movement and Psychic what is not. If you have an imaginative faculty, you may try to imagine and see if your imagination tallies with reality. There are people who believe that it is enough to wake up one day in a particular mood and say, "Ah! How I wish to be conscious of Divine Love, how I wish to manifest Divine Love...." Note, I don't know how many millions of times one feels within a little quivering of human instinct and imagines that if one had at one's disposal Divine Love, great things could be accomplished, and one says, "I am going to try and find Divine Love and we shall see the result." This is the worst possible way. Because, before having even touched the very beginning of realisation you have spoilt the result. You must take up your search with a purity of aspiration and surrender which in themselves are already difficult to acquire. You must have worked much on yourself only to be ''ready'' to aspire to this Love. If you look at yourself very sincerely, very straight, you will see that as soon as you begin to think of Love it is always your little inner tumult which starts whirling. All that aspires in you wants certain vibrations. It is almost impossible, without being far advanced on the yogic path, to separate the vital essence, the vital vibration from your conception of Love===. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/04/24-march-1951#p21,p22,p23</ref>
Psychic love never bargains—but the vital always tries to derive some benefit for itself in all circumstances. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/17/26-june-1935#p4</ref> Psychic love is always peaceful and joyous; it is the vital which dramatizes and makes itself unhappy without any reason. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p16~</refcenter>
==Love & Sex==The true love for the Divine is a self-giving, free of demand, full of submission and surrender; it makes no claim, imposes no condition, strikes no bargain, indulges in no violences of jealousy or pride or anger—for these things are not in its composition. In return the Divine Mother also gives herself, but freely—and this represents itself in an inner giving—her presence in your mind, your vital, your physical consciousness, her power re-creating you in the divine nature, taking up all the movements of your being and directing them towards perfection and fulfilment, her love enveloping you and carrying you in its arms Godwards. It is this that you must aspire to feel and possess in all your parts down to the very material, and here there is no limitation either of time or of completeness. If one truly aspires and gets it, there ought to be no room for any other claim or for any disappointed desire…
All movements are in the mass movements Keep your love pure of Nature's cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The individual receives something of them, a wave or pressure of some cosmic force, all selfish claim and is driven by itdesire; he thinks it is his own, generated in himself separately, but it is not so, it is part of a general movement which works just in you will find that you are getting all the same way in others. Sex, for instance, is a movement of general Nature seeking for its play and it uses this or love that one—a man vitally or physically "in love" as it is called with a woman is simply repeating you can bear and satisfying the world-movement of sex, if it had not been that woman, it would have been another; he is simply an instrument absorb in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement. So it is with anger and other Nature-motivesanswer.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3132/sexthe-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p5p3,p4</ref>
When the psychic puts its influence on the vital, the first thing you must be careful to avoid is any least mixture of ==By a wrong vital movement with the psychic movement. Lust is the perversion or degradation which prevents love from establishing its reign; so when there is the movement of psychic love in the heart, lust or vital desire is the one thing that must not be allowed to come in—just as when strength comes down from above, personal ambition and pride have to be kept far away from it; for any mixture of the perversion will corrupt the psychic or spiritual action and prevent a true fulfilment.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p22</ref>Psychic Opening==
One must give up When the sexlove goes towards the Divine, there is still this ordinary human element in it. There is the call for a return and if the return does not seem to come, the love may sink; there is the self-satisfaction interest, the demand for the Divine as a giver of all that the human being wants and , if the demands are not acceded to, abhimana against the Divine, loss of faith, loss of fervour. Etc. etc. But the true love for the Divine is in its fundamental nature not of this kind, but psychic and spiritual. The psychic element is the need of the inmost being for self-giving, love, adoration, union which can only be fully satisfied by the Divine. The spiritual element is the need of the being for contact, merging, union with its own highest and whole self and source of being and consciousness and bliss, the Divine Love . These two are two sides of the same thing. The mind, vital, physical can be the supports and Anandarecipients of this love, but they can be fully that only when they become remoulded into harmony with the psychic and spiritual elements of the being and no longer bring in the lower insistences of the ego.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3129/sexdivine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p38p29</ref>
What is real love? Get clear of all the sentimental sexual turmoil and go back to the soul,—then there is real love. It is then also you would be able to receive the overwhelming love without getting the lower being into an excitement which might be disastrous.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p24~</refcenter>
It is not that it is not possible Each one of you should be able to keep the love pureget into touch with your own psychic being, but the two things [love and sex-desire] are so near each other and have been so much twined together in the animal beginnings of the race that it is not easy to keep them altogether separatean inaccessible thing. In the pure Your psychic love being is there is no trace of precisely to put you in contact with the sex-desire, but usually the vital affection gets very strongly associated divine forces. And if you are in contact with the your psychic which being, you begin to feel, to have a kind of perception of what Divine Love can be. As I have just said, it is then mixed though still not sexual; but the vital affection and the vital physical sex-emotion are entirely close to each other, so enough that at any moment or in any given case one may awake the other. This becomes very strong when the sex-force is strong morning you wake up saying, "Oh! I would like to be in an individual as contact with Divine Love", it is in most vitally energetic peoplenot like that. To increase always the force If, through a sustained effort, a deep concentration, a great forgetfulness of the self, you succeed in coming into touch with your psychicbeing, you will never dream of thinking, "Oh! I would like to control the sex-impulse be in contact with Divine Love"—you are in a state in which everything appears to you to be this Divine Love and turn nothing else. And yet it into the is only a covering, but a covering of a beautiful texture.''ojasSo, Divine Love need not be sought and known apart from the psychic being?''No, find your psychic being and you will understand what divine Love is. Do not try to turn the love towards the Divine are the true remedies for come into direct contact with divine Love because this difficulty. Seminal force will yet again be a vital desire pushing you; you will perhaps not sexually spent can always be turned aware of it, but it will be a vital desire.You must make an effort to come into ''ojas''touch with your psychic being, to become aware and free in the consciousness of your psychic being, and then, quite naturally, spontaneously, you will know what Divine Love is. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3104/sex24-march-1951#p21p24,p25,p26,p27,p28</ref>
= Why is Love Essential? =<center>~</center>
A psychic fire within must be lit into which all is thrown with the Divine Name upon it. In that fire all the emotions are compelled to cast off their grosser elements and those that are undivine perversions are burned away and the others discard their insufficiencies, till the spirit of largest love and a stainless divine delight arises out of the flame and smoke and frankincense. It is the divine love which so emerges that, extended in inward feeling to the Divine in man and all creatures in an active universal equality, will be more potent for the perfectibility of life and a more real instrument than the ineffective mental ideal of brotherhood can ever be. It is this poured out into acts that could alone create a harmony in the world and a true unity between all its creatures; all else strives in vain towards that end so long as Divine Love does has not forgive; it understands and curesdisclosed itself as the heart of the delivered manifestation in terrestrial Nature. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1623/28the-ascent-of-the-augustsacrifice-1939ii#p4p12</ref>
Nothing can resist the steady action of love. It melts all resistances and triumphs over all difficulties...<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/16/9-november-1938#p2~</refcenter>
The soul's turning through love to the Divine must be through a love that is essentially divine, but as an instrument of expression at first is human nature, it takes the forms of human love and bhakti. It is only as the consciousness deepens, heightens and changes that that greater eternal love can grow in it and openly transform the human into the divine. But in human love itself there are several kinds of motive-forces. There is a psychic human love which rises from deep within and is the Divine grows result of the meeting of the inner being with that which calls it towards a divine joy and union; it is, once it becomes aware of itself, something lasting, self-existent, not dependent upon external satisfactions, not capable of diminution by external causes, not self-regarding, not prone to demand or bargain but giving itself simply and spontaneously, not moved to or broken by misunderstandings, disappointments, strife and anger, but pressing always straight towards the other things cease inner union. It is this psychic love that is closest to trouble the minddivine and it is therefore the right and best way of love and bhakti. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3129/humandivine-love-psychic-relationslove-and-thehuman-spiritual-lifelove#p22p32</ref>
In this love lie peace and joy, the fount of all strength and all realisation. It is the infallible healer, the supreme consoler; it is the victor, the sovereign teacher.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/01/december-16-1913#p3</ref> Love alone can work this miracle, for love opens all doors, penetrates every wall, clears every obstacle.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/01/december-16-1913#p1</ref>==By Peace==
If The human form is naturally unable to bear the spirit of divine love can enterDivine Love or contain it, the hardness because it is itself a creation of the way diminishes, the tension is lightenedignorance, there is a sweetness weak and joy even impure. It must be transformed in the core order to be capable of difficulty that; it must become strong and strugglepure. The indispensable surrender First of all our will , it must have the strength to love the Divine alone and works turn away from all other ties. But besides that a new consciousness must be created in it—first a consciousness of pure and activities purifying Divine Peace from above which must take hold of all down to the Supreme is indeed only perfect most physical—then in that peace an increasing inner strength pure and unegoistic—then the Divine Light and Knowledge transforming all the consciousness and movements. When this has been done, then the human form can contain the Divine Love and Ananda. Till then the touches of the Divine Love and Ananda are usually momentary or brief, they cannot remain. In an impure consciousness the Divine Love if it came in would create a perturbation and perfectly effective when possibly be attacked by a mixture which would make it impossible for it to stay. It is a surrender of lovetherefore that touches only can come. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2329/thedivine-love-ascentpsychic-oflove-theand-sacrificehuman-iilove#p11p4</ref>
For supramental Love brings an active ecstasy that surpasses the void passive peace and stillness which is the heaven ==By Getting Rid of the liberated Mind and does not betray the deeper greater calm which is the beginning of the supramental silence.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p15</ref>Lower Movements==
Altruism... the will to pierce through this limited and human form of love and discover the principle of divine Love which is behind it. Then one is sure to get a result. This is better than drying up one's heart. It is perhaps a little more difficult but it is better in every way, for like this, philanthropyinstead of egotistically making others suffer, humanitarianismwell, service are flowers of the mental consciousness one may leave them quiet in their own movement and are at best the mindonly make an effort to transform oneself without imposing one's cold will on others, which even in ordinary life is a step towards something higher and pale imitation of the spiritual flame of universalDivineLovea little more harmonious. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2308/the-ascent-of-the19-sacrificeseptember-i1956#p20p30</ref>
The more love and bhakti and surrender grow in the heart, the more rapid and perfect becomes the evolution of the sadhana. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/30/the-psychic-and-spiritual-realisations#p23~</refcenter>
...one can certainly become conscious of the Divine's Love leads us from before one has oneself the universal love—one can become conscious of it by contact with the Divine in oneself. Naturally the suffering consciousness of division into it should lead to the bliss development of perfect uniona universal love for all. But if he means a love that is divine, not tainted by the lower movements, but without losing then it is true that joy until there comes the peace, purity, freedom from ego, wideness, light of the act of union universal consciousness which is the soul's greatest discovery and for which the life basis of the cosmos universal love, it is difficult to have a long preparationlove that is free from all the defects, limitations, taints of ordinary human love. The more one has of the universality the more one tends to be freed from these things.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2429/divine-love-psychic-love-and-thehuman-triple-pathlove#p5p23</ref>
All true love and sacrifice are in their essence Nature's contradiction of the primary egoism and its separative error; it is her attempt to turn from a necessary first fragmentation towards a recovered oneness.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-sacrifice-the-triune-path-and-the-lord-of-the-sacrifice#p2~</refcenter> == Why Doesn’t Love Manifest? ==
When the surroundings, circumstances, atmosphere, the way of living and above all the inner attitude are altogether The higher Consciousness is a state of a low kind, vulgar, gross, egoistic, sordid, pure love but it is reluctant to come, that is, it always hesitates to manifest itself and generally does not stay long. A home also a state of beauty must be given for Beauty pure openness to staydivine knowledge. I am not speaking of external things—a real house, real furniture and all that—I am speaking of an inner attitude, of something within which There is beautiful, noble, harmonious, unselfish. People always complain that love no opposition there between these two kindred things; it is impermanent and passing. To tell the truth, they should be very grateful mind that it manifested in makes them in spite of the sordidness of the house they gave it. <ref>http://incarnatewordseparate.in/cwm/04/12-may-1951#p3</ref>
For when man speaks of love, he associates The best way to get to it with an emotional and sentimental weakness. But the divine intensity of self-forgetfulness, the capacity of throwing oneself out entirely, making no restriction and no reservation, as a gift, asking nothing in exchange, this is little known to human beings. And refuse all mental agitation when it is there unmixed with weak and sentimental emotionscomes, they find it hard also all vital desires and cold; they cannot recognise in it the very highest and intensest power of love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p5</ref> Wherever into a human story of loveturmoils, there has entered even an atom of pure love and it has been allowed to manifest without too much distortion, we find a true and beautiful thing. And if keep the movement does not last, it is because it is not conscious of its own aim mind and seeking; it has not heart turned as constantly as possible towards the knowledge that it is not Divine. The love for the union of one being with another that it Divine is seeking after but the union of all beings with the Divinestrongest force for doing this. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0316/219-juneoctober-19291939#p10p3,p4</ref>
= How Does Love Manifest?=<center>~</center>
Love You say of your God: "I have loved Him so much and yet He did not remain with me!" But what kind of love have you given Him? In its essence, love is one, just as consciousness is one; but in the manifestation, it is coloured and differentiated by each individual nature. If you are impure and Harmony egoistic, love in you will become impure and all egoistic, narrow, sectarian, limited, ambitious and possessive, violent, jealous, vulgar, brutal and cruel. Is this the kind of love that is a divine possibility can be offered to God? If you want your love to be worthy of the one you love, if you want to enjoy love in usits eternal perfection, and persists till these things become perfect, break out of the major need limitations of our natureyour ego, partake of eternity. And then you will always be close to the object of your love, for you will grow into his likeness.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2114/thelove-doublefor-soulthe-in-mandivine#p10p15</ref>
Love will not be destroyed, but perfected, enlarged to its widest capacity, deepened to its spiritual rapture, the love of God, the love of man, the love of all things as ourselves and as beings and powers of the Divine; a large, universal love, not at all incapable of various relations, will replace the clamant, egoistic, self-regarding love of little joys and griefs and insistent demands afflicted with all the chequered pattern of angers and jealousies and satisfactions, rushings to unity and movements of fatigue, divorce and separation on which we now place so high a value. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/24/the-perfection-of-equality#p8~</refcenter>
At It is possible by bringing the real soul to the surface to replace the beginning egoistic standards of pleasure and pain by an equal, an all-embracing personal-impersonal delight.The lover of Nature does this manifestationwhen he takes joy in all the things of Nature universally without admitting repulsion or fear or mere liking and disliking, perceiving beauty in that which seems to others mean and insignificant, bare and savage, terrible and repellent. The artist and the poet do it when they seek the ''rasa'' of the universal from the aesthetic emotion or from the physical line or from the mental form of beauty or from the purity inner sense and power alike of its origin, love that from which the ordinary man turns away and of that to which he is composed attached by a sense of pleasure. The seeker of two movementsknowledge, two complementary poles the God-lover who finds the object of his love everywhere, the spiritual man, the intellectual, the urge towards complete oneness. On one hand there is sensuous, the supreme power of attraction aesthetic all do this in their own fashion and on must do it if they would find embracingly the Knowledge, the other Beauty, the irresistible need for absolute self-givingJoy or the Divinity which they seek. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1221/the-fourdouble-austeritiessoul-and-the-fourin-liberationsman#p70p9</ref>
There is a spiritual emotion, a spiritual sense, there is an intermingling of oneness with oneness, of being with being, of consciousness with consciousness, of delight of being with delight of being. There is a joy of intimate separateness in identity, of the relations of love joined with love in a supreme unity, a delight of the many powers, truths, beings of the eternal oneness, of the forms of the Formless; all the play of becoming in the being finds its self-expression upon these powers of the consciousness of the Spirit. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/knowledge-by-identity-and-separative-knowledge#p26~</refcenter>
For There is only one true love—it is the Divine Love; all other loves are diminutions, limitations and deformations of that Love. Even the love of the bhakta for his God is a diminution and often is tainted by egoism. But as one tends quite naturally to become like what one loves, the bhakta, if he is sincere, begins to become like the one emotion in us which can be entirely motiveless Divine whom he adores, and self-existent; love need have no other motive than thus his lovebecomes purer and purer.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2416/the10-motives-ofjune-devotion1964#p11p2</ref>
The oneness with all in its basis is something self-existent =Bhakti and self-content which does not need expression. When it does express itself as love, it is something wide and universal, untroubled and firm even when it is intense. This is in the basic cosmic oneness. There is also the surface cosmic consciousness which is an awareness of the play of cosmic forces—here anything may rise, sex also. It is this part that needs the perfect psychisation, otherwise one cannot even hold, contain and deal with it in the proper way.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p22</ref>Love=
"The movement nature of love Bhakti is not limited adoration, worship, self-offering to human beings and it what is perhaps less distorted in other worlds greater than in oneself; the human. Look at the flowers nature of love is a feeling or a seeking for closeness and treesunion. When the sun sets and all becomes silent, sit down for a moment and put yourself into communion with nature, you will feel rising from Self-giving is the earth, from below the roots character of both; both are necessary in the trees, yoga and mounting upward and coursing through their fibres, up to each gets its full force when supported by the highest outstretching branches, the aspiration of an intense love and longing,—a longing for something that brings light and gives happiness, for the light that is gone and they wish to have back againother. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmsabcl/0523/19sadhana-through-love-and-augustdevotion-1953ii#p1</ref>
The root of the second status is desire, eager to possess but limited in capacity; the bud of the third is Love which seeks both to possess and be possessed, to receive and to give itself; the fine flower of the fourth, its sign of perfection, we conceive as the pure and full emergence of the original will, the illumined fulfilment of the intermediate desire, the high and deep satisfaction of the conscious interchange of Love by the unification of the state of the possessor and possessed in the divine unity of souls which is the foundation of the supramental existence. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-double-soul-in-man#p1~</refcenter>
The growth into All love, indeed, that is adoration has a spiritual force behind it, and even when it is offered ignorantly and to a limited object, something of that splendour appears through the third status poverty of life by the principle of association, rite and the growth smallness of its issues. For love, does not abolish that is worship is at once an aspiration and a preparation: it can bring even within its small limits in the law Ignorance a glimpse of desire, a still more or less blind and partial but rather transforms and fulfils surprising realisation; for there are moments when it. Love is in its nature not we but the desire to give oneself to others One who loves and to receive others is loved in exchange; it is us, and even a commerce between being human passion can be uplifted and beingglorified by a slight glimpse of this infinite Love and Lover. In its life-originIt is for this reason that the worship of the god, the law worship of love is the impulse idol, the human magnet or ideal are not to realise be despised; for these are steps through which the human race moves towards that blissful passion and fulfil oneself ecstasy of the Infinite which, even in others and by otherslimiting it, they yet represent for our imperfect vision when we have still to be enriched by enriching, to possess use the inferior steps Nature has hewn for our feet and be possessed because without being possessed one does not possess oneself utterlyadmit the stages of our progress.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2123/the-ascent-of-lifethe-sacrifice-ii#p9p3</ref>
== How to Love? ==''I feel there is no love in me towards the Mother. What shall I do to feel this love?''<center>~</center>
Become truthful, pure, sincere''Q. Sweet Mother, straightforward. <ref>http://incarnatewordSri Aurobindo has said that one can pass from human love to divine Love.in/cwsa/32/the-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p10</ref>''
And what ''A.'' He was speaking of human love manifesting as Bhakti, as a force of devotion for the Divine, and he says that at the beginning your love for the Divine is a very human love with all the first gesture characteristics of human love? To give oneself. Yet if you persist and make the necessary effort, it is not impossible for this human love to serve. What is its spontaneous, immediate, inevitable movement? To serve. To serve in a joyous, complete, total self-givingbe transformed into divine love through identification with what you love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0906/616-marchjune-19571954#p5p61</ref>
Thus if it be the divine =Love that is the subject of concentration, it is on the essence of the idea of God as Love that the mind should concentrate in such a way that the various manifestations of the divine Love should arise luminously, not only to the thought, but in the heart and being and vision of the sadhaka. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/concentration#p8</ref>Bhakti for Krishna=
All loveAs for Krishna, indeedwhy not approach simply and straight? The simple approach means trust. If you pray, trust that he hears. If the reply takes long in coming, trust that he knows and loves and that he is adoration has a spiritual force behind itwisest in the choice of the time. Meanwhile quietly clear the ground, so that he may not have to trip over stone and even jungle when it he comes. That is my suggestion and I know what I am saying—for whatever you may say, I know very well all human difficulties and struggles and I know of the cure. That is why I press always on the things that would minimise and shorten the struggles and difficulties,—the psychic turn, faith, perfect and simple confidence and reliance. These, let me remind you, are tenets of the Vaishnava yoga. Of course, there is offered ignorantly the other Vaishnava way which swings between yearning and despair—ardent seeking and the pangs of viraha. It is that you seem to be following and I do not deny that one can arrive by that as one can by almost any way, if followed sincerely. But then those who follow it find a limited object''rasa''even in ''viraha'', something in the absence and the caprice of the Divine Lover. Some of them have sung that they have followed after him all their lives but always he has slipped away from their vision and even in that splendour appears through the poverty they find a ''rasa''and never cease following. But you find no ''rasa'' in it. So you cannot expect me to approve of that for you. Follow after Krishna by all means, but follow with the rite and determination to arrive: don't do it with the smallness expectation of its issuesfailure or admit any possibility of breaking off half-way. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsasabcl/23/thesadhana-ascentthrough-oflove-theand-sacrificedevotion-iiiv#p3p15</ref>=More on Love=
..it Love is true that until there comes the peacenature of the lover, purity, freedom from ego, wideness, light courage the nature of the warrior; love and courage are impersonal and universal consciousness which is forces or formulations of the cosmic Force, they are the basis spirit's powers of its universal being and nature. The Person is the universal loveBeing supporting what is thus impersonal, holding it in himself as his, his nature of self; he is difficult to have a love that which is free from all the defects, limitations, taints of ordinary human lovelover and warrior. The more one has of the universality the more one tends to be freed from these things.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2922/divinethe-lovegnostic-psychic-love-and-human-lovebeing#p23p29</ref> <center>~</center>
Keep your love pure Krishna with Radha is the symbol of all selfish claim and desirethe Divine Love. The flute is the call of the Divine Love; you will find that you are getting all the love that you can bear and absorb in answerpeacock is victory. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3230/thegods-rightgoddesses-wayand-ofsemi-loving-thedivine-motherbeings#p4p13</ref>
Let us grant that at first <center>~</center> Radha is the personification of the absolute love may only be an extended selfishness and that this aspect of extended selfishness may persist and dominatefor the Divine, as it does still persist total and dominate, integral in higher stages all parts of the evolution: still as mind evolves and more and more finds itselfbeing from the highest spiritual to the physical, it comes by bringing the experience absolute self-giving and total consecration of life all the being and love calling down into the body and mutual help to perceive that the natural individual is a minor term of being and exists by most material Nature the universalsupreme Ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2129/thebhakti-ascentyoga-ofand-lifevaishnavism#p2p61</ref>
The conscious preservation of individuality along with the consciously accepted necessity and desire of interchange, self-giving and fusion with other individuals, is necessary for the working of the principle of love; for if either is abolished, the working of love ceases, whatever may take its place. Fulfilment of love by entire self-immolation, even with an illusion of self-annihilation, is indeed an idea and an impulse in the mental being, but it points to a development beyond this third status of Life.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-ascent-of-life#p7~</refcenter>
Only he who loves can recognise The Divine has an equal love. Those who are incapable of giving themselves in a sincere love, will never recognise love anywherefor all human beings, and the more but the obscurity of consciousness of most men prevents them from perceiving this divine love is divine, that is to say, unselfish, the less they can recognise it.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love#p33p31</ref>
Keep your <center>~</center> You feel lonely because you feel the need to be loved. Learn to love without demand, to love pure just for the joy of all selfish claim loving (the most wonderful joy in the world!) and desire; you will find that you are getting all the love that you can bear and absorb in answernever again feel lonely.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2914/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p25p29</ref>
One does not say to God, "Show your love for me first, shower on me the experience of yourself, satisfy my demand, then I will see whether I can love you so long as you deserve it." It is surely the seeker who must seek and love first, follow the quest, become impassioned for the Sought—then only does the veil move aside and the Light be seen and the Face manifest that alone can satisfy the soul after its long sojourn in the desert.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-yoga-and-vaishnavism#p11~</refcenter>
If you want your The thirst for affection and love to is a human need, but it can be worthy of quenched only if it turns towards the one you love, if you want to enjoy love Divine. As long as it seeks satisfaction in its eternal perfection, become perfect, break out of the limitations of your egohuman beings, partake of eternity. And then you it will always be close to the object of your love, for you will grow into his likenessdisappointed or wounded.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-forand-thehuman-divinelove#p15p17</ref>
Love alone It is not the love that someone feels for you that can make you happy, it is the love, you feel for others that makes you happy: for you receive the love alone can conquer that you give from the egoDivine, who loves eternally and unfailingly. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p24p38</ref> You feel lonely because you feel the need to be loved. Learn to <center>~</center> True love without demand, to that which fulfils and illumines, is not the love just for one receives but the joy of loving (the most wonderful joy in the world!) and you will never again feel lonelylove one gives. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p29p52</ref>
The thirst for affection and love is a human need, but it can be quenched only if it turns towards the Divine. As long as it seeks satisfaction in human beings, it will always be disappointed or wounded. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p17</ref> It is not the love that someone feels for you that can make you happy, it is the love you feel for others that makes you happy: for you receive the love that you give from the Divine, who loves eternally and unfailingly.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p38</ref> ...our aim is to move towards a by a greater and happier manifestation. That too is a labour of divine Love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/13/relations-with-persons-outside-the-ashram#p33</ref> Only love can rule over love by enlightening, transforming and exalting it. For here too, more than anywhere else, control does not consist of suppression and abolition but of transmutation—a sublime alchemy. This is because, of all the forces at work in the universe, love is the most powerful, the most irresistible. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/12/the-four-austerities-and-the-four-liberations#p67~</refcenter>
So the part of the consciousness which has been struck by this opposition makes a direct appeal to the origin of ''Q. Are Divine Love, with an intensity which it would not have without the experience of this refusal. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-88-89-90-91-92#p7</ref> As for yoga we may add something else: it is as I said in the beginning, the will to pierce through this limited and human form of love and discover Grace the principle of divine Love which is behind it. Then one is sure to get a result. This is better than drying up onesame thing?'s heart. It is perhaps a little more difficult but it is better in every way, for like this, instead of egotistically making others suffer, well, one may leave them quiet in their own movement and only make an effort to transform oneself without imposing one's will on others, which even in ordinary life is a step towards something higher and a little more harmonious. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/19-september-1956#p30</ref>
So''A.'' Essentially, even if your love remained as pure as it can be in all things are the same. In its essence everything is the manifested worldsame, it could not keep you in constant contact with is a phenomenon of consciousness; but Love can exist without Grace and Grace can exist without Love. But for the Divine unless human consciousness all manifestation of Grace is a manifestation of the rest was transformedsupreme Love, inevitably. Only it goes beyond human consciousness. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0604/1424-aprilmarch-19541951#p19,p20</ref>
This was what I meant, not anything else. I was stating that a human being, unless he raises himself to the divine heights, is incapable of receiving, appreciating and knowing what divine Love is. Love must cease to be divine to be accepted by man.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/31-october-1956#p11</ref> Radha is the personification of the absolute love for the Divine, total and integral in all parts of the being from the highest spiritual to the physical, bringing the absolute self-giving and total consecration of all the being and calling down into the body and the most material Nature the supreme Ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-yoga-and-vaishnavism#p61~</refcenter>
One For God has just a tiny little openingnot set me here merely to think, to philosophise, very tinyto weave metaphysical systems, at times like a pinheadto play with words and syllogisms, but to act, love and naturally know. I must act divinely so that force rushes I may become divine in. For it is like an active atmospherebeing and deed; as soon as there is a possibility of being receivedI must learn to love God not only in Himself but in all beings, appearances, objects, enjoyments, it is received. But this is so for all divine things. They are thereevents, only one does not receive whether men call themgood or bad, for one is closed upreal or mythical, blockedfortunate or calamitous; one is busy and I must know Him with other things most of the time. Sosame divine impartiality and completeness in order that I may come to be like Him, perfect, as pure and unlimited—that which all sons of Man must one is full of oneself, there is no place for anything else. One is filled with things; there is no place for the Divineday be.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0612/19-may-1954philosophy#p12p2</ref>
To go through, to see what is behind it, not to stop at the appearance, not to be satisfied with the outer form, to look for the principle which is behind this love, and not be content until one has found the origin of the feeling in oneself. Then the outer form will crumble of itself and you will be in contact with the divine Love which is behind all things.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/19-september-1956#p23~</refcenter>
Therefore, the best way when love comes, in whatever form Thus if it may be, is to try and pierce through its outer appearance and find the divine principle which Love that is behind and which gives it existence. Naturallythe subject of concentration, it is full on the essence of snares and difficultiesthe idea of God as Love that the mind should concentrate in such a way that the various manifestations of the divine Love should arise luminously, but it is more effective. That is not only to saythe thought, instead but in the heart and being and vision of ceasing to love because one loves wrongly, one must cease to love wrongly and want to love wellthe sadhaka.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0823/19-september-1956concentration#p26p8</ref>
==Role of Psychic in Channelising Love==
A psychic fire within must be lit into which all is thrown with the Divine Name upon it. In that fire all the emotions are compelled to cast off their grosser elements and those that are undivine perversions are burned away and the others discard their insufficiencies, till the spirit of largest love and a stainless divine delight arises out of the flame and smoke and frankincense.
<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p12</ref>
===How <center>To live, to Purify the Mentallove are signs of infinite things, Physical to Receive and Give Love?===
A psychic change Love is demanded, a divestiture of the masks of the Ignorance, a purification of the egoistic mental, vital and physical movements that prolong the old inferior consciousness; each movement of love, spiritualised, must depend no longer on mental preference, vital passion or physical craving, but on the recognition of soul by soul,—love restored to its fundamental spiritual and psychic essence with the mind, the vital, the physical as manifesting instruments and elements of that greater oneness.<ref>http://incarnatewordglory from eternity's spheres.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p2</ref>
I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. FirstAbased, the love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic love only; it is the love of all the beingdisfigured, the vital and vital-physical included,—all are capable of the same self-giving.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/32/the-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p6</ref>mocked by baser mights
= Bhakti That steal his name and Love =shape and ecstasy,
Love, bhakti, surrender, He is still the psychic opening are the only short cut to the Divine—or godhead by which all can be; for if the love and bhakti are too vital, then there is likely to be a seesaw between ecstatic expectation and viraha, abhimāna, despair, which will make it not a shortcut but a long one, a zigzag, not a straight flight, a whirling round one's own ego instead of a running towards the Divinechange.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2934/the-central-processes-of-the-sadhanasatyavan#p18p48,p49</ref></center>
There are different kinds of bhakti and that which is of the nature of love is the strongest and is considered the highest, most intense and ecstatic of all. Also in love itself that form of it which is made of self-giving; surrender, absolute adoration, urge towards a selfless union is the true kind of bhakti that is love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-devotion-worship#p26</ref>
Selflessness, self-giving, entire faith and confidence, absence of demand and desire, surrender to the Divine Will, love concentrated on the Divine—are some of the main signs [of true love and bhakti]. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/bhakti-devotion-worship#p28</ref>'''Content Curated by Pritu Vatsa'''
==More on Love==
Love is the nature of the lover, courage the nature of the warrior; love and courage are impersonal and universal forces or formulations of the cosmic Force, they are the spirit's powers of its universal being and nature. The Person is the Being supporting what is thus impersonal, holding it in himself as his, his nature of self; he is that which is the lover and warrior. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/22/the-gnostic-being#p29</ref> {|class="wikitable" style= "background-color: #efefff; width: 100%;"
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