Sorry Shannon but dont be mad at him. He saw me at the hair salon, and asked my hairdresser who I was. He has been chatting with someone else he has a strong feeling for. Ever since hes been texting on and off every few days, always busy and tired, he was also away with the girl for 2 weeks vacation. AS I said in my post, you Do Not know this guy. He mentioned meeting up one weekend but that never happened. Thanks so much for the fast reply. I met this guy on a dating app. I met a guy over a year ago at a football game and we hit it off. I met a guy off of a dating website. Grow up. Im not really sure what to think, Oh sorry! He always starts the conversation everyday, with exception to yesterday when I emailed. What are your thoughts? I started living the way I think Ill feel when love hits me with contentment, grace, beauty, and spontaneity. We started walking daily and exchanged phone numbers and all that . Was truthful about my 9 years of cancer survival and he was overjoyed about it. So we start texting and he was texting a lot making me laugh etc. Could and probably is super busy and I dont wanna fault him for that nor get my hopes up. Men dont lose attraction all that easily they simply decide or come to a conclusion that youre not the one. I found that most often its the woman who wants to keep texting. Its far from it. Tell him youre still really interested in getting to know one another and sharing time together. Bp. Considering it's an investment that COULD result in hot sex, it's a pretty valuable use of a dude's time. I think online dating works best for younger people who really want to start a life together. ButI still find myself staring at my phone from time to time. We keep talking and he suggests another date at the end of the first. Now my issue is he did not immediately make plans for us nor ask me when i was free rather we just agreed we would go have dinner. What do you think? He never makes plans to see me and I feel like this is going nowhere I know guys arent big texters, but I dont think its asking too much for a Good Morning text or ANYTHING before 7:30 in the evening. We also had a zoom call last week (currently in different locations) that went really well. 1) If he was that interested in you, he would actually arrange with you to meet in person, particularly as hes so shy to show you his face. As a responsible mom, I dont want them to know Im dating at all until Ive been with someone for at least a couple of months and am reasonably confident theyll be around for a while. I realize your situation is challenging and you may have to adjust for it. Press J to jump to the feed. Texting might just not be his thing, but maybe calling or setting up more dates? Lots of type one guys will say they like you because they want you to make the next move for them which is related to them being a runner and not confident or sure on what comes next or how to do it. We continued speaking after the new year but now I notice a distance with him. Should I cut my losses again? Im not sure what article you read because I didnt really say all that, Candee. But, he continues to text me every day and calls me once or twice a week and when he calls, we are on the phne for 5 hours and he claims that this never happened to him before. At some point I started talking about dating (apps) and asked if he is back in the game to get bit of an idea what he wants. Bp, Okay so I have known this guy since high school and we still live in the same town. (P.s He works 12 hour Night shift and have school after that so i get that hes tired and real busy) He canceled it 2 hours before. Hes either just being a flake or chickening out. I see him maybe once a week, and when we do see each other he is so sweet , he cooks for me, we have nice conversations and we have a great time. I proceeded to give him my cell and we starting texting. The connection and chemistry was obvious to everyone. After our last date, he keeps texting me but stopped asking me out though his texts said he missed me. Ive mirrored his efforts and pulled back as well. Last week he told me he wanted to get to know me better and has now flaked on our plans. I have been texting someone I met on tinder for about 6 weeks now. His statement was I cant this weekend I know that! I like him but I havent developed any feelings for him as I havent met him yet. I met this guy online.. Texting is not dating. After the 2 days, I was going over to LA where he lives for a work flight. Grown up doesnt play games, he texts for a date, not for a chat. I mean, hes seeing someone else so why would he care about my response? Did I miss something? Hi Mechelle. It made me happy. Please just live your life and dont give a bunch of texting any more meaning that it deserves. This has been going for almost 3 weeks and Im really starting to like her And I thought she was in to me . When he calls and asks you out, THAT is what counts. Ask him about his life. Last date he cancelled. Ever since then we have been texting almost everyday for the past two 1/2 weeks. Hugs. Hi, Then he revealed to me that he likes this girl we know in common and me & that girl is actually quite close. He suddenly stopped texting, and now hes back after 4 months. I changed the subject right away by asking him how his birthday was going. I said Im a lady and that we hadnt met. Didnt hear from her but texted her a while after I got home saying hope you got home ok. Up until this summer, he was engaged. (Or whatever feels true to you here.) I mentioned I had the weekend off. This on line dating has been a bear to say the least. If that goes well, then get in the same room with him as soon as possible! We text each other for 2 days straight and then we stops. Bp. But cmon you text me good morning. Sounds great right? That night I was busy and did not text him. This allows you to set up a virtual telephone number. I am continuing to see another guy in the meantime (super casual, just dinners), so not putting all my eggs in one basket, but I dont want to screw this up either. Just like the article says, Stephanie, texting is NOT dating. He asked did I want him to? I felt confused at that moment and was wondering why he would text me everyday. Your input is appreciated THX , EllieI have two major tips: Hi. Is he ultimately looking for the same as you? Only then will you end up in a loving, safe relationship. which to him shows that I am not interested and I dont have any care for him. Just go on with your life and see what he does next, ok? I met a guy via tinder and we started talking for a couple of days before I gave him my number, we text and a week later he came up from his base to see me (hes in the Army). I have been told that men do not like talking on the phone and to accept it. Bp. But I was going through my email account and came across his friends request a few months later and I got curious so I finally accepted his friends request. Then nothing for two days then a call to say he was on a long distance haul with work he drives a delivery van he said he was thinking about coming to see me when he got back but it would be too late that night 9.30 or 10pm and he was exhausted. We both discussed meeting up when he returned and both were looking forward to it. Make it simple, and leave it there. Unfortunately, its just not happening. More than anything, this entire adventure was a lesson in manifesting the love that I hope to find. Too much interaction too soon can set expectations too high. I feel selfish wanting more of his time Which really means seeing him in person. If they arent showing up (for real) they arent really interested. This is a throwaway account. They can be pretty uncomfortable. Dont spend another moment feeling foolish. He said he is a cautious person but it has now 14 weeks of texting and I am getting bored. If you cant do it for him, maybe you can do it for yourself. I gave him my # and he called soon after. Should I ask him about the hidden posts he kept away from me? I have met some men mostly on the internet but nothing happened. Not exactly tranquil in mine either, but thats another story and not nearly what hes going through. Hes one of many out there and, remember, you dont really know him. His response was unbelievably appreciative and thoughtful, calling me Wonder Woman, Super Woman and a beautiful human. Thank you , Hi Rosa. Wish him good luck and tell him to break free. You started it! Hope you had the exception!! Texting stopped for a week and she reached out for some guidance on an assignment, then the texting went back into a friendly/flirty dynamic. I met a guy through Match. We were crazy about each other! Bp. There was another gathering for that friends birthday, for a week or more we talked/joked about things that would happen (fun pranks/ hooking up) but nothing about a date or alone time(didnt see until now). To be honest, there's only one thing you should do when a guy is treating you like crap and hasn't texted you in days or even weeks: delete his number and walk away. That implies consistency, which translates to you knowing you can count on him. A work colleague and I have been on 3 dates in a few months. Ok, Its a bit too intense for me, but wtf? Your wish for that kind of first date is lovely, and does sometimes happen. Perhaps you are the only one he feels relaxed talking to. No thanks. Online Dating, Text Messaging, & Social Media Meanings & How To Do It, We got back together after his 500 mile hike; he rented a car and drove a coupla hundred miles out of his way, exhausted, to see me rather than to his town. I told him we are done and this not something Ill ever entertain and he lost me. I would prefer an invitation for a nice dinner, glass of wine and conversation somewhere quiet with a nice ambience to get to know each other better and see how the chemistry feels! I have a query actually. Find out if hes interested in the same type of relationship as you and truly getting to know you. I tell him about it but we couldnt work it out since it was all at last minute. I met this guy the first time back to July. The Real Reason Men Can Be Hard To Understand. My response: Hi there handsome! After a full semester he invited me out and I was I interested but I can tell his mind was someplace else (he was talking to a girl he ended up going out with a girl for 3 years). It does stress me out a bit that so much could hinge on one silly text and its tone. I somehow feel like Im the one doing the chasing because we only get to text in the mornings before he gets to work and the evenings but he doesnt initiate most of the convo and if he did, itd be something like, how are you? or what are you up to? and then I carry on most of the conversation. Should I try calling to see if he interested in an actuall phone convo. Enjoy, Courtney! Awesome first date last Friday with daily texting since the date. I asked him about it I asked him why he had so many profiles on facebook. Its the only way it can work. Who sends a text like that after standing someone up? We planned to meet twice but he canceelled both times. Just let him know that you like him and are interested in getting to know him better. Then he started writing more and more and I was thrown off guard. I guess Im just wondering if hes even into me at all. I replied once at the office, and we texted forth and back for 10 minutes, until he stopped replying and again, no answer until the next morning 6 am! Ive been talking to this guy on and off for the past 3 months. Time for a very serious conversation and some Grownup decisions to be made. In fact, it's one of the reasons why women find bad boys so attractive. If you dont get a reply its either she isnt interested which on most grounds women are like that; shes busy with work or she has moved on from the date and onto another one.