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=What is Love? =
<center>Love is dwells in us like an unopened flowerAwaiting a flame that changes what rapid moment of the soul,Or he roams in his charmed sleep mid thoughts and things;The child-god is hard into something malleable at play, he seeks himselfIn many hearts and even sublimates this malleable thing into minds and living forms:He lingers for a kind of purified vapour—it does not destroysign that he can knowAnd, when it transformscomes, wakes blindly to a voice,A look, a touch, the meaning of a face. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1034/aphorism-49satyavan#p11p51</ref></center>
<center>~</center>= What is Love? =
Love is one of the great universal forces; it exists by itself and its movement is free and independent of the objects in which and through which it manifests.What you call love and think of as a personal or individual thing is only your capacity to receive force and manifest this universal forcean action.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0314/2divine-june-1929love#p2p30</ref>
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Love is one of the great universal and eternalforces; it is always manifesting exists by itself and always identical in its essence. Love does not manifest movement is free and independent of the objects in human beings alone; which and through which it manifests. What you call love and think of as a personal or individual thing is everywhereonly your capacity to receive and manifest this universal force. Its movement But because it is there in plantsuniversal, perhaps in the very stonesit is not therefore an unconscious force; in the animals it is easy to detect its presencea supremely conscious Power. Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger Consciously it seeks for possession, no self-regarding attachmentits manifestation and realisation upon earth; consciously it ischooses its instruments, awakens to its vibrations those who are capable of an answer, endeavours to realise in them that which is its pure movementeternal aim, and when the seeking for union of the self with the Divineinstrument is not fit, a seeking absolute drops it and regardless of all other thingsturns to look for others. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; Men think that they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even suddenly fallen in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens see their love come and magnifies all that is fine grow and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human naturethen it fades—or, full of its impure demandsit may be, asking for something endures a little longer in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring some who are more specially fitted for its more lasting movement. But their sense in this of a personal experience all their own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divinean illusion. It was a wave from the everlasting sea of universal love. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p3p2</ref>
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When Consciousness separated from Love is universal and eternal; it is always manifesting itself and always identical in its Origin and became Inconscienceessence. Love does not manifest in human beings alone; it is everywhere. Its movement is there in plants, perhaps in the Origin emanated very stones; in the animals it is easy to detect its presence. Love to reawaken Consciousness from , the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in its pure movement, the depths seeking for union of the Inconscience self with the Divine, a seeking absolute and bring regardless of all other things. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it back into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch with awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its Originown inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1403/divine2-june-love1929#p20p3</ref>
<center>~</center>==Nature of Love==
The material world in its darkness and ignorance had forgotten the Divine. Love came into the darkness; it awakened all is like a flame that lay there asleep; it whispered, opening the ears that were sealed: 'There changes what is hard into something worth waking to, worth living for, malleable and it is love!' And with the awakening to love there entered even sublimates this malleable thing into the world the possibility a kind of coming back to the Divine. The creation moves upward through love towards the Divine and in answer there leans downward to meet the creation the Divine Love and Grace. <ref>http://incarnatewordpurified vapour—it does not destroy, it transforms.in/cwm/05/26-august-1953#p1</ref> <center>~</center>
It has even been said that creation itself was an act of In its essence, in its origin, love or at least is like a flame, a white flame which overcomes ''all'' resistance. You can experience this yourself: whatever the building up difficulty in your being, whatever the burden of accumulated error, ignorance, incapacity and bad will, a single ''second'' of this pure, essential, supreme love dissolves it as in an all-powerful flame; a single moment and a whole past can disappear; a field single instant in which Divine Love could devise you ''touch'' it in its symbols essence and a whole burden is consumed.[Based on Aphorism 49- To feel and love the God of beauty and fulfil itself good in act of mutuality the ugly and self-givingthe evil, and, if not the initial nature still yearn in utter love to heal it of creationits ugliness and its evil, this may well be its ultimate object is real virtue and motivemorality. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2310/theaphorism-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii49#p10p11,p12</ref>
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...it is the joy of identity. Something must be there already which can become conscious of the identity, and that precisely is love. Then comes the manifestation of love. And in its supreme form, that is, when it returns to its source crossing all the phases of its manifestation, it becomes the bliss of union. For the feeling of union comes as a consequence of the feeling of separation. The higher Consciousness passage through the whole manifested universe gives the feeling of separation from the Origin; and the return to the Origin is a state the bliss of pure love but union, that is, the two things that were separated are united once again. And it is still Love; it is also a state Love after the great circuit of pure openness the manifestation. When it returns to divine knowledgeits Origin, it becomes the bliss of union.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1605/1926-octoberaugust-19391953#p3p6,p7</ref>
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Love is a supreme force which in its nature the Eternal Consciousness sent down from itself into an obscure desire to give oneself to others and darkened world that to receive others in exchange; it might bring back that world is a commerce between being and its beings being. Physical life does not desire to give itself, it desires only to the Divinereceive. Love came into the darkness; it awakened all It is true that lay there asleep; it whisperedis compelled to give itself, opening for the ears that were sealedlife which only receives and does not give must become barren, wither and perish, "There —if indeed such life in its entirety is something that possible at all here or in any world; but it is worth waking tocompelled, worth living fornot willing, and it is obeys the subconscious impulse of Nature rather than consciously shares in it. Even when love!" This human movement intervenes, the self-giving at first still preserves to a large extent the mechanical character of love is secretly seeking the subconscious will in the atom. Love itself at first obeys the law of hunger and enjoys the receiving and the exacting from others rather than the giving and surrendering to others which it admits chiefly as a necessary price for something else than what the thing that it desires. But here it has not yet foundattained to its true nature; its true law is to establish an equal commerce in which the joy of giving is equal to the joy of receiving and tends in the end to become even greater; but that is when it is shooting beyond itself under the pressure of the psychic flame to attain to the fulfilment of utter unity and has therefore to realise that which seemed to it does not know where -self as an even greater and dearer self than its own individuality. In its life-origin, the law of love is the impulse to find itrealise and fulfil oneself in others and by others, to be enriched by enriching, it to possess and be possessed because without being possessed one does not even know what it ispossess oneself utterly. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0321/2the-juneascent-of-1929life#p11p9</ref>
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The lover of Nature does this when he takes joy gnostic life will exist and act for the Divine in itself and in the world, for the Divine in all ; the things increasing possession of Nature universally without admitting repulsion or fear or mere liking the individual being and dislikingthe world by the Divine Presence, perceiving beauty Light, Power, Love, Delight, Beauty will be the sense of life to the gnostic being. In the more and more perfect satisfaction of that growing manifestation will be the individual's satisfaction: his power will be the instrumentation of the power of Supernature for bringing in and extending that which seems to others mean greater life and nature; whatever conquest and insignificantadventure will be there, bare will be for that only and savagenot for the reign of any individual or collective ego. Love will be for him the contact, meeting, union of self with self, of spirit with spirit, a unification of being, terrible a power and repellent. The artist joy and intimacy and closeness of soul to soul, of the poet do it when they seek One to the rasa One, a joy of identity and the universal from consequences of a diverse identity. It is this joy of an intimate self-revealing diversity of the aesthetic emotion or from One, the physical line or from the mental form multitudinous union of beauty or from the inner sense One and power alike of a happy interaction in the identity, that from which will be for him the ordinary man turns away and of that to which he is attached by a full revealed sense of pleasurelife. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2122/the-double-soul-ingnostic-manbeing#p9p21</ref>
==Origin of Love will be for him the contact, meeting, union of self with self, of spirit with spirit, a unification of being, a power and joy and intimacy and closeness of soul to soul, of the One to the One, a joy of identity and the consequences of a diverse identity.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/22/the-gnostic-being#p21</ref>==
<center>~</center>''Q. Where does love come from?'' ''A.'' Where does love come from? From the Origin of the universe.
Nature took up this sublime ...I say that love is a supreme force of love and put which the Eternal Consciousness has emanated in order to send it at into the service of her creative work by linking and mixing it with her movement of procreationworld. Love comes from that. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1205/the-four-austerities-and-the26-fouraugust-liberations1953#p72p3,p4,p5</ref>
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In its essence, The material world in its origin, love is like a flame, a white flame which overcomes all resistancedarkness and ignorance had forgotten the Divine. You can experience this yourself: whatever Love came into the difficulty in your beingdarkness; it awakened all that lay there asleep; it whispered, whatever opening the burden of accumulated errorears that were sealed: 'There is something worth waking to, ignoranceworth living for, incapacity and bad will, a single second of this pure, essential, supreme love dissolves it as in an all-powerful flame; a single moment and a whole past can disappear; a single instant in which you touch it in its essence and a whole burden is consumed. [Based on Aphorism 49- To feel and love !' And with the awakening to love there entered into the world the God possibility of beauty and good in coming back to the ugly and Divine. The creation moves upward through love towards the evil, Divine and still yearn in utter love answer there leans downward to heal it of its ugliness meet the creation the Divine Love and its evil, this is real virtue and moralityGrace.]<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1005/aphorism26-augusft-491953#p12p1</ref>
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When Consciousness separated from its Origin and became Inconscience, the Origin emanated Love to reawaken Consciousness from the depths of the Inconscience and bring it back into touch with its Origin. It may be said that at its origin love is for the facility supreme power of attraction which awakens, in response, the irresistible need of an absolute self-giving; they are the two poles of the language urge towards complete fusion.No other movement could, better and more surely than this, throw a bridge across the abyss dug by the sense of separation that you say comes from the love formation of the individual. It was necessary to bring back to itself what had been projected into space without destroying for this one or that onepurpose the universe created thus.That is why love sprang up, but it is all the same one Love manifested through different channelsirresistible power of union. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p58p21,p22,p23</ref>
=Types of Love=
 
==Divine Love==
The Divine Love love is of two kinds—the Divine love for the creation and the essence souls that are part of Truth itself and cannot be affected by human confusionsthe love of the seeker and love for the Divine Beloved; it has both a personal and impersonal element, but the personal is free here from all lower elements or bondage to the vital and physical instincts. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13p44</ref>
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Divine And the supreme Love is not an emotion,—a very different thing a love without any definite object―the love which loves because it cannot do other than to saylove. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2914/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p39p52</ref>
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Divine Love, in my view of it, is again not something ethereal, cold and far, but a love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness and rapture using all the nature for its expression...there Certainly, it is without the confusions and disorders of the present lower vital nature which it will change into something entirely warm, deep and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it will lose anything that is true and happy in the highest or deepest kind elements of love . Love cannot be cold—for there is no such thing as cold love, but the psychic element, love of which comes from the innermost heart Mother speaks in that passage is something very pure, fixed and soulconstant; it does not leap like fire and sink for want of fuel, a kind of inner union or but is steady and all-embracing and self-giving or at least existent like the light of the sun.  There is also a seeking for divine love thatis personal, a tie or an urge independent of other conditions or elements, existing for its own sake and but it is not for like the ordinary personal human love dependent on any mentalreturn from the person—it is personal but not egoistic, vital or physical pleasure—it goes from the real being in the one to the real being in the other. But to find that, liberation from the ordinary human way of approach is necessary. The Divine Love, satisfactionunlike the human, interest or habitis deep and vast and silent; one must become quiet and wide to be aware of it and reply to it. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p28p36,p37,p38</ref>
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Divine Love, in my view of it, The true divine love is again not something ethereal, cold and far, but a love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness and rapture using above all the nature for its expressionquarrels. Certainly, it It is without the confusions and disorders experience of the present lower vital nature which it will change into something entirely warm, deep perfect union in an invariable joy and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it will lose anything that is true and happy peace. <ref>http://incarnateword.in the elements of love./cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p22</ref>
<center>~</center> With the Divine's Love cannot be cold—for there is no such thing as cold love, the power of Transformation. It has this power because it is for the sake of Transformation that it has given itself to the world and manifested everywhere. Not only into man but into all the love atoms of which Matter has it infused itself in order to bring the Mother speaks world back to the original Truth. The moment you open to it, you receive also its power of Transformation. But it is not in terms of quantity that passage you can measure it—what is something very pure, fixed and constantessential is the true contact; for you will find that the true contact with it does not leap like fire and sink for want of fuel, but is steady and all-embracing and self-existent like sufficient to fill at once the light whole of the sunyour being. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2915/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovetransformation#p37p31</ref>
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There A supreme divine Love is also a divine love that is personalcreative Power and, but even though it can exist in itself silent and unchangeable, yet rejoices in external form and expression and is not like the ordinary personal human condemned to be a speechless and bodiless godhead.It has even been said that creation itself was an act of love dependent on any return from or at least the person—it is personal but building up of a field in which Divine Love could devise its symbols and fulfil itself in act of mutuality and self-giving, and, if not egoisticthe initial nature of creation,—it goes this may well be its ultimate object and motive. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p10</ref> ===Psychic Love=== The Divine's love is that which comes from above poured down from the real being Divine Oneness and its Ananda on the being—psychic love is a form taken by divine love in the one human being according to the real being in needs and possibilities of the other. But to find that, liberation from the ordinary human way of approach is necessaryconsciousness. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p37p11</ref>
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The soul's turning through When the psychic loves it loves with the Divine Love. When you love, you love to with the Divine must be through a 's love that is essentially divinediminished and distorted by your ego, but as an instrument of expression at first is human nature, it takes in its essence still the forms of human Divine's love and bhakti.  It is only as for the consciousness deepens, heightens and changes facility of the language that you say the love of this one or that greater eternal love can grow in one, but it and openly transform is all the human into the divinesame one Love manifested through different channels. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2914/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p32p57,p58,p59</ref>
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When the love goes towards the Divine, ...there is still this ordinary human element in it. There is the call for a return and if the return does not seem to come, the highest or deepest kind of love may sink; there is the self-interestpsychic element, which comes from the demand for the Divine as a giver of all that the human being wants innermost heart andsoul, if the demands are not acceded to, abhimana against the Divine, loss of faith, loss of fervour. Etc. etc. But the true love for the Divine is in its fundamental nature not of this a kind, but psychic and spiritual. The psychic element is the need of the inmost being for inner union or self-givingor at least a seeking for that, love, adorationa tie or an urge independent of other conditions or elements, union which can only be fully satisfied by the Divine. The spiritual element is the need of the being existing for contact, merging, union with its own highest sake and whole self and source of being and consciousness and bliss, the Divine. These two are two sides of the same thing. The mindnot for any mental, vitalor physical pleasure, physical can be the supports and recipients of this lovesatisfaction, but they can be fully that only when they become remoulded into harmony with the psychic and spiritual elements of the being and no longer bring in the lower insistences of the egointerest or habit. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p29p28</ref>
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The true divine Psychic love is above all quarrels. It is quite satisfying, and it can change even the experience of perfect union in an invariable joy vital love into something great and peacebeautiful.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1629/lettersdivine-love-topsychic-alove-youngand-sadhakhuman-ivlove#p22p15</ref>
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Krishna with Radha A psychic love towards all is also emerging; this love is a thing inward and does not seek to express itself outwardly like the symbol of the Divine Lovevital love which men usually have. The flute psychic and spiritual attitude is also not dependent on the call of good and bad in beings, but is self-existent regarding them as souls who carry the Divine Love; in them however thickly concealed and are children of the peacock is victoryMother. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/30/godsthe-emergence-goddessesor-andcoming-forward-semiof-divinethe-beingspsychic#p13p14</ref>
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When you reach Psychic love can have a warmth and a flame as intense and more intense than the vital, only it is a pure fire, not dependent on the contact with satisfaction of ego-desire or on the eating up of the fuel it embraces. It is a white flame, not a red one; but white heat is not inferior to the red variety in its ardour. It is true that the Divine's love you see this psychic love does not usually get its full play in everything human relations and human nature, it finds the fullness of its fire and all circumstancesecstasy more easily when it is lifted towards the Divine.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmsabcl/1423/divinehuman-loverelationships-in-yoga-i#p3p45</ref>
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The Divine has an equal If love for all human beingsis psychic in its nature, but the obscurity it always brings a sense of oneness or at least of consciousness an inner intimate closeness of most men prevents them being. The Divine Love is based upon oneness and the psychic derives from perceiving this divine lovethe Divine Love. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p30p12</ref>
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To The psychic love truly is pure and full of self-giving without egoistic demand, but it is human and can err and suffer. The Divine Love is something much vaster and deeper and full of light and ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p13</ref> ===Universal Love=== Universal love is the spiritual founded on the sense of the One and the Divineeverywhere and the change of the personal into a wide universal consciousness, we must rise above attachmentsfree from attachment and ignorance. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-forpsychic-thelove-and-human-divinelove#p24p43</ref>
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Divine As with individual, so with universal Love can overcome ; all that widening of the evil self through sympathy, goodwill, universal benevolence and cruel―the tiger does not attack beneficence, love of mankind, love of creatures, the attraction of all the yogimyriad forms and presences that surround us, by which mentally and emotionally man escapes from the first limits of his ego, has to be taken up into a unifying divine love for the universal Divine. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1423/generalthe-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-1ii#p7p5</ref>
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With the Divine's Love is the power of Transformation. It has this power because it is for the sake of Transformation that it has given itself to the world and manifested everywhere. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/15/transformation#p31</ref>
If The ''dynamic'' Love cannot go out equally to all—that would create a chaotic disturbance because of the spirit unpreparedness of divine love the majority. It is only the static immutable universal Love that can enter, apply equally to all—that which comes in a still wideness of the hardness heart which corresponds with the still wideness of the way diminishes, the tension is lightened, mind in which there is a sweetness and joy even in the core of difficulty equanimity and struggleinfinite peace. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmsabcl/0823/8sadhana-through-love-and-augustdevotion-1956i#p10p53</ref> ===Supramental Love===
<center>~</center> There is only one true love—it is the Divine Love; all other loves are diminutionsThe supramental love means an intense unity of soul with soul, mind with mind, life with life, limitations and deformations an entire flooding of that Love. Even the love body consciousness with the physical experience of oneness, the bhakta for his God is a diminution and often is tainted by egoism. But as one tends quite naturally to become like what one loves, presence of the bhaktaBeloved in every part, if he is sincere, begins to become like in every cell of the Divine whom he adores, and thus his love becomes purer and purerbody.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1629/10bhakti-juneyoga-and-1964vaishnavism#p2p37</ref>
<center>~</center>== Human Love ==
As supramental Truth is not merely a sublimation of our mental ideasOnce you have come in contact with this large, so pure and true Divine Love is not merely love, if you have felt it even for a sublimation short time and in its smallest form, you will realise what an abject thing human desire has made of it. It has become in human emotions; nature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is a different consciousnesssomething weak and sentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, with a different qualitysuperficial, movement exacting. And this baseness and substance. brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love! <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2903/divine-love-psychic-love2-andjune-human-love1929#p40p7</ref>
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The Divine's love Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is that which comes from above poured down from , in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the Divine Oneness , a seeking absolute and its Ananda on regardless of all other things. Love divine gives itself and asks for nothing. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the being—psychic first contact of love is does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a form taken by moment its divine love in the human being according touch awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the needs and possibilities of surface the human consciousnessnature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2905/divine-love19-psychicaugust-love-and-human-love1953#p11p21</ref>
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Divine Love, in my view of it, Human love is again not something ethereal, cold and far, nothing but a divine love absolutely intense, intimate and full of unity, closeness perverted and rapture using all distorted by the nature for its expression. Certainly, it is without the confusions and disorders of the present lower vital nature instrument through which it will change into something entirely warm, deep and intense; but that is no reason for supposing that it will lose anything that is true and happy in the elements of loveexpressed. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2910/divine-loveaphorism-psychic-love-and-human-love534#p36p4</ref>
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Divine Human love is made up of two kinds—the Divine love for the creation emotion, passion and the souls that are part desire,—all of itself and them vital movements, therefore bound to the love disabilities of the seeker and love for the Divine Beloved; it has both a personal and impersonal element, but the personal is free here from all lower elements or bondage to the human vital and physical instinctsnature. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p44p39</ref>
=== True Love ===<center>~</center>
The true Human love for is mostly vital and physical with a mental support—it can take an unselfish, noble and pure form and expression only if it is touched by the Divine psychic. It is self-givingtrue, as you say, free that it is more usually a mixture of demandignorance, attachment, full of submission passion and surrenderdesire. It makes no claimBut whatever it may be, imposes no conditionone who wishes to reach the Divine must not burden himself with human loves and attachments, strikes no bargainfor they form so many fetters and hamper his steps, indulges in no violence turning him away besides from the concentration of his emotions on the one supreme object of jealousy or pride or anger―for these things are not in its compositionlove. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1429/divine-love-psychic-love-forand-thehuman-divinelove#p20p41</ref>
<center>~</center> True love, that which fulfils and illumines, is not the love one receives but the love one gives.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p51</ref>=== Physical Love ===
There may too be a physical love, the attraction of beauty, the physical sex-appeal or anything else of the kind awakening the emotions of the heart. If that does not happen, then the physical need is all and that is sheer lust, nothing more. But physical love is possible. <centerref>~https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p31</centerref>
The true love for the Divine is a self-giving, free of demand, full of submission and surrender; it makes no claim, imposes no condition, strikes no bargain, indulges in no violences of jealousy or pride or anger—for these things are not in its composition. In return the Divine Mother also gives herself, but freely—and this represents itself in an inner giving—her presence in your mind, your vital, your physical consciousness, her power re-creating you in the divine nature, taking up all the movements of your being and directing them towards perfection and fulfilment, her love enveloping you and carrying you in its arms Godwards. It is this that you must aspire to feel and possess in all your parts down to the very material, and here there is no limitation either of time or of completeness. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p24</ref>===Mental Love===
In the same way there can be a mental love. It arises from the attempt to find one's ideal in another or from some strong mental passion of admiration and wonder or from the mind's seeking for a comrade, a complement and fulfiller of one's nature, a ''sahadharmī'', a guide and helper, a leader and master or from a hundred other mental motives. By itself that does not amount to love, though often it is so ardent as to be hardly distinguishable from it and may even push to sacrifice of life, entire self-giving etc. etc. But when it awakes the emotions of the heart, then it may lead to a very powerful love which is yet mental in its root and dominant character. <centerref>~http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p32</centerref>
True love is something very deep and calm in its intensity; it may quite well not manifest itself in any exterior acts sensational or affectionate. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p64</ref>===Vital Love===
===Psychic Love ===There are in the vital itself two kinds of love,—one full of joy and confidence and abandon, generous, unbargaining, ungrudging and very absolute in its dedication and this is akin to the psychic and well-fitted to be its complement and a means of expression of the divine love…
A psychic But there is another way of vital love towards all which is also emerging; this love more usually the way of human nature and that is a thing inward way of ego and desire. It is full of vital craving, desire and demand; its continuance depends upon the satisfaction of its demands; if it does not seek get what it craves, or even imagines that it is not being treated as it deserves—for it is full of imaginations, misunderstandings, jealousies, misinterpretations—it at once turns to express itself outwardly like the vital love which men usually have. The psychic sorrow, wounded feeling, revolt, pride, anger, all kinds of disorder, finally cessation and departure…Love should be a flowering of joy and union and confidence and spiritual attitude is also not dependent on the good self-giving and bad in beingsAnanda, but —but this lower vital way is self-existent regarding them as souls who carry only a source of suffering, trouble, disappointment, disillusion and disunion. Even a slight element of it shakes the Divine in them however thickly concealed foundations of peace and are children of replaces the Mothermovement towards Ananda by a fall towards sorrow, discontent and Nirananda.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3029/thedivine-emergencelove-orpsychic-cominglove-forwardand-ofhuman-the-psychiclove#p14p32,p33</ref>
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Psychic There is a vital love can have , a warmth and a flame as intense and more intense than physical love. It is possible for the vital, only it is to desire a pure firewoman for various vital reasons without love—in order to satisfy the instinct of domination or possession, not dependent on in order to draw in the satisfaction vital forces of ego-desire a woman so as to feed one's own vital or on for the eating up exchange of the fuel it embraces. It is a white flamevital forces, not a red one; but white heat is not inferior to satisfy vanity, the hunter's instinct of the red variety in its ardourchase etc. etc. It This is true that the psychic often called love does not usually get its full play in human relations and human nature, but it finds is only vital desire, a kind of lust. If however the fullness emotions of its fire and ecstasy more easily when the heart are awakened, then it is lifted towards the Divine. If becomes vital love is psychic in its nature, it always brings a sense of oneness mixed affair with any or at least all of an inner intimate closeness of being. The Divine Love is based upon oneness and the psychic derives from the Divine Lovethese vital motives strong, but still vital love. <ref>httpshttp://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p12,p13p30</ref>
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The psychic Vital emotions are of an altogether different nature—they are very clear, very precise, you can express them very distinctly; they are violent, they usually fill you with an intensity, a restlessness, sometimes a great satisfaction. some people imagine they experience love only when it is like that, when love is pure and full in the vital, when it comes with all the movements of self-giving without egoistic demandthe vital, all this intensity, this violence, this precision, this glamour, but it this brightness. And when that is human and can err and suffer. The Divine Love absent, they say, "Oh, this is something much vaster and deeper and full of light and anandanot love. "<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2915/divine30-lovejanuary-psychic-love-and-human-love1951#p13p31</ref>
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The psychic realisation is one of diversity When the vital joins in unity (the portion and love for the whole); Divine, it is not one brings into it heroism, enthusiasm, intensity, absoluteness, exclusiveness, the spirit of dissolving like a drop self-sacrifice, the total and passionate self-giving of water all the nature. It is the vital passion for the Divine that creates the spiritual heroes, conquerors or martyrs. I have never said that the vital is to have no part in the sea—for then no love or devotion is possible unless for the Divine, only that it must purify and ennoble itself in the light of the psychic being. The results of self-loving love between human beings are so poor and contrary in the end—that is love of oneself, devotion to oneselfwhat I mean by the ordinary vital love—that I want something purer and nobler and higher in the vital also for the movement towards the Divine.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p19p50,p51</ref>
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When there The love in the vital or other parts is no demand or desirethe true thing, good for the spiritual life, only when in the vital love is changed into a form of the psychic love and self-givingbecomes an instrument for the transformation of the soul's love, that is no longer for the desires of the psychic ego which men call love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divinehuman-loverelations-psychicand-lovethe-andspiritual-life#p54</ref> ==Misapprehensions Related to Love== It has become humannature something low, brutal, selfish, violent, ugly, or else it is something weak and sentimental, made up of the pettiest feeling, brittle, superficial, exacting. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love! <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p14p7</ref>
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Psychic As for love , the love must be turned singly towards the Divine. What men call by that name is quite satisfyinga vital interchange for mutual satisfaction of desire, and it can change even the vital love into something great and beautifulimpulse or physical pleasure.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsasabcl/2924/divinetransformation-loveof-psychicthe-lovevital-and-human-lovex#p15p31</ref>
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All these "feelings"—what to call them?—have a mode of vibration, with something very essential at the core, and covering layers, as it were. And the supreme Love most central vibration is a the same, and as it expands to express itself, it becomes distorted. With love without any definite object―the , it is quite obvious; it becomes, outwardly, in the vast majority of cases, something whose nature is quite different from the inner vibration, because it is something that withdraws into itself, shrivels up and wants to draw things towards itself in an egoistic movement of possession. You ''want'' to be loved. You say, "I love that person," but at the same time there is what you want; the feeling is lived as, "I want to be loved." And so this distortion is almost as great as the distortion of hatred which loves because consists in wanting to destroy what you love in order not to be bound by it .Because you cannot do obtain what you want from the object of your love, you want to destroy it in order to become free; in the other than case, you shrivel up almost in an inner rage, because you cannot obtain, you cannot absorb what you love.[Based on Aphorisms - 113—Hatred is the sign of a secret attraction that is eager to loveflee from itself and furious to deny its own existence. That too is God's play in His creature.114—Selfishness is the only sin, meanness the only vice, hatred the only criminality. All else can easily be turned into good, but these are obstinate resisters of deity.]<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1410/divineaphorism-love113-and-human-love114#p52p5</ref>
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This was the supreme loveCertainly, to accept the loss of one has the perfect condition of supreme divinity, its absolute consciousness, its infinite knowledge, right to unite with unconsciousness, to dwell in the world with ignorance love and darkness. And yet none perhaps would call it true love; for it does not clothe carries in itself in a superficial sentimentits joy, it makes no demand but unfortunately human beings are egoistic and immediately mix with their love the ''desire to be loved'' in exchange for what it has donereturn, no show and this desire is contrary to spiritual truth and the cause of its sacrifice. <ref>http://incarnatewordpassions and sufferings.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p6</ref>
The one you love must have the right of freedom in her feelings and if you want the truth you must understand this right and accept it. Otherwise there will be no end to your miseries. This is an occasion to surmount your egoism and to open to the true life.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p6</ref> ===Universal LoveDifference between Aspiration and Desire===
Universal The essential difference between love in aspiration and love in desire is the spiritual founded on the sense of the One that love in aspiration gives itself entirely and the Divine everywhere and the change of the personal into a wide universal consciousnessasks nothing in return—it does not claim anything; whereas love in desire gives itself as little as possible, asks as much as possible, free from attachment it pulls things to itself and ignorancealways makes demands.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2904/divine22-lovefebruary-psychic-love-and-human-love1951#p43p21</ref>
===Supramental Difference between Vital Desire and Psychic Love===
The supramental is not, as you can imagine, something cold, hard and rocklike. It bears within it Psychic love never bargains—but the presence of the Divine Love as well as the Divine Truth and its reign here means vital always tries to derive some benefit for those who accept it the straight and thornless path on which there is no wall or obstacle of which the ancient Rishis saw the far-off promiseitself in all circumstances. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2917/bhakti-yoga26-andjune-vaishnavism1935#p20p4</ref>
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Psychic love is always peaceful and joyous; it is the vital which dramatizes and makes itself unhappy without any reason. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/16/letters-to-a-young-sadhak-iv#p16</ref>
The supramental <center>~</center> It is difficult to define its [''psychic love means an intense unity of soul with soul's''] limits or to recognise it. For even when there is the psychic love for another person, mind with mind, life it gets in the human being so mixed up with life, and an entire flooding of the body consciousness with vital that it is the physical experience of oneness, commonest thing to justify a vital love by claiming for it a psychic character. One could say that psychic love is distinguished by an essential purity and selflessness—but the presence vital can put on a very brilliant imitation of the Beloved in every partthat character, in every cell of the bodywhen it likes. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/bhaktihuman-yogarelations-and-vaishnavismthe-spiritual-life#p37p58</ref>
===How does Divine Love Manifest? =and Sex==
To manifest the Divine love, you must be capable Nature took up this sublime force of receiving the Divine love. The wider and clearer put it at the opening in them, the more they manifest love divine in its original purity; the more service of her creative work by linking and mixing it is mixed with the lower human feelingsher movement of procreation. This association has even become so close, the greater the deformation. The divisionso intimate, the distinction between the two that you make very few human beings are illumined enough in their consciousness to be able to dissociate these movements from each other and experience them separately. In this way, love has suffered every degradation, it has been debased to the beginning are a creation level of the mind: once you rise to a higher level, they disappearbeast. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0312/2the-four-austerities-and-the-junefour-1929liberations#p4p72</ref>
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All movements are in the mass movements of Nature's cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The Divine Loveindividual receives something of them, unlike humansa wave or pressure of some cosmic force, and is deep and vast and silentdriven by it; one must become quiet he thinks it is his own, generated in himself separately, but it is not so, it is part of a general movement which works just in the same way in others. Sex, for instance, is a movement of general Nature seeking for its play and wide to be aware of it uses this or that one—a man vitally or physically "in love" as it is called with a woman is simply repeating and reply to it… To give oneself is satisfying the secret world-movement of sadhanasex, if it had not to demand been that woman, it would have been another; he is simply an instrument in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement. So it is with anger and acquire. The more one gives oneself, the more the power to receive will growother Nature-motives. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p38p5</ref>
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On It is not that it is not possible to keep the physical plane love pure, but the two things [''love and sex-desire''] are so near each other and have been so much twined together in the animal beginnings of the race that it is not easy to keep them altogether separate. In the pure psychic love there is no trace of the Divine expresses himself through beautysex-desire, on but usually the mental plane through knowledge, on vital affection gets very strongly associated with the psychic which is then mixed though still not sexual; but the vital plane through power affection and on the vital physical sex-emotion are entirely close to each other, so that at any moment or in any given case one may awake the other. This becomes very strong when the sex-force is strong in an individual as it is in most vitally energetic people. To increase always the force of the psychic plane through , to control the sex-impulse and turn it into the ''ojas'', to turn the lovetowards the Divine are the true remedies for this difficulty. Seminal force not sexually spent can always be turned into ''ojas''. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1531/the-divine-working-in-the-universesex#p6p21</ref>
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It [When the Divine Love] exists in itself and does not depend psychic puts its influence on outer contact the vital, the first thing you must be careful to avoid is any least mixture of a wrong vital movement with the psychic movement. Lust is the perversion or outer expression. Whether it shall express itself outwardly degradation which prevents love from establishing its reign; so when there is the movement of psychic love in the heart, lust or how vital desire is the one thing that must not be allowed to come in—just as when strength comes down from above, personal ambition and pride have to be kept far away from it ; for any mixture of the perversion will express itself outwardly depends on corrupt the psychic or spiritual truth that has to be manifestedaction and prevent a true fulfilment.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p6p22</ref>
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There What is one divine Love secret in real love? Get clear of all thingsthe sentimental sexual turmoil and go back to the soul, but —then there is real love. It is then also you would be able to receive the manifestation [of it in matter and in forms of life] depends upon overwhelming love without getting the state of consciousness and its organisationlower being into an excitement which might be disastrous. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2931/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-lovesex#p7p24</ref>
== Human Why is Love =Essential?=
Ordinary human When you reach the contact with the Divine's love is vital, emotional and physical and always egoistic—a form of self-you see this love. The psychic element is very small except in a feweverything and all circumstances. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3114/humandivine-relations-and-the-spiritual-lifelove#p55p3</ref>
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Human The more love is mainly vitaland bhakti and surrender grow in the heart, when it is not vital the more rapid and physical together. It is also sometimes psychic + vital. But perfect becomes the evolution of the Love with a dominant psychic element is raresadhana. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3130/humanthe-relationspsychic-and-the-spiritual-liferealisations#p56p23</ref>
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Human For there is, concealed behind individual love , obscured by its ignorant human figure, a mystery which the mind cannot seize, the mystery of the body of the Divine, the secret of a mystic form of the Infinite which we can approach only through the ecstasy of the heart and the passion of the pure and sublimated sense, and its attraction which is nothing but the call of the divine Flute-player, the mastering compulsion of the All-Beautiful, can only be seized and seize us through an occult love perverted and distorted by yearning which in the end makes one the Form and the Formless, and identifies Spirit and Matter. It is that which the spirit in Love is seeking here in the darkness of the instrument through Ignorance and it is that which it finds when individual human love is expressedchanged into the love of the Immanent Divine incarnate in the material universe.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1023/aphorismthe-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-534ii#p4</ref>
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Human love Love is mostly vital the power and passion of the divine self-delight and physical with a mental support—it can take an unselfishwithout love we may get the rapt peace of its infinity, the absorbed silence of the Ananda, noble but not its absolute depth of richness and pure form and expression only if it is touched by fullness. Love leads us from the suffering of division into the psychic. It is true, as you saybliss of perfect union, but without losing that it joy of the act of union which is the soul's greatest discovery and for which the life of the cosmos is more usually a mixture long preparation.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/24/love-and-the-triple-path#p5</ref> ==To Deal with Difficulties== If the spirit of ignorancedivine love can enter, attachmentthe hardness of the way diminishes, passion and desire. But whatever it may be, one who wishes to reach the Divine must not burden himself with human loves and attachmentstension is lightened, for they form so many fetters there is a sweetness and hamper his steps, turning him away besides from joy even in the concentration core of difficulty and struggle. The indispensable surrender of his emotions on all our will and works and activities to the one supreme object Supreme is indeed only perfect and perfectly effective when it is a surrender of love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2923/divinethe-loveascent-psychicof-lovethe-andsacrifice-human-loveii#p41p11</ref>
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He was speaking Nothing can resist the steady action of human love manifesting as Bhakti, as a force of devotion for the Divine, . It melts all resistances and he says that at the beginning your love for the Divine is a very human love with triumphs over all the characteristics of human lovedifficulties.. Yet if you persist and make the necessary effort, it is not impossible for this human love to be transformed into divine love through identification with what you love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0616/169-junenovember-19541938#p61p2</ref>
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There is a vital love, a physical love. It is possible for as the vital to desire a woman for various vital reasons without love—in order to satisfy the instinct love of domination or possession, in order to draw in the vital forces of a woman so as to feed one's own vital or for Divine grows that the exchange of vital forces, other things cease to satisfy vanity, the hunter's instinct of the chase etc. etc.This is often called love, but it is only vital desire, a kind of lust. If however the emotions of trouble the heart are awakened, then it becomes vital love, a mixed affair with any or all of these vital motives strong, but still vital lovemind. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sexhuman-relations-and-the-spiritual-life#p30p22</ref>
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There may too be a physical And yet men have invented all kinds of moral and social rules in the hope of controlling this force of love, of making it amenable and docile. But these rules seem to have been made only to be broken; and the restraint they impose on its free activity merely increases its explosive power. For it is not by rules that the attraction movements of beautylove can be disciplined. Only a greater, the physical sex-appeal or anything else higher and truer power of love can subdue the kind awakening the emotions uncontrollable impulses of the heartlove. Only love can rule over love by enlightening, transforming and exalting it. If that For here too, more than anywhere else, control does not happenconsist of suppression and abolition but of transmutation—a sublime alchemy. This is because, then of all the physical need forces at work in the universe, love is all and that is sheer lustthe most powerful, nothing morethe most irresistible. But physical Without love is possiblethe world would fall back into the chaos of inconscience. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3112/sexthe-four-austerities-and-the-four-liberations#p31p67</ref>
===Mental Love=To Realise the Oneness==
In the same way there can be a mental All true love. It arises from the attempt to find oneand sacrifice are in their essence Nature's ideal in another or from some strong mental passion contradiction of admiration the primary egoism and wonder or its separative error; it is her attempt to turn from the mind's seeking for a comrade, necessary first fragmentation towards a complement and fulfiller of one's nature, recovered oneness. All unity between creatures is in its essence a sahadharmīself-finding, a guide and helperfusion with that from which we have separated, a leader and master or from a hundred other mental motives. By itself that does not amount to love, though often it is so ardent as to be hardly distinguishable from it and may even push to sacrifice discovery of life, entire one's self-giving etc. etc. But when it awakes the emotions of the heart, then it may lead to a very powerful love which is yet mental in its root and dominant characterothers. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3123/sexthe-sacrifice-the-triune-path-and-the-lord-of-the-sacrifice#p32p2</ref>
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Love, the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment; it is, in its pure movement, the seeking for union of the self with the Divine, a seeking absolute and regardless of all other things. Love divine gives itself and asks for nothing. What human beings have made of it, we do not need to say; they have turned it into an ugly and repulsive thing. And yet even in human beings the first contact of love does bring down something of its purer substance; they become capable for a moment of forgetting themselves, for a moment its divine touch awakens and magnifies all that is fine and beautiful. But afterwards there comes to the surface the human nature, full of its impure demands, asking for something in exchange, bartering what it gives, clamouring for its own inferior satisfactions, distorting and soiling what was divine." <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/05/19-august-1953#p22</ref>
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It has become human nature The oneness with all in its basis is something low, brutal, selfish, violent, uglyself-existent and self-content which does not ''need'' expression. When it does express itself as love, or else it is something weak wide and sentimentaluniversal, made up untroubled and firm even when it is intense. This is in the basic cosmic oneness. There is also the surface cosmic consciousness which is an awareness of the pettiest feelingplay of cosmic forces—here anything may rise, brittlesex also. It is this part that needs the perfect psychisation, superficialotherwise one cannot even hold, exactingcontain and deal with it in the proper way. And this baseness and brutality or this self-regarding weakness they call love!<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0329/2divine-junelove-1929psychic-love-and-human-love#p7p22</ref>
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Because you cannot obtain what you want For supramental Love brings an active ecstasy that surpasses the void passive peace and stillness which is the heaven of the liberated Mind and does not betray the deeper greater calm which is the beginning of the supramental silence. The unity of a love which is able to include in itself all differences without being diminished or abrogated by their present limitations and apparent dissonances is raised to its full potentiality on the supramental level. For there an intense oneness with all creatures founded on a profound oneness of the soul with the Divine can harmonise with a play of relations that only makes the oneness more perfect and absolute. The power of Love supramentalised can take hold of all living relations without hesitation or danger and turn them Godwards delivered from their crude, mixed and petty human settings and sublimated into the happy material of a divine life. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the object -sacrifice-ii#p15</ref> == Why Doesn’t Love Manifest? == When the surroundings, circumstances, atmosphere, the way of living and above all the inner attitude are altogether of your a low kind, vulgar, gross, egoistic, sordid, loveis reluctant to come, that is, it always hesitates to manifest itself and generally does not stay long. A home of beauty must be given for Beauty to stay. I am not speaking of external things—a real house, real furniture and all that—I am speaking of an inner attitude, of something within which is beautiful, noble, harmonious, unselfish. But when, you want as soon as it tries to destroy manifest, it is immediately mixed with such low and ugly things, it does not remain, it goes away.This is what Sri Aurobindo says: it is "reluctant to be born"—it could be said that it immediately regrets being born. Men always complain that love does not stay with them but it is entirely their fault. They give this love such a sordid life, mixed with a heap of horrors and such vulgarity, things so base, so selfish, so dirty, that the poor thing cannot stay. If they don't succeed in order killing it altogether, they make it utterly sick. So the only thing it can do is to become free; take flight. People always complain that love is impermanent and passing. To tell the truth, they should be very grateful that it manifested in them in spite of the sordidness of the other casehouse they gave it. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/04/12-may-1951#p3</ref> = How to Love? = The Rungs of Love At first one loves only when one is loved. Next, one loves spontaneously, you shrivel up almost but one wants to be loved in an inner rage, because you cannot obtainreturn.Then one loves even if one is not loved, you cannot absorb what you but one still wants one's loveto be accepted.And finally one loves purely and simply, without any other need or joy than that of loving. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1014/aphorismdivine-love-and-113human-114love#p5p32,p33,p34,p35,p36</ref>
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===Difference between Aspiration and Desire in Love===
The essential difference between ''Q. Mother, what kind of love is that which says, "If you love me, I shall love you"?'' ''A.'' If you love me, I shall love you? That's exactly the way men speak: "If you love me, I love you, if you don't love me, I don't love you." This is just the most human expression of love. And it goes still farther, they apply it also to their relation with the Divine. They say to the Divine: "If you do what I want, I shall say that you love me, and I shall love you. But if you don't do what I want, then I won't think at all that you love in aspiration me, and I certainly will not love in desire you."That's how it is. That means that it becomes commercial. ''But "If you don't love me, I shall love you"?'' That begins to be better! And what is better still is not to ask oneself whether one is loved or not, one should be absolutely indifferent to that. And that begins to be true love in aspiration gives itself entirely and asks nothing in return—it does : one loves because one loves, not at all because one receives a response to one's love or because the other person loves you. All those conditions—that is not claim anythinglove. One loves because one cannot do otherwise but love. One loves because one loves. One doesn't care at all about what will happen; whereas one is perfectly satisfied with the feeling of one's love. One loves because one loves. All the rest is bargaining, it is not love. And, moreover, one thing is certain: the moment one experiences true love , one doesn't even put the question any longer. It seems altogether childish and ridiculous and insignificant to ask this question. One has the complete plenitude of joy and realisation the moment one experiences true love and one doesn't at all need any kind of response. One is love, that's all. And one has the plenitude of the satisfaction of love. There is no need at all of any reciprocity. I tell you, so long as there is this calculation in desire gives itself the mind or the feelings and sensations, so long as little as possiblethere is some calculation, more or less acknowledged, asks as much as possibleit is bargaining, it pulls is not love. You can't manage to understand?... I hope it will come one day! All the rest is exactly what men have made of love. And besides it is not very pretty and leads to all kinds of things to itself which are still less pretty, like jealousy, for instance, or envy, and always makes demandsin violent natures it goes as far as hatred. <ref>httpThe small beginning is this://incarnatewordthe need, when one loves, that what one loves or the person one loves should know that he is loved.But in/cwm/04/22-february-1951#p21</ref>the relation with the Divine: one loves the Divine but insists that the Divine should know that one loves Him! That's the beginning of the fall. One does not even think about the real thing. It doesn't even slightly touch the mind.
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Vital emotions are of an altogether different nature—they are very clear, very precise, you can express them very distinctly; they are violent, they usually fill you with an intensity, It is a restlessnesslong, sometimes a great satisfaction. some people imagine they experience love only when it is like thatlong, when long way to go from what men call "love is in the vital, when it comes with all the movements of the vital, all this intensity, this violence, this precision, this glamour, this brightness. And when that is absent, they say, "Oh, this is not loveto true love—a long way."<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1505/3026-januaryaugust-19511953#p31p12,p13,p14,p15,p16,p17,p18,p19,p20,p21,p22,p23,p24</ref>
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The vital must have decided '' Q. It is said that my to become conscious of divine Love all other love has to be abandoned. What is the best way of rejecting the other love would express which clings so obstinately (''Laughter'') and does not easily leave us?'' '' A.'' To go through it. Ah!To go through, to see what is behind it, not to stop at the appearance, not to be satisfied with the outer form, to look for the principle which is behind this love, and not be content until one has found the origin of the feeling in oneself. Then the outer form will crumble of itself and you will be in contact with the divine Love which is behind all things. That is the best way. To want to get rid of the one in order to find the other is very difficult. It is almost impossible. For human nature is so limited, so full of contradictions and so exclusive in its movements that if one wants to reject love in its lower form, that is to say, human love as human beings experience it, if one makes an inner effort to reject it, one usually rejects the entire capacity of feeling love and becomes like a stone. And then sometimes one has to wait for years or centuries before there is a particular reawakening in oneself of the capacity to receive and manifest love. Therefore, the best waywhen love comes, in whatever form it may be, is to try and pierce through its outer appearance and find the divine principle which is behind and which gives it existence. Naturally, it is full of snares and difficulties, but it is more effective. That is to say, instead of ceasing to love because one loves wrongly, one must cease to love wrongly and want to love well. For instance, love between human beings, in all its forms, the love of parents for children, of children for parents, of brothers and sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selfishness and all the other defects which are man's ordinary drawbacks; so instead of completely ceasing to love—which, besides, is very difficult as it did Sri Aurobindo says, which would simply dry up the heart and serve no end—one must learn how to love better: to love with devotion, with self-giving, self-abnegation, and to struggle, not against love itself, but against its distorted forms: against all forms of monopolising, of attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, and all the feelings which accompany these main movements. Not to want to possess, to dominate; and not to want to impose one's will, one's whims, one's desires; not to want to take, to receive, but to give; not to insist on the other's response, but be content with one's own love; not to seek one's personal interest and joy and the fulfilment of one's personal desire, but to be satisfied with the giving of one's love and affection; and not happen to ask for any response. Simply to be happy to love, nothing more. If you do that way, you have taken a great stride forward and can, through this attitude, gradually advance farther in the vital saysfeeling itself, and realise one day that love is not something personal, that love is a universal divine feeling which manifests through you more or less finely, "There but which in its essence is no something divine.The first step is to stop being selfish. For everyone it is the same thing, not only for those who want to do yoga but also in ordinary life: if one wants to know how to love, one must not love oneself first and above all selfishly; one must give oneself to the object of love!" without exacting anything in return. This discipline is elementary in order to surmount oneself and lead a life which is not altogether gross. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1708/20-october19-1934september-11956#p4p21,p22,p23,p24,p25,p26,p27,p28,p29</ref>
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I have never said Let us grant that the vital is to have no part in the at first love for the Divine, may only be an extended selfishness and that this aspect of extended selfishness may persist and dominate, as it must purify does still persist and dominate, in higher stages of the evolution: still as mind evolves and more and ennoble more finds itself in , it comes by the light experience of life and love and mutual help to perceive that the psychic natural individual is a minor term of beingand exists by the universal. <ref>http://incarnateword. The results in/cwsa/21/the-ascent-of self-loving love between human beings are so poor life#p2</ref> ===How to Purify the Mental, Physical to Receive and contrary in Give Love=== A psychic change is demanded, a divestiture of the masks of the end—that is what I mean by Ignorance, a purification of the ordinary egoistic mental, vital love—that I want something purer and nobler physical movements that prolong the old inferior consciousness; each movement of love, spiritualised, must depend no longer on mental preference, vital passion or physical craving, but on the recognition of soul by soul,—love restored to its fundamental spiritual and higher in psychic essence with the mind, the vital , the physical as manifesting instruments and elements of that greater oneness. In this change the individual love also is converted by a natural heightening into a divine love for the movement towards Divine Inhabitant immanent in a mind and soul and body occupied by the DivineOne in all creatures. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2923/divinethe-loveascent-psychicof-love-andthe-humansacrifice-loveii#p50p2</ref>
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YesI should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. First, that the love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic love only; it is the nature love of all the being, the vital and vital love-physical included,—all are capable of the same self-giving. It is based on desire a mistake to believe that if the vital loves, it must be a love that demands and imposes the sense satisfaction of claim its desire; it is a mistake to think that it must be either that or sense else the vital, in order to escape from its "attachment", must draw away altogether from the object of possession; psychic its love is based on . The vital can be as absolute in its unquestioning self-giving.As for love, as any other part of the love must nature; nothing can be turned singly towards more generous than its movement when it forgets self for the DivineBeloved. What men call by that name is a The vital interchange for mutual satisfaction and physical should both give themselves in the true way—the way of true love, not of ego desire, vital impulse or physical pleasure. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2932/divinethe-loveright-psychicway-loveof-andloving-humanthe-lovemother#p52p6</ref>
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When the vital joins ..."Aspiration in the love Physical for the Divine's Love."By the "Physical" I mean the physical consciousness, the most ordinary outward-going consciousness, the normal consciousness of most human beings, it brings into it heroismwhich sets such great store by comfort, enthusiasmgood food, intensitygood clothes, absolutenesshappy relationships, exclusivenessetc., instead of aspiring for the higher things. Aspiration in the physical for the Divine's Love implies that the physical asks for nothing else save that it should feel how the spirit of self-sacrificeDivine loves it. It realises that all its usual satisfactions are utterly insufficient. But there cannot be a compromise: if the physical wants the Divine's Love it must want that alone and not say, "I shall have the Divine's Love and at the total same time keep my other attachments, needs and passionate selfenjoyments...." <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/aspiration-in-the-physical-for-the-divines-giving love#p1</ref> =How does Divine Love Manifest?= At the beginning of this manifestation, in the purity of its origin, love is composed of two movements, two complementary poles of all the natureurge towards complete oneness. It On one hand there is the vital passion for supreme power of attraction and on the Divine that creates other the spiritual heroes, conquerors or martyrsirresistible need for absolute self-giving. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2912/divinethe-lovefour-psychicausterities-loveand-andthe-humanfour-loveliberations#p49p70</ref>
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The love But because this Unity has manifested in the vital or other parts is many—in the multiplicity—something had to serve as a link between the true thing, good for Origin and the spiritual lifemanifestation, only when in and the vital most perfect link one can conceive of is love . And what is changed into a form of the psychic love and becomes an instrument for the transformation first gesture of the soul's love? To give oneself, to serve. What is its spontaneous, no longer for the desires of the ego which men call loveimmediate, inevitable movement? To serve. To serve in a joyous, complete, total self-giving. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3109/human-relations-and-the6-spiritualmarch-life1957#p54p5</ref>
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I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. First, the The movement of love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic love only; limited to human beings and it is perhaps less distorted in other worlds than in the love of human. Look at the flowers and trees. When the sun sets and all becomes silent, sit down for a moment and put yourself into communion with nature, you will feel rising from the beingearth, from below the roots of the vital trees, and vital-physical includedmounting upward and coursing through their fibres,—all are capable of the same self-giving. It is a mistake up to believe that if the vital loveshighest outstretching branches, it must be a the aspiration of an intense love and longing,—a longing for something that demands brings light and imposes gives happiness, for the satisfaction of its desire; it light that is gone and they wish to have back again. There is a mistake to think yearning so pure and intense that it must be either that or else if you can feel the vital, movement in order to escape from its "attachment"the trees, must draw away altogether from the object of its love. The vital can be as absolute your own being too will go up in its unquestioning self-giving as any other part of nature; nothing can be more generous than its movement when it forgets self an ardent prayer for the Beloved. The vital peace and light and physical should both give themselves in the true way—the way of true love, not of ego-desirethat are unmanifested here. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2905/divine-love-psychic-love19-andaugust-human-love1953#p27p1</ref>
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There '' Q. You say, "Love is everywhere. Its movement is there in plants, perhaps in the very stones...." If there is love in a stone, how can one see it?'' '' A.'' Perhaps the different elements constituting the stone are in coordinated by the vital itself two kinds spark of love. I am sure that when the Divine Love descended into Matter,—one full this Matter was quite unconscious, it had absolutely no form; it may even be said that forms in general are the result of the effort of Love to bring consciousness into Matter. If one of joy and confidence and abandonyou (I have my doubts, generousbut still) went down into the Inconscient, non bargainingwhat is called the pure Inconscient, ungrudging and very absolute in its dedication and this you would realise what it is akin . A stone will seem to the psychic and well-fitted to be its complement and you a means marvellously conscious object in comparison. You speak disdainfully of expression a stone because you have just a wee bit more consciousness than it has, but the difference between the consciousness of the divine lovestone and the total Inconscient is perhaps greater than that between the stone and you. And neither does the psychic love or coming out of the Inconscient is due exclusively to the divine love despise a physical means sacrifice of expression wherever that is pure and right and possible: it does not depend upon thatthe Divine, it does not diminishto this descent of Divine Love into the Inconscient. Consequently, revolt or go out like a snuffed candle when I said "perhaps in the stone", I could have removed the "perhaps"—I can assert that even in the stone it is deprived there. There would be nothing, neither stone nor metal nor any organisation of any such means; but when it can use it, it does so with joy and gratitudeatoms without this presence of Divine Love. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2904/divine24-lovemarch-psychic-love-and-human-love1951#p32p1,p2</ref>
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But there is another way of vital love which is more usually On the physical plane the Divine expresses himself through beauty, on the mental plane through knowledge, on the way of human nature and that is a way of ego and desire. It is full of vital craving, desire plane through power and demand; its continuance depends upon on the satisfaction of its demands; if it does not get what it cravespsychic plane through love. When we rise high enough, or even imagines we discover that it is not being treated as it deserves—for it is these four aspects unite with each other in a single consciousness, full of imaginationslove, misunderstandingsluminous, jealousiespowerful, misinterpretations—it at once turns to sorrowbeautiful, wounded feelings, revolt, pride, angercontaining all, pervading all kinds of disorder, finally cessation and departure. A love of this kind is in its very nature ephemeral and unreliable and it cannot be made a foundation for divine love… Love should be a flowering of joy and union and confidence and self-giving and Ananda,—but this lower vital way is only a source of suffering, trouble, disappointment, disillusion and disunion. Even a slight element of it shakes the foundations of peace and replaces the movement towards Ananda by a fall towards sorrow, discontent and Nirananda. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2915/the-divine-loveworking-psychicin-love-andthe-human-loveuniverse#p33p6,p7</ref> <center>~</center>
===Difference between Vital Desire and Psychic Love===And when the day comes for the manifestation of supreme love, for the crystallised, concentrated descent of supreme love, that will truly be the hour of transformation. For nothing will be able to resist That.
Psychic But since it is all-powerful, some receptivity must be prepared on earth so that the effects are not shattering. Sri Aurobindo has explained this in one of his letters. Someone asked him, "Why does it not come immediately?" He answered something like this: if divine love never bargains—but were to manifest in its essence upon earth, it would be like a bombshell; because the vital always tries earth is neither supple nor receptive enough to be able to derive some benefit for widen itself to the dimensions of this love. It not only needs to open, but to widen itself in all circumstancesand to become more supple—Matter is still too rigid. And even the substance of the physical consciousness—not only the most material Matter, but the substance of the physical consciousness—is too rigid. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1710/26-juneaphorism-193549#p4p15,p16</ref>
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The manifestation of the love of the Divine in the world was the great holocaust, the supreme self-giving. The Perfect Consciousness accepted to be merged and absorbed into the unconsciousness of matter, so that consciousness might be awakened in the depths of its obscurity and little by little a Divine Power might rise in it and make the whole of this manifested universe a highest expression of the Divine Consciousness and the Divine love. This was the supreme love, to accept the loss of the perfect condition of supreme divinity, its absolute consciousness, its infinite knowledge, to unite with unconsciousness, to dwell in the world with ignorance and darkness. And yet none perhaps would call it love; for it does not clothe itself in a superficial sentiment, it makes no demand in exchange for what it has done, no show of its sacrifice. The force of love in the world is trying to find consciousnesses that are capable of receiving this divine movement in its purity and expressing it. This race of all beings towards love, this irresistible push and seeking out in the world's heart and in all hearts, is the impulse given by a Divine love behind the human longing and seeking. It touches millions of instruments, trying always, always failing; but this constant touch prepares these instruments and suddenly one day there will awake in them the capacity of self-giving, the capacity of loving. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p6</ref> ==How to Love & Sex=the Divine?=
All movements are By becoming divine in the mass movements of Naturenature ['s cosmic forces—they are movements of universal Nature. The individual receives something of them, a wave or pressure of some cosmic force, and is driven by it; he thinks it is his own, generated in himself separately, but it is not so, it is part of a general movement which works just in the same way in others. Sex, for instance, is a movement of general Nature seeking for its play and it uses this or that one—a man vitally or physically "in 'one can love" as it is called with a woman is simply repeating and satisfying the world-movement of sex, if it had not been that woman, it would have been anotherdivinely'']; he is simply an instrument in Nature's machinery, it is not an independent movement. So it there is with anger and no other Nature-motivesway.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3129/sexdivine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p5p10</ref>
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When the psychic puts its influence on the vital, the first thing you must be careful to avoid is any least mixture of a wrong vital movement with the psychic movement. Lust is the perversion or degradation which prevents To love from establishing its reign; so when there is truly the movement of psychic love in the heartDivine, lust or vital desire is the one thing that we must not be allowed to come in—just as when strength comes down from rise above, personal ambition and pride have to be kept far away from it; for any mixture of the perversion will corrupt the psychic or spiritual action and prevent a true fulfilmentattachments. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/3114/sexlove-for-the-divine#p22p24</ref>
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One must give up '' Q. I feel there is no love in me towards the sex-satisfaction and be satisfied with the Divine Love and AnandaMother. What shall I do to feel this love?'' '' A.''Become truthful, pure, sincere, straightforward.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3132/sexthe-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p38p10</ref>
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What And it is real very easy to explain how a person who has this [ love? Get clear is like a flame, a white flame which overcomes all resistances] experience can spread it, can act on others; because to have the experience you must touch the one, supreme Essence of all the sentimental sexual turmoil whole manifestation, the Origin and go back to the soulEssence,—then there the Source and the Reality of all that is real love. It is then also ; and at once you would be able to receive enter the overwhelming love without getting the lower being into an excitement which might realm of Unity—there is no longer any separation of individuals, there is only one single vibration that can be disastrous.<ref>http://incarnatewordrepeated indefinitely in external form.in/cwsa/31/sex#p24</ref>
If you rise high enough, you find yourself at the heart of all things. And what is manifest in this heart can manifest in all things. That is the great secret, the secret of the divine incarnation in an individual form, because in the normal course of things what manifests at the centre is realised in the external form only with the awakening and the response of the will in the individual form. Whereas if the central Will is represented constantly and permanently in an individual being, this individual being can serve as an intermediary between this Will and all beings, and will for them. Everything this individual being perceives and offers in his consciousness to the supreme Will is answered as if it came from each individual being. And if for any reason the individual elements have a more or less conscious and voluntary relation with that representative being, their relation increases the efficacy, the effectiveness of the representative individual; and thus the supreme Action can act in Matter in a much more concrete and permanent manner. <centerref>~https://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-49#p14</centerref>
It is not that it is not possible to keep the love pure, but the two things [love and sex-desire] are so near each other and have been so much twined together in the animal beginnings of the race that it is not easy to keep them altogether separate. In the pure psychic love there is no trace of the sex-desire, but usually the vital affection gets very strongly associated with the psychic which is then mixed though still not sexual; but the vital affection and the vital physical sex-emotion are entirely close to each other, so that at any moment or in any given case one may awake the other. This becomes very strong when the sex-force is strong in an individual as it is in most vitally energetic people. To increase always the force of the psychic, to control the sex-impulse and turn it into the ''ojas'', to turn the love towards the Divine are the true remedies for this difficulty. Seminal force not sexually spent can always be turned into ''ojas''. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/31/sex#p21</ref>==By Aspiration==
= Why is '' Q. How can one become conscious of Divine Love Essentialand an instrument of its expression? =''
Love does not forgive; '' A.''First, to become conscious of anything whatever, you must will it understands and cures. <ref>http://incarnatewordAnd when I say "will it", I don't mean saying one day, "Oh! I would like it very much", then two days later completely forgetting it.in/cwm/16/28-august-1939#p4</ref>
Nothing can resist To will it is a constant, sustained, concentrated aspiration, an almost exclusive occupation of the consciousness. This is the steady action first step. There are many others: a very attentive observation, a very persistent analysis, a very keen discernment of what is pure in the movement and what is not. If you have an imaginative faculty, you may try to imagine and see if your imagination tallies with reality. There are people who believe that it is enough to wake up one day in a particular mood and say, "Ah! How I wish to be conscious of loveDivine Love, how I wish to manifest Divine Love.. It melts all resistances .." Note, I don't know how many millions of times one feels within a little quivering of human instinct and imagines that if one had at one's disposal Divine Love, great things could be accomplished, and one says, "I am going to try and find Divine Love and triumphs over all difficultieswe shall see the result." This is the worst possible way.Because, before having even touched the very beginning of realisation you have spoilt the result. You must take up your search with a purity of aspiration and surrender which in themselves are already difficult to acquire. You must have worked much on yourself only to be ''ready'' to aspire to this Love. If you look at yourself very sincerely, very straight, you will see that as soon as you begin to think of Love it is always your little inner tumult which starts whirling. All that aspires in you wants certain vibrations. It is almost impossible, without being far advanced on the yogic path, to separate the vital essence, the vital vibration from your conception of Love.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/1604/924-novembermarch-19381951#p2p21,p22,p23</ref>
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The true love for the Divine is a self-giving, free of demand, full of submission and surrender; it makes no claim, imposes no condition, strikes no bargain, indulges in no violences of jealousy or pride or anger—for these things are not in its composition. In return the Divine Mother also gives herself, but freely—and this love lie peace and joyrepresents itself in an inner giving—her presence in your mind, your vital, your physical consciousness, her power re-creating you in the divine nature, taking up all the fount movements of all strength your being and directing them towards perfection and fulfilment, her love enveloping you and all realisationcarrying you in its arms Godwards. It is this that you must aspire to feel and possess in all your parts down to the infallible healervery material, the supreme consoler; and here there is no limitation either of time or of completeness. If one truly aspires and gets it is the victor, there ought to be no room for any other claim or for any disappointed desire… Keep your love pure of all selfish claim and desire; you will find that you are getting all the sovereign teacherlove that you can bear and absorb in answer.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0132/decemberthe-right-way-of-16loving-the-1913mother#p3,p4</ref> Love alone can work ==By a Psychic Opening== When the love goes towards the Divine, there is still this ordinary human element in it. There is the call for a return and if the return does not seem to come, the love may sink; there is the self-interest, the demand for the Divine as a giver of all that the human being wants and, if the demands are not acceded to, abhimana against the Divine, loss of faith, loss of fervour. Etc. etc. But the true love for the Divine is in its fundamental nature not of this miraclekind, but psychic and spiritual. The psychic element is the need of the inmost being for self-giving, love opens all doors, penetrates every walladoration, union which can only be fully satisfied by the Divine. The spiritual element is the need of the being for contact, merging, union with its own highest and whole self and source of being and consciousness and bliss, the Divine. These two are two sides of the same thing. The mind, vital, physical can be the supports and recipients of this love, clears every obstaclebut they can be fully that only when they become remoulded into harmony with the psychic and spiritual elements of the being and no longer bring in the lower insistences of the ego.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0129/decemberdivine-love-16psychic-1913love-and-human-love#p1p29</ref>
If the spirit of divine love can enter, the hardness of the way diminishes, the tension is lightened, there is a sweetness and joy even in the core of difficulty and struggle. The indispensable surrender of all our will and works and activities to the Supreme is indeed only perfect and perfectly effective when it is a surrender of love. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p11~</refcenter>
For supramental Each one of you should be able to get into touch with your own psychic being, it is not an inaccessible thing. Your psychic being is there precisely to put you in contact with the divine forces. And if you are in contact with your psychic being, you begin to feel, to have a kind of perception of what Divine Love brings an active ecstasy can be. As I have just said, it is not enough that one morning you wake up saying, "Oh! I would like to be in contact with Divine Love", it is not like that surpasses the void passive peace . If, through a sustained effort, a deep concentration, a great forgetfulness of self, you succeed in coming into touch with your psychic being, you will never dream of thinking, "Oh! I would like to be in contact with Divine Love"—you are in a state in which everything appears to you to be this Divine Love and stillness which nothing else. And yet it is the heaven only a covering, but a covering of a beautiful texture.''So, Divine Love need not be sought and known apart from the liberated Mind psychic being?''No, find your psychic being and does you will understand what divine Love is. Do not try to come into direct contact with divine Love because this will yet again be a vital desire pushing you; you will perhaps not betray be aware of it, but it will be a vital desire.You must make an effort to come into touch with your psychic being, to become aware and free in the deeper greater calm which consciousness of your psychic being, and then, quite naturally, spontaneously, you will know what Divine Love is the beginning of the supramental silence.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2304/the-ascent-of-the24-sacrificemarch-ii1951#p15p24,p25,p26,p27,p28</ref>
Altruism, philanthropy, humanitarianism, service are flowers of the mental consciousness and are at best the mind's cold and pale imitation of the spiritual flame of universalDivineLove. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-i#p20~</refcenter>
The more A psychic fire within must be lit into which all is thrown with the Divine Name upon it. In that fire all the emotions are compelled to cast off their grosser elements and those that are undivine perversions are burned away and the others discard their insufficiencies, till the spirit of largest love and bhakti a stainless divine delight arises out of the flame and surrender grow smoke and frankincense. It is the divine love which so emerges that, extended in inward feeling to the heartDivine in man and all creatures in an active universal equality, will be more potent for the perfectibility of life and a more rapid real instrument than the ineffective mental ideal of brotherhood can ever be. It is this poured out into acts that could alone create a harmony in the world and perfect becomes a true unity between all its creatures; all else strives in vain towards that end so long as Divine Love has not disclosed itself as the evolution heart of the sadhanadelivered manifestation in terrestrial Nature. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3023/the-psychicascent-of-andthe-spiritualsacrifice-realisationsii#p23p12</ref>
Love leads us from the suffering of division into the bliss of perfect union, but without losing that joy of the act of union which is the soul's greatest discovery and for which the life of the cosmos is a long preparation.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/24/love-and-the-triple-path#p5~</refcenter>
All true The soul's turning through love to the Divine must be through a love that is essentially divine, but as an instrument of expression at first is human nature, it takes the forms of human love and bhakti. It is only as the consciousness deepens, heightens and changes that that greater eternal love can grow in it and sacrifice openly transform the human into the divine. But in human love itself there are in their essence Nature's contradiction several kinds of motive-forces. There is a psychic human love which rises from deep within and is the result of the meeting of the primary egoism inner being with that which calls it towards a divine joy and its separative errorunion; it is her attempt , once it becomes aware of itself, something lasting, self-existent, not dependent upon external satisfactions, not capable of diminution by external causes, not self-regarding, not prone to turn from a necessary first fragmentation demand or bargain but giving itself simply and spontaneously, not moved to or broken by misunderstandings, disappointments, strife and anger, but pressing always straight towards a recovered onenessthe inner union. It is this psychic love that is closest to the divine and it is therefore the right and best way of love and bhakti.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2329/thedivine-sacrificelove-thepsychic-triune-pathlove-and-thehuman-lord-of-the-sacrificelove#p2p32</ref> == Why Doesn’t Love Manifest? ==
When the surroundings, circumstances, atmosphere, the way of living and above all the inner attitude are altogether of a low kind, vulgar, gross, egoistic, sordid, love is reluctant to come, that is, it always hesitates to manifest itself and generally does not stay long. A home of beauty must be given for Beauty to stay. I am not speaking of external things—a real house, real furniture and all that—I am speaking of an inner attitude, of something within which is beautiful, noble, harmonious, unselfish. People always complain that love is impermanent and passing. To tell the truth, they should be very grateful that it manifested in them in spite of the sordidness of the house they gave it. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/04/12-may-1951#p3</ref>==By Peace==
For when man speaks of loveThe human form is naturally unable to bear the Divine Love or contain it, he associates because it with an emotional and sentimental weakness. But the divine intensity is itself a creation of self-forgetfulness, the capacity of throwing oneself out entirelyignorance, making no restriction weak and no reservation, as a gift, asking nothing impure. It must be transformed in exchange, this is little known order to human beings. And when be capable of that; it is there unmixed with weak must become strong and sentimental emotionspure. First of all, they find it hard and cold; they cannot recognise in it must have the strength to love the very highest Divine alone and intensest power of love. <ref>http://incarnatewordturn away from all other ties.But besides that a new consciousness must be created in/cwm/03/2-june-1929#p5</ref> Wherever into it—first a human story consciousness of pure and purifying Divine Peace from above which must take hold of love, there has entered even all down to the most physical—then in that peace an atom of increasing inner strength pure love and it unegoistic—then the Divine Light and Knowledge transforming all the consciousness and movements. When this has been allowed to manifest without too much distortiondone, we find a true then the human form can contain the Divine Love and beautiful thingAnanda. And if Till then the touches of the movement does not lastDivine Love and Ananda are usually momentary or brief, they cannot remain. In an impure consciousness the Divine Love if it is because it is not conscious of its own aim came in would create a perturbation and seeking; possibly be attacked by a mixture which would make it has not the knowledge that impossible for it to stay. It is not the union of one being with another therefore that it is seeking after but the union of all beings with the Divinetouches only can come. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/0329/2divine-love-junepsychic-1929love-and-human-love#p10p4</ref>
= How Does Love Manifest?=By Getting Rid of Lower Movements==
Love ... the will to pierce through this limited and Harmony human form of love and all that discover the principle of divine Love which is behind it. Then one is sure to get a divine possibility result. This is better than drying up one's heart. It is perhaps a little more difficult but it is better in every way, for like this, instead of egotistically making others suffer, well, one may leave them quiet in ustheir own movement and only make an effort to transform oneself without imposing one's will on others, which even in ordinary life is a step towards something higher and persists till these things become the major need of our naturea little more harmonious.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2108/the-double-soul19-inseptember-man1956#p10p30</ref>
Love will not be destroyed, but perfected, enlarged to its widest capacity, deepened to its spiritual rapture, the love of God, the love of man, the love of all things as ourselves and as beings and powers of the Divine; a large, universal love, not at all incapable of various relations, will replace the clamant, egoistic, self-regarding love of little joys and griefs and insistent demands afflicted with all the chequered pattern of angers and jealousies and satisfactions, rushings to unity and movements of fatigue, divorce and separation on which we now place so high a value. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/24/the-perfection-of-equality#p8~</refcenter>
At ...one can certainly become conscious of the Divine's Love before one has oneself the universal love—one can become conscious of it by contact with the Divine in oneself. Naturally the consciousness of it should lead to the beginning development of this manifestationa universal love for all. But if he means a love that is divine, not tainted by the lower movements, in then it is true that until there comes the peace, purity , freedom from ego, wideness, light of its originthe universal consciousness which is the basis of the universal love, it is difficult to have a love that is composed of two movementsfree from all the defects, limitations, two complementary poles taints of the urge towards complete onenessordinary human love. On The more one hand there is the supreme power has of attraction and on the other universality the irresistible need for absolute self-givingmore one tends to be freed from these things. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1229/thedivine-love-fourpsychic-austeritieslove-and-thehuman-four-liberationslove#p70p23</ref>
There is a spiritual emotion, a spiritual sense, there is an intermingling of oneness with oneness, of being with being, of consciousness with consciousness, of delight of being with delight of being. There is a joy of intimate separateness in identity, of the relations of love joined with love in a supreme unity, a delight of the many powers, truths, beings of the eternal oneness, of the forms of the Formless; all the play of becoming in the being finds its self-expression upon these powers of the consciousness of the Spirit. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/knowledge-by-identity-and-separative-knowledge#p26~</refcenter>
For The higher Consciousness is a state of pure love but it is also a state of pure openness to divine knowledge. There is no opposition there between these two kindred things; it is the one emotion in us which can be entirely motiveless and self-existent; love need have no other motive than lovemind that makes them separate.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/24/the-motives-of-devotion#p11</ref>
The oneness with best way to get to it is to refuse all in its basis is something self-existent and self-content which does not need expression. When mental agitation when it does express itself as lovecomes, it is something wide also all vital desires and universalturmoils, untroubled and firm even when it is intense. This is in to keep the mind and heart turned as constantly as possible towards the basic cosmic onenessDivine. There is also The love for the surface cosmic consciousness which Divine is an awareness of the play of cosmic forces—here anything may rise, sex also. It is strongest force for doing this part that needs the perfect psychisation, otherwise one cannot even hold, contain and deal with it in the proper way.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2916/divine-love-psychic-love-and19-humanoctober-love1939#p22p3,p4</ref>
"The movement of love is not limited to human beings and it is perhaps less distorted in other worlds than in the human. Look at the flowers and trees. When the sun sets and all becomes silent, sit down for a moment and put yourself into communion with nature, you will feel rising from the earth, from below the roots of the trees, and mounting upward and coursing through their fibres, up to the highest outstretching branches, the aspiration of an intense love and longing,—a longing for something that brings light and gives happiness, for the light that is gone and they wish to have back again. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/05/19-august-1953#p1~</refcenter>
The root You say of the second status your God: "I have loved Him so much and yet He did not remain with me!" But what kind of love have you given Him? In its essence, love is desireone, eager to possess just as consciousness is one; but limited in capacity; the bud of the third manifestation, it is Love which seeks both to possess coloured and differentiated by each individual nature. If you are impure and be possessedegoistic, to receive love in you will become impure and to give itself; the fine flower of the fourthegoistic, narrow, sectarian, its sign of perfectionlimited, we conceive as the pure ambitious and full emergence of the original willpossessive, violent, jealous, the illumined fulfilment of the intermediate desirevulgar, brutal and cruel. Is this the high and deep satisfaction kind of the conscious interchange love that can be offered to God? If you want your love to be worthy of Love by the unification one you love, if you want to enjoy love in its eternal perfection, become perfect, break out of the state limitations of the possessor and possessed in the divine unity your ego, partake of souls which is eternity. And then you will always be close to the foundation object of the supramental existenceyour love, for you will grow into his likeness. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2114/thelove-doublefor-soulthe-in-mandivine#p1p15</ref>
The growth into the third status of life by the principle of association, the growth of love, does not abolish the law of desire, but rather transforms and fulfils it. Love is in its nature the desire to give oneself to others and to receive others in exchange; it is a commerce between being and being. In its life-origin, the law of love is the impulse to realise and fulfil oneself in others and by others, to be enriched by enriching, to possess and be possessed because without being possessed one does not possess oneself utterly.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-ascent-of-life#p9~</refcenter>
== How It is possible by bringing the real soul to the surface to replace the egoistic standards of pleasure and pain by an equal, an all-embracing personal-impersonal delight.The lover of Nature does this when he takes joy in all the things of Nature universally without admitting repulsion or fear or mere liking and disliking, perceiving beauty in that which seems to Love? ==others mean and insignificant, bare and savage, terrible and repellent. The artist and the poet do it when they seek the ''rasa'I feel there ' of the universal from the aesthetic emotion or from the physical line or from the mental form of beauty or from the inner sense and power alike of that from which the ordinary man turns away and of that to which he is no attached by a sense of pleasure. The seeker of knowledge, the God-lover who finds the object of his love everywhere, the spiritual man, the intellectual, the sensuous, the aesthetic all do this in me towards their own fashion and must do it if they would find embracingly the MotherKnowledge, the Beauty, the Joy or the Divinity which they seek. What shall I do to feel this love?''<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-double-soul-in-man#p9</ref>
Become truthful, pure, sincere, straightforward. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/32/the-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p10~</refcenter>
And what There is only one true love—it is the first gesture Divine Love; all other loves are diminutions, limitations and deformations of that Love. Even the love? To give oneself, of the bhakta for his God is a diminution and often is tainted by egoism. But as one tends quite naturally to serve. What is its spontaneousbecome like what one loves, immediatethe bhakta, inevitable movement? To serve. To serve in a joyousif he is sincere, completebegins to become like the Divine whom he adores, total self-givingand thus his love becomes purer and purer. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0916/610-marchjune-19571964#p5p2</ref>
Thus if it be the divine =Bhakti and Love that is the subject of concentration, it is on the essence of the idea of God as Love that the mind should concentrate in such a way that the various manifestations of the divine Love should arise luminously, not only to the thought, but in the heart and being and vision of the sadhaka. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/concentration#p8</ref>=
All loveThe nature of Bhakti is adoration, indeedworship, that self-offering to what is greater than oneself; the nature of love is adoration has a spiritual force behind it, feeling or a seeking for closeness and even when it union. Self-giving is offered ignorantly and to a limited object, something of that splendour appears through the poverty character of both; both are necessary in the rite yoga and each gets its full force when supported by the smallness of its issuesother. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsasabcl/23/thesadhana-ascentthrough-oflove-theand-sacrificedevotion-ii#p3p1</ref>
..it is true that until there comes the peace, purity, freedom from ego, wideness, light of the universal consciousness which is the basis of the universal love, it is difficult to have a love that is free from all the defects, limitations, taints of ordinary human love. The more one has of the universality the more one tends to be freed from these things.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p23~</refcenter>
Keep your All love pure , indeed, that is adoration has a spiritual force behind it, and even when it is offered ignorantly and to a limited object, something of all selfish claim that splendour appears through the poverty of the rite and desirethe smallness of its issues. For love that is worship is at once an aspiration and a preparation: it can bring even within its small limits in the Ignorance a glimpse of a still more or less blind and partial but surprising realisation; you will find for there are moments when it is not we but the One who loves and is loved in us, and even a human passion can be uplifted and glorified by a slight glimpse of this infinite Love and Lover. It is for this reason that you the worship of the god, the worship of the idol, the human magnet or ideal are not to be despised; for these are getting all steps through which the love human race moves towards that you can bear blissful passion and absorb ecstasy of the Infinite which, even in answerlimiting it, they yet represent for our imperfect vision when we have still to use the inferior steps Nature has hewn for our feet and admit the stages of our progress. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/3223/the-right-wayascent-of-lovingthe-thesacrifice-motherii#p4p3</ref>
Let us grant that at first love may only be an extended selfishness and that this aspect of extended selfishness may persist and dominate, as it does still persist and dominate, in higher stages of the evolution: still as mind evolves and more and more finds itself, it comes by the experience of life and love and mutual help to perceive that the natural individual is a minor term of being and exists by the universal. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/21/the-ascent-of-life#p2~</refcenter>
The conscious preservation of individuality along with the consciously accepted necessity and desire of interchange, self-giving and fusion with other individuals, is necessary for the working of the principle of love; for if either is abolished''Q. Sweet Mother, the working of Sri Aurobindo has said that one can pass from human love ceases, whatever may take its place. Fulfilment of love by entire self-immolation, even with an illusion of self-annihilation, is indeed an idea and an impulse in the mental being, but it points to a development beyond this third status of Life.<ref>http://incarnateworddivine Love.in/cwsa/21/the-ascent-of-life#p7</ref>''
Only he who loves can recognise love''A. Those who are incapable '' He was speaking of giving themselves in a sincere human lovemanifesting as Bhakti, will never recognise love anywhereas a force of devotion for the Divine, and he says that at the beginning your love for the more Divine is a very human love with all the characteristics of human love is divine. Yet if you persist and make the necessary effort, that it is not impossible for this human love to say, unselfish, the less they can recognise itbe transformed into divine love through identification with what you love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/1406/divine16-june-love1954#p33p61</ref>
Keep your love pure of all selfish claim =Love and desire; you will find that you are getting all the love that you can bear and absorb in answer.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/divine-love-psychic-love-and-human-love#p25</ref>Bhakti for Krishna=
One does As for Krishna, why not say to Godapproach simply and straight? The simple approach means trust. If you pray, "Show your love for me firsttrust that he hears. If the reply takes long in coming, shower on me trust that he knows and loves and that he is wisest in the experience choice of yourselfthe time. Meanwhile quietly clear the ground, satisfy so that he may not have to trip over stone and jungle when he comes. That is my demandsuggestion and I know what I am saying—for whatever you may say, then I will see whether know very well all human difficulties and struggles and I can love you so long as you deserve itknow of the cure." It That is surely why I press always on the seeker who must seek things that would minimise and shorten the struggles and difficulties,—the psychic turn, faith, perfect and simple confidence and love firstreliance. These, let me remind you, follow are tenets of the questVaishnava yoga. Of course, become impassioned for there is the Sought—then only does the veil move aside other Vaishnava way which swings between yearning and despair—ardent seeking and the Light pangs of viraha. It is that you seem to be seen following and the Face manifest I do not deny that alone one can satisfy arrive by that as one can by almost any way, if followed sincerely. But then those who follow it find a ''rasa''even in ''viraha'', in the absence and the caprice of the soul Divine Lover. Some of them have sung that they have followed after its long sojourn him all their lives but always he has slipped away from their vision and even in that they find a ''rasa''and never cease following. But you find no ''rasa'' in it. So you cannot expect me to approve of that for you. Follow after Krishna by all means, but follow with the desertdetermination to arrive: don't do it with the expectation of failure or admit any possibility of breaking off half-way.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsasabcl/2923/bhaktisadhana-through-yogalove-and-vaishnavismdevotion-iv#p11p15</ref>=More on Love=
If you want your love to be worthy Love is the nature of the one you lovelover, if you want to enjoy courage the nature of the warrior; love in its eternal perfection, become perfect, break out and courage are impersonal and universal forces or formulations of the limitations of your egocosmic Force, partake they are the spirit's powers of eternityits universal being and nature. And then you will always be close to The Person is the object of your loveBeing supporting what is thus impersonal, holding it in himself as his, for you will grow into his likenessnature of self; he is that which is the lover and warrior.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1422/lovethe-for-thegnostic-divinebeing#p15p29</ref>
Love alone can love, love alone can conquer the ego. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p24~</refcenter> You feel lonely because you feel Krishna with Radha is the symbol of the need to be lovedDivine Love. Learn to love without demand, to love just for The flute is the joy call of loving (the most wonderful joy in Divine Love; the world!) and you will never again feel lonelypeacock is victory. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1430/divinegods-lovegoddesses-and-humansemi-divine-lovebeings#p29p13</ref>
The thirst for affection and love is a human need, but it can be quenched only if it turns towards the Divine. As long as it seeks satisfaction in human beings, it will always be disappointed or wounded. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p17~</refcenter>
It Radha is not the love that someone feels for you that can make you happy, it is personification of the absolute love you feel for others that makes you happy: for you receive the love that you give from the Divine, who loves eternally total and unfailingly.<ref>http://incarnateword.integral in/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p38</ref> ...our aim is all parts of the being from the highest spiritual to move towards a by a greater and happier manifestation. That too is a labour of divine Love.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/13/relations-with-persons-outside-thephysical, bringing the absolute self-ashram#p33</ref> Only love can rule over love by enlightening, transforming giving and exalting it. For here too, more than anywhere else, control does not consist of suppression and abolition but of transmutation—a sublime alchemy. This is because, total consecration of all the forces at work in being and calling down into the universe, love is body and the most powerful, material Nature the most irresistiblesupreme Ananda. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwmcwsa/1229/the-fourbhakti-austeritiesyoga-and-the-four-liberationsvaishnavism#p67p61</ref>
So the part of the consciousness which has been struck by this opposition makes a direct appeal to the origin of Love, with an intensity which it would not have without the experience of this refusal. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/10/aphorism-88-89-90-91-92#p7</ref> As for yoga we may add something else: it is as I said in the beginning, the will to pierce through this limited and human form of love and discover the principle of divine Love which is behind it. Then one is sure to get a result. This is better than drying up one's heart. It is perhaps a little more difficult but it is better in every way, for like this, instead of egotistically making others suffer, well, one may leave them quiet in their own movement and only make an effort to transform oneself without imposing one's will on others, which even in ordinary life is a step towards something higher and a little more harmonious. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/19-september-1956#p30~</refcenter>
So, even if your The Divine has an equal love remained as pure as it can be in the manifested worldfor all human beings, it could not keep you in constant contact with but the Divine unless all the rest was transformedobscurity of consciousness of most men prevents them from perceiving this divine love. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwm/0614/14divine-april-1954love#p19p31</ref>
This was what I meant, not anything else. I was stating that a human being, unless he raises himself to the divine heights, is incapable of receiving, appreciating and knowing what divine Love is. Love must cease to be divine to be accepted by man.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/31-october-1956#p11~</refcenter>
Radha is You feel lonely because you feel the personification of the absolute need to be loved. Learn to love for the Divinewithout demand, total and integral in all parts of the being from the highest spiritual to love just for the physical, bringing the absolute self-giving and total consecration joy of all loving (the being and calling down into most wonderful joy in the body world!) and the most material Nature the supreme Anandayou will never again feel lonely. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2914/bhaktidivine-yogalove-and-vaishnavismhuman-love#p61p29</ref>
One has just a tiny little opening, very tiny, at times like a pinhead, and naturally that force rushes in. For it is like an active atmosphere; as soon as there is a possibility of being received, it is received. But this is so for all divine things. They are there, only one does not receive them, for one is closed up, blocked; one is busy with other things most of the time. So, as one is full of oneself, there is no place for anything else. One is filled with things; there is no place for the Divine.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/06/19-may-1954#p12~</refcenter>
To go throughThe thirst for affection and love is a human need, to see what is behind but it can be quenched only if it, not to stop at turns towards the appearanceDivine. As long as it seeks satisfaction in human beings, not to it will always be satisfied with the outer form, to look for the principle which is behind this disappointed or wounded.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/14/divine-love, -and -human-love#p17</ref> It is not be content until one has found the origin of love that someone feels for you that can make you happy, it is the feeling in oneself. Then love you feel for others that makes you happy: for you receive the outer form will crumble of itself and love that you will be in contact with give from the divine Love which is behind all thingsDivine, who loves eternally and unfailingly.<ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/0814/19divine-septemberlove-1956and-human-love#p23p38</ref>
Therefore, the best way when love comes, in whatever form it may be, is to try and pierce through its outer appearance and find the divine principle which is behind and which gives it existence. Naturally, it is full of snares and difficulties, but it is more effective. That is to say, instead of ceasing to love because one loves wrongly, one must cease to love wrongly and want to love well.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwm/08/19-september-1956#p26~</refcenter>
==Role of Psychic True love, that which fulfils and illumines, is not the love one receives but the love one gives. <ref>https://incarnateword.in Channelising Love==/cwm/14/divine-love-and-human-love#p52</ref>
A psychic fire within must be lit into which all is thrown with the Divine Name upon it. In that fire all the emotions are compelled to cast off their grosser elements and those that are undivine perversions are burned away and the others discard their insufficiencies, till the spirit of largest love and a stainless divine delight arises out of the flame and smoke and frankincense. <refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/23/the-ascent-of-the-sacrifice-ii#p12~</refcenter>
===How to Purify ''Q. Are Divine Love and Grace the Mental, Physical to Receive and Give Lovesame thing?===''
''A psychic change is demanded.'' Essentially, a divestiture of all things are the masks of same. In its essence everything is the Ignorancesame, it is a purification phenomenon of the egoistic mental, vital consciousness; but Love can exist without Grace and physical movements that prolong Grace can exist without Love. But for the old inferior human consciousness; each movement all manifestation of love, spiritualised, must depend no longer on mental preference, vital passion or physical craving, but on the recognition Grace is a manifestation of soul by soul,—love restored to its fundamental spiritual and psychic essence with the mindsupreme Love, the vital, the physical as manifesting instruments and elements of that greater onenessinevitably. Only it goes beyond human consciousness.<ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsacwm/2304/the-ascent24-ofmarch-the-sacrifice-ii1951#p2p19,p20</ref>
I should perhaps add one or two things to avoid misapprehensions. First, the love for the Divine of which I speak is not a psychic love only; it is the love of all the being, the vital and vital-physical included,—all are capable of the same self-giving.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/32/the-right-way-of-loving-the-mother#p6~</refcenter>
= Bhakti For God has not set me here merely to think, to philosophise, to weave metaphysical systems, to play with words and Love =syllogisms, but to act, love and know. I must act divinely so that I may become divine in being and deed; I must learn to love God not only in Himself but in all beings, appearances, objects, enjoyments, events, whether men call them good or bad, real or mythical, fortunate or calamitous; and I must know Him with the same divine impartiality and completeness in order that I may come to be like Him, perfect, pure and unlimited—that which all sons of Man must one day be. <ref>https://incarnateword.in/cwsa/12/philosophy#p2</ref>
Love, bhakti, surrender, the psychic opening are the only short cut to the Divine—or can be; for if the love and bhakti are too vital, then there is likely to be a seesaw between ecstatic expectation and viraha, abhimāna, despair, which will make it not a shortcut but a long one, a zigzag, not a straight flight, a whirling round one's own ego instead of a running towards the Divine.<refcenter>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/29/the-central-processes-of-the-sadhana#p18~</refcenter>
There are different kinds of bhakti and Thus if it be the divine Love that which is of the nature subject of love concentration, it is on the strongest and is considered essence of the highest, most intense and ecstatic idea of all. Also God as Love that the mind should concentrate in love itself such a way that form the various manifestations of it which is made of self-giving; surrenderthe divine Love should arise luminously, absolute adorationnot only to the thought, urge towards a selfless union is but in the true kind heart and being and vision of bhakti that is lovethe sadhaka. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2923/bhakti-devotion-worshipconcentration#p26p8</ref>
Selflessness<center>To live, self-givingto love are signs of infinite things, entire faith Love is a glory from eternity's spheres.Abased, disfigured, mocked by baser mightsThat steal his name and confidence, absence of demand shape and desireecstasy, surrender to He is still the Divine Will, love concentrated on the Divine—are some of the main signs [of true love and bhakti]godhead by which all can change. <ref>httphttps://incarnateword.in/cwsa/2934/bhakti-devotion-worshipsatyavan#p28p48,p49</ref></center>
==More on Love==
Love is the nature of the lover, courage the nature of the warrior; love and courage are impersonal and universal forces or formulations of the cosmic Force, they are the spirit's powers of its universal being and nature. The Person is the Being supporting what is thus impersonal, holding it in himself as his, his nature of self; he is that which is the lover and warrior. <ref>http://incarnateword.in/cwsa/22/the-gnostic-being#p29</ref> {|class="wikitable" style= "background-color: #efefff; width: 100%;"
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